KittyCat88 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I started dating a guy recently, and we've really hit it off. I really like him and he's great, he's funny and romantic. But, my ex-boyfriend has come back on the scene - friendship groups have merged. We're trying to be 'friends' but I can't help but want him (sexually, mostly). How normal is it to date someone new when you are not entirely over a past relationship? Do the feelings for the ex-partner fade with time? It is fair on the other guy I'm dating, if we decide to move things from dating into a relationship? How does this work? This is the first time I've dated since splitting up with my ex-boyfriend so I don't really know much about dating etiquette. I've been told time and time again 'to get over someone, you gotta get under someone else'. Is this one of those times?? Thank you.
Diezel Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Nope, this isn't fair to the new guy. How would you feel if the new guy was going through the same situation in reverse while he was going out with you? Bet you wouldn't like it, right? 2
Assasda Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 First of all, You dont like the new guy. Seems like youre just going out with him because youre afraid to be lonely. Why not be single for a while 1
SmartDude Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I don't see any problem here. If they guy your dating gets his hopes up, that is his responsibility not yours if it all ends. Some people don't understand sex without attachment...expect criticism. But its a double edged sword. You get your needs met somewhere else and then you have less mental clarity to focus on the complexities of a new emerging relationship. It could be fine or it could be really distracting....
carhill Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Welcome to LS. How does your current dating partner, in general, feel about dating people who are intimately involved with others? An honest meeting of the minds on that topic should shed some light on next steps. Regarding your ex, who ended the relationship, why, and how long did it last prior? How long has it been since it was over? Lastly, general age range? Teens? 20's? 30's? etc.
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