Do girls ever make the first moves?

[Griesfootball]

Just wondering. I've always had to make the first moves with girls and I always end up at square one. Just once it would be nice if a woman pursued me or showed interest

[PegNosePete]

Sometimes.

[carhill]

OP, one aspect to consider is the difference in perspective as to what 'first move' means to different people and taking into consideration their respective gender. For example, you asking a lady on a date would be perceived by you to be an obvious first move, so you look for that from a woman or, as you described, obvious 'interest'. She, OTOH, may perceive that being in your space and merely talking with you because she finds you attractive, when she otherwise wouldn't give you the time of day, is a 'first move'. You, OTOH, might perceive that is nothing more than friendly chit-chat.

 

My own anecdotes, having made 'friendly chit-chat' with hundreds of women over the decades, is that none of that, or anything else, ever turned into dates. Dates occurred when I overtly and with intent pursued clear romantic relations with the lady where otherwise there was zero overt action by them. Yes, they might have responded to an OLD contact or agreed to a date when asked, but that was the limit of their proactivity. They 'let' it happen; perhaps that could be construed to be proactive, but IMO it's not.

 

That said, and for comparison, some MW's and otherwise attached ladies did present the appearance of more overt 'first moves', like flirting, touching, grabbing, kissing, etc, so I can use those examples as a comparison of the actions, even if the intent was less than honorable.

 

Ask 100 men, get 100 different answers. After awhile, a man who has experienced this, and not all men do, gets used to being the lonely hunter and such matters harden him and become less meaningful. I would say, by the time I hit my 30's, lack of pursuit, combined with many rejections and sufficient unhealthy interest from MW's, hardened me sufficiently that I no longer cared. You may not be there yet; you may never get there. Our paths are unknown except in retrospect. Tomorrow, your future wife may make the first move on you. Maybe not. It's unknown.

[central]

Sometimes. Far more often in online dating than "real life," when they initiate contact or interest.

[Carlos1994]

contact ive known girls to text lads first but i dont really think that means anything.. :/ most of i have ever known a girl to do is give me a hug other than that ive always had to make the first move.. guess its the lads job

[Assasda]

If youre smooth enough, and if the girl is bold enough. They make the first moves.

 

- A lot of girls make first moves by just being receptive. They may open op their body so that a guy can talk to them, or tell their friend to get a drink so that she can talk to a guy.

 

So its tricky, but some girls first moves are being available, so that the guy can make the first move. - if that makes sense

[Kid_Charlemange]

Sure they do.

 

It's pretty rare for me, but I've seen it. The better looking the guy, the more often it happens. A few buddies of mine have never had to "work" a room at all, in fact.