dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I've come to the conclusion that I'm not cut out for dating. I'm tired of all the BS, getting hurt emotionally, going through like 12 girls just to get one that likes me and then I end up ****ing it up. I like myself the way I am and I'm tired of trying to "improve" myself to seem more attractive. I'm just going to spend my early 20s and the rest of my life doing the things I always do (chill with friends and family and work on my career and hobbies). I'm sure my low success rate has something to do with me but honestly I don't care enough to find out but its cool, some of us arnt made for dating which makes things easier on everyone. I figured it was easier to rant here than on facebook or some other social media 3
David87 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Well you'll find a girl when you least expect it. Good thing you didn't post this on FB lol 5
PogoStick Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Send those 12 girls my way. I'll enjoy going through them too. I'll be continuing with all kinds of self-improvement. Cheers! 3
atmandu Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 You have a long way to go... If you said 120, I might feel sorry for you (but probably not, because you will have lived a great life regardless)
kolleamm Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Bro don't worry I'm in the same situation. I'm also having a hard time with women, but hey there is always hope. If you aren't getting the results you want consider working on your body some more, that almost always helps. No one said dating would be easy, it's not a given right for most it's a privilege. I don't care who has what and works how much for it, the bottom line is that some of us just have to work harder, and you know what? Who cares, that's not gonna stop us. And you said 12 girls?????? Dude I have to go through 500 to find a decent one. That's no excuse to cry about it. 3
ascendotum Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Bro don't worry I'm in the same situation. I'm also having a hard time with women, but hey there is always hope. If you aren't getting the results you want consider working on your body some more, that almost always helps. I agree with this, but its kind of like this... guy -> study bb/diet principles and hit the gym and build up your body girl -> just don't overeat and get fat 1
haribogumsnickers Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Don't give up yet just give up on the dunkin doughnuts. 2
mortensorchid Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Sorry you are thinking this. I think it's easier to think this when you are in your 20s rather than nearly 40 like me, because I know more than I did in my 20s (and you will as well). I am also in the same boat, thinking that no matter how you try, how you compromise, how you defy, you will never make any man happy and that they would rather have trash women. I also say "I give up". So you're not alone.
TXGuy Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I've come to the conclusion that I'm not cut out for dating. I'm tired of all the BS, getting hurt emotionally, going through like 12 girls just to get one that likes me and then I end up ****ing it up. I like myself the way I am and I'm tired of trying to "improve" myself to seem more attractive. I'm just going to spend my early 20s and the rest of my life doing the things I always do (chill with friends and family and work on my career and hobbies). I'm sure my low success rate has something to do with me but honestly I don't care enough to find out but its cool, some of us arnt made for dating which makes things easier on everyone. I figured it was easier to rant here than on facebook or some other social media I think you picked the perfect strategy. You are a guy in your early 20s. Your relative sexual market value is pretty low - teens thru mid 20s is the low point for men. It starts to rise in your late 20s and really accelerates in your mid 30s. Your 20s are lean years for dating. Concentrate on your career, interesting hobbies, and fitness now. You will notice a sea change in 10 years. I know it is a long time, but it is worth the wait. 1
Gaeta Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I stopped counting when I went on my 100 coffee-date, and I am still single. In life everything is about how motivated we are. If you are really motivated in accomplishing something you will put in the necessary efforts without calculating how much efforts and cost. That's how I went from a size 24 to 6. Now I do the picking. I have a male friend who's 5'4'' and really skinny. He's a great guy, I mean he is an amazing human being, he can't find a girl. I tell him all the time you lack in height you need to gain in size, hit the gym. His reply: nah, too much work. Well honey! then suffer and be alone. Your choice. My best friend is a pretty woman but has some fat on her stomach. She complains that is why she can't get a boyfriend. I tell her lose it !! stop drinking 1 bottle of wine a day and freakin lose the gut !! She won't, her wine is more important. She made her choice, she picked wine over sex. So you were saying? 3
