Implant Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I got dumped by txt last week saying it was over wouldn't speak to me . Then after 2 days spoke to her said there was no spark and needed time . If she changes her mind she will txt . So I txt Sunday saying I need closure or will I wait . Got txt back saying she doesn't know and don't hold back for her incase she doesn't . Then I looked backed as this was out blue started saying to people we were just casual after 3 years then hiding her phone said she had night then forgot sh said it . So txt saying look I just need to know if there is someone or just walk . Got mess back saying have you moved on said no. Then came to see me said she's missed me but doesn't know if she wants me. She kissed me then said its wrong and doesn't want to give me hope. Said maybe we could spend day toghther . I could contact her but not mention me or her being a couple or pushing her . I deleted her number and she hasn't been in contact . Am I her back up if she has someone else . I am lost to wait or accost its over .
kane30us Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Forgot that push and pull Sh**. Ignore her and move on. You'll find better. If she really liked AND respected you she wouldn't' be doing this. You'll gain nothing but heartache dating someone like her. Trust me. I've been there!! 1
Chi townD Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I got dumped by txt last week saying it was over wouldn't speak to me . Then after 2 days spoke to her said there was no spark and needed time . If she changes her mind she will txt . So I txt Sunday saying I need closure or will I wait . Got txt back saying she doesn't know and don't hold back for her incase she doesn't . Then I looked backed as this was out blue started saying to people we were just casual after 3 years then hiding her phone said she had night then forgot sh said it . So txt saying look I just need to know if there is someone or just walk . Got mess back saying have you moved on said no. Then came to see me said she's missed me but doesn't know if she wants me. She kissed me then said its wrong and doesn't want to give me hope. Said maybe we could spend day toghther . I could contact her but not mention me or her being a couple or pushing her . I deleted her number and she hasn't been in contact . Am I her back up if she has someone else . I am lost to wait or accost its over . There's someone else. But she's not too sure this other dude is serious about her so she's stringing you along with false hope. Red flags for me was her hiding her phone and her asking you if you've moved on. Hiding her phone is obvious that she hiding something from YOU. And her asking you if you've moved on is her hoping that you have. Because then she could ease her guilt about what she's doing to you! She could say to herself, "Oh look! I've moved on to this other dude and he's getting on with his life! All is well in the universe." I wonder how she would have responded to you saying "No, have you?" 1
Author Implant Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I did ask her she swore thre was no one else . Then said about going out . I know she only came to see me cause I asked her if there was someone else . But then I got was I do miss you but when she kissed me said it was wrong . Said to give her more time no pressure allowed to txt but not about getting back . But last week was def over as soon I ask for closure I get am I seeing someone else . And don't hold back if I do meet anyone then she doesn't want to get my hopes up
Chi townD Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I did ask her she swore thre was no one else . Then said about going out . I know she only came to see me cause I asked her if there was someone else . But then I got was I do miss you but when she kissed me said it was wrong . Said to give her more time no pressure allowed to txt but not about getting back . But last week was def over as soon I ask for closure I get am I seeing someone else . And don't hold back if I do meet anyone then she doesn't want to get my hopes up Okay, really broken English, but I think I see what you're saying. Then YES! There was someone else! She was lying to you to spare your feelings and to stop her from making herself look like the bad guy!
Author Implant Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Thanks for advice Just wish she would just say instead of giving no answers . Apart from don't hold back , space , time and don't wait. Only thing she did say it would be her fault if do meet someone and she wants back . I feel like I can t move on till I know for sure . Why doesn't she defo over .
flitzanu Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 she is just being nice. she will not say "yes there is another person" because she does not want to be mean or feel guilty. she does not want you to wait for her.
Elle1975 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Thanks for advice Just wish she would just say instead of giving no answers . Apart from don't hold back , space , time and don't wait. Only thing she did say it would be her fault if do meet someone and she wants back . I feel like I can t move on till I know for sure . Why doesn't she defo over . You know for sure. You do.. The "don't wait, don't hold back" coupled with diminishing the relationship and hidding her phone? She got someone else. You just won't accept it yet.
Author Implant Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 Yes should face this . Just cause she said missing me and said to go on date maybe . Guess she's stalling me till she knows . Time to face facts it's over . And she's hasn't been in contact . So try move on now 1
David87 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Yes should face this . Just cause she said missing me and said to go on date maybe . Guess she's stalling me till she knows . Time to face facts it's over . And she's hasn't been in contact . So try move on now That's the best thing to do at the moment. Sorry OP.
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