Superman2024 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 On Sunday I received the best response I've ever had from a woman online. She wrote a long paragraph and said she was definitely interested in getting to know me. She said it's been quite a task finding a great Christian guy and asked me where I went to church. I replied within a couple of hours with a nice message, told her where I attended church, asked where she went, and asked where she likes to travel for fun. She read the message that evening but I never heard back. After a couple of days I sent another message basically saying that it's rare for two Christians like us to find each other and that I'd prefer to communicate by phone. I suggested we exchange numbers if she liked and I left my number. It's been a couple of days and this message hasn't been read even though she's been online multiple times. This is so disappointing since she was exactly the kind of woman I was looking for and she seemed to be interested. Why tell someone you're definitely interested and never respond again? She's very attractive so I'm sure she's getting tons of messages but you'd think she'd still respond after what she told me.
Assasda Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Buck up man. It happens. Just forget about her, and keep on trucking
kolleamm Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Bro, forget online dating. It does not work. It may seem harder to meet women in real life but quite honestly in the real world you will meet women 30X better than those online since you actually have a real world interaction where you know chemistry happens. Did online dating for 5 years and now im completely done with it, it was by far the biggest waste of time ever. Now I'm meeting women in the real world and quite honestly I'm having 100 times better luck at it too, as opposed to to sitting behind a screen and messaging those women who get messages by the minute. Good luck 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 She likely sent very similar messages to several guys, and selected the responses that interested her most. This one wasn't a hit. Keep looking, and don't put too many hopes on one person so early in the game. 1
mortensorchid Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Online dating is ... What it is. Chances are, you meet the person once for a meal / coffee / drinks in a bar, then you part ways and you never hear from that person ever again. The same happens with the interactions you go through on the website itself or text messaging or phone calls. It doesn't matter if you are Christians, nerds, sports enthusiasts, etc. I think people do online dating because it beats doing nothing. And it's fine to interact with people online, it's fine to even talk on the phone or meet the person face to face. But don't hold your breath by any means. It's what it is. You meet, have a nice time, and you never speak a word again. It's what it is.
Author Superman2024 Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I've only been doing OLD for two months and it sure is starting to feel like a waste of time. As a Christian looking for a serious relationship I think the odds are even more against me. It just doesn't seem people are serious online even though their profile gives that impression. I've been getting more used to the ignoring and no responses but this one hurt a little more. Based on what I'm searching for she was definitely a 10 and her response was surprisingly positive. It wasn't a cut and paste message either since it was a specific response to what I had wrote. It's even more puzzling with her expressing how difficult it is to find a great Christian guy and saying she was definitely interested. Well, I did all I could and left it up to her for the next move. I'm not the bar type and I haven't found anyone at my church so it's not easy finding someone IRL either. It seems the best option left is to see if any friends or family know someone interesting.
Zahara Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 This is so disappointing since she was exactly the kind of woman I was looking for and she seemed to be interested. Why, because her profile and pictures said so? You have to tone down your expectations, because you'll keep disappointing yourself if you're putting some person on a pedestal so soon into the game. A profile is just a profile. People can flower it all up and present themselves in a nice little package. Until you meet that said person, spend time and actually get to know them, that sort of statement is not the mindset you want to be in when you OLD.
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