Imajerk17 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I've come to the conclusion that I'm not cut out for dating. I'm tired of all the BS, getting hurt emotionally, going through like 12 girls just to get one that likes me and then I end up ****ing it up. I like myself the way I am and I'm tired of trying to "improve" myself to seem more attractive. I'm just going to spend my early 20s and the rest of my life doing the things I always do (chill with friends and family and work on my career and hobbies). I'm sure my low success rate has something to do with me but honestly I don't care enough to find out but its cool, some of us arnt made for dating which makes things easier on everyone. I figured it was easier to rant here than on facebook or some other social media That's actually a pretty good thing to do OP. And in the long run, living your life actually will make you more attractive to women. Dating can be discouraging to all of us. You're only in your early 20's, much younger than most of us. You have plenty of time. 2
Author dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I stopped counting when I went on my 100 coffee-date, and I am still single. In life everything is about how motivated we are. If you are really motivated in accomplishing something you will put in the necessary efforts without calculating how much efforts and cost. That's how I went from a size 24 to 6. Now I do the picking. I have a male friend who's 5'4'' and really skinny. He's a great guy, I mean he is an amazing human being, he can't find a girl. I tell him all the time you lack in height you need to gain in size, hit the gym. His reply: nah, too much work. Well honey! then suffer and be alone. Your choice. My best friend is a pretty woman but has some fat on her stomach. She complains that is why she can't get a boyfriend. I tell her lose it !! stop drinking 1 bottle of wine a day and freakin lose the gut !! She won't, her wine is more important. She made her choice, she picked wine over sex. So you were saying? I hit the gym 2 - 3 times a week and I'm starting kickboxing soon so being for is not the problem. I have lots a friends and I'm usually pretty social (lately I've chosen not to be but that's another topic) I like my personality, my friends said I used to be selfish but I have been improving on that by donating and doing food drives. Im comfortable in my own skin and I like my sense of fashion. I don't think I'm the problem at this point. I feel that there a certain guys (alphas) who don't have to work as hard and since I'm not one of them then why bother. Don't get me wrong, I've had women and men tell I'm attractive and what not but I'm not looking for meaningless sex. The best way to win at this "game" called dating is not to play in my opinion.
Author dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I think you picked the perfect strategy. You are a guy in your early 20s. Your relative sexual market value is pretty low - teens thru mid 20s is the low point for men. It starts to rise in your late 20s and really accelerates in your mid 30s. Your 20s are lean years for dating. Concentrate on your career, interesting hobbies, and fitness now. You will notice a sea change in 10 years. I know it is a long time, but it is worth the wait. Thanks man but I shouldn't have to wait untill I'm successful to be with someone, that would only make me think they want my money or assets instead of me but I see what your saying
Author dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Don't give up yet just give up on the dunkin doughnuts. Hahaha I love the donuts but that's just my nick name though
Author dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Bro don't worry I'm in the same situation. I'm also having a hard time with women, but hey there is always hope. If you aren't getting the results you want consider working on your body some more, that almost always helps. No one said dating would be easy, it's not a given right for most it's a privilege. I don't care who has what and works how much for it, the bottom line is that some of us just have to work harder, and you know what? Who cares, that's not gonna stop us. And you said 12 girls?????? Dude I have to go through 500 to find a decent one. That's no excuse to cry about it. **** that dude, if I can't get the ones I want then there's no point. It's easier for some and harder for some and if it's harder for me then **** it
Author dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Sorry you are thinking this. I think it's easier to think this when you are in your 20s rather than nearly 40 like me, because I know more than I did in my 20s (and you will as well). I am also in the same boat, thinking that no matter how you try, how you compromise, how you defy, you will never make any man happy and that they would rather have trash women. I also say "I give up". So you're not alone. I'm a guy lol
Gaeta Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I hit the gym 2 - 3 times a week and I'm starting kickboxing soon so being for is not the problem. I have lots a friends and I'm usually pretty social (lately I've chosen not to be but that's another topic) I like my personality, my friends said I used to be selfish but I have been improving on that by donating and doing food drives. Im comfortable in my own skin and I like my sense of fashion. Good stuff !! I don't think I'm the problem at this point. I feel that there a certain guys (alphas) who don't have to work as hard and since I'm not one of them then why bother. Don't get me wrong, I've had women and men tell I'm attractive and what not but I'm not looking for meaningless sex. The best way to win at this "game" called dating is not to play in my opinion. So what's the problem? You don't want just sex but you envy the alphas that do get casual sex? Don't tell me you think women prefer alpha males, we don't. There is a wide variety of men between alpha and beta. The best man in my eyes is the omega male. Look it up. Alpha males are often arrogant manipulative and abusive.
