Is she letting me down easy? :(

[Carlos1994]

me and this girl have been talking for about 1 month (shes 17 im 19), We have only seen each other like 5 times but we text each other all time.. she texts me first sometimes and sometimes i text her first. We proper flirt over text.. in person shes a little bit nervous with me but its not like we dont talk when we see each other.. She said she wanted to give things ago but not yet she doesnt want to rush into things.. She tells me things like she wants me to kiss her etc. and then it went completely down hill

 

We went on a two way date ill call her girl A and the other girl Girl B (im best friends with her but my mate things girl b is obsessed with me) I never really had the chance to have a proper conversation with A because B was always kind of there or lurking around and didn't give us any space. Eventually me and B had an argument and i was in a bad mood for the rest of the night and it kind of just went really awkward. I walked her home and gave her a kiss and she kissed me back but it felt like she really didnt want to :/.. thing is she text her mate saying she did want to kiss me but she was just shocked.. this is where it gets confusing..

 

She text me last night saying "she we should just be friends".. but right after she said that she was saying things like "i wanted it to be more" and "i did want it to be more".. She got upset because she felt like she didnt even know me as a mate because when i was annoyed she didnt know what to say to make me feel better and that i could talk to her mate easier than what i could talk to her and she wanted us to be able to be like that and then she was like " i didnt want to kiss you tonight after how it went" even though she said to her mate she did :S

 

She keeps saying it probably wont happen but it might in the future if we knew each other better and i told her to stop leaving doors open if theres no chance and she was like well i dont think anything will happen..

 

I dont understand why she is blowing it off after one bad night because if she truely wanted it to be more surely she would want to try still but she hasnt shes just closed every door.

My mate thinks shes saying nothing will happen so then when we see each other theres not that pressure like there has been and maybe feelings would develop if we got to know each other like mates and then more but i dont think shes looked that far into it.

 

should i just stop talking to her or should i try but back off abit more and see if anything does develop?

Edited July 3, 2014 by Carlos1994

[Baller25]

Let me ask you this, if you were into a girl, even slightly, would you ever tell her "we should just be friends"?

 

She said that to you, I think it should be obvious that she isn't into you. You need to start thinking from the other person's side.

 

Are you British (I think you write with an accent)? If you are then I have bad news for you, British guys forever get let downs from girls.

[Diezel]

Are you British (I think you write with an accent)? If you are then I have bad news for you, British guys forever get let downs from girls.

 

Oh please tell me this is a Bad News Barrett joke and I'll love you forever.

[Assasda]

The whole thing seems weird.

 

Just be friend's with the girl as she says, but if she tries to put the moves on you, dont talk yourself out of it.

[DArtagnan2]

its kind of confusing and all over the place, but my guess is that she said what she did to get your reaction and maybe a sense of what you thought about how the night before went. I say that because in dating a few gals, they would say things like she did, (that she wasn't sure .. that she was wanting or hoping for more but..) and it was more to gauge my feelings then anything else I found out after the fact.

 

I would suggest to just take things as they go. if you two want to hang out, I would suggest to but do it without the obsessive friend. That was obviously a distraction/interference for both of you and led to things getting weird.