TXGuy Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Thanks man but I shouldn't have to wait untill I'm successful to be with someone, that would only make me think they want my money or assets instead of me but I see what your saying You can't let it get to you, it is just their nature. In their early to mid twenties, women are attracted to exciting and fun. Around 30 and beyond , they realize they want 'security'. It's just a fact of life. At least you know that right now is as bad as it gets and it will only get better from here. You can participate or not. At least you have the option.
Author dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Good stuff !! So what's the problem? You don't want just sex but you envy the alphas that do get casual sex? Don't tell me you think women prefer alpha males, we don't. There is a wide variety of men between alpha and beta. The best man in my eyes is the omega male. Look it up. Alpha males are often arrogant manipulative and abusive. I always thought did prefer the alphas in all honesty. I'm just tired of all BS that comes with dating. It's probably because I tend to care too much or maybe the lies and decietful things. I'm fine with someone not liking me but I'm not fine with being played with. I feel like it's a common thing in the dating world to play games and hurt people for an ego boost. I like being more direct, don't get me wrong I won't tell a girl I like her upfront but I'll give her attention and go on dates with her.
soccerrprp Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Well, if you are not willing to make changes that you clearly know you need to make, then you'll always have problems dating whether you're in your 20s or older. Have fun and do so w/o a gf if that's what you truly want. To do that is easy. 1
Moonborn Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Whatever changes you make, do it for yourself. You can't place your sense of selfworth in the hands of other people. Improve yourself for yourself, and the women who are right for you will be naturally attracted. Then dating will be easier. Maybe you'll be going out with less girls, but all dates will be worth it. This is my experience at least. I am 26, and I used to feel the same way you do.
Zippy2000 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 You`re still young! Im 40 and my dating pool has somewhat shrunk. I ve started to notice my online dating emails have dried up. Single people at my age find it harder to date. I suggest still date if you can as since you are young you have plenty of time to find out who you are and what you want in a partner. I ve only recently started to feel how you feel like in your post. The pressure started to build when I was at yet ANOTHER wedding reception. I have 3 this year! I was asked to bring a "Plus 1". I ve always attended alone and when I see my relatives they always ask me when I get married and stuff. I get either really embarrassed or my heart just sinks and I feel very sad and alone. After maybe what I consider as done online dating for almost 10 years on and off. I havent found any woman that has given me the time of day. Its the usual first or second date and then the "fade out" or the "there`s no chemistry" reply for not taking things further. Im real tired of it too. The answering emails. The constant logging in and logging out. The first date questions, the its beginning to get repetitive and quite boring. I didnt feel at my age I would resort to online dating. To this end I feel I ve given up on online or in reality dating. At my age its time to bow out, and make it the final curtain call. I think sometimes some people are just mean to be single. 1
Author dunkindoughnuts Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Well, if you are not willing to make changes that you clearly know you need to make, then you'll always have problems dating whether you're in your 20s or older. Have fun and do so w/o a gf if that's what you truly want. To do that is easy. I'm not making anymore changes, there's nothing wrong with me. If women want the losers that excite them then fine, I'm not gonna degrad myself. I'm not saying all of them want douche dirtbag guys but it seems like a majority do. I do stuff for me and by myself all the time if that's what the future holds for me then so be it. I planned on adopting anyway. 3
the tank Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I like your attitude but dont stop dating because of a fews girls . you can learn a lot by dating. Since my break out I am in the same boat of you . Nothing work for me. Being honest seem a turn off for girl.
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