Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I am really upset with a friend of mine. We haven't seen each other in a while and I wanted to tell him about the girl I met. He looked at her pics and laughed. I wanted to know why... He said she looked like a skinny enemic blonde rat and said there must be no sun in NZ (where she's from). I was pissed off. I couldn't believe he would say that. I know he laughed once at my previous girlfriend when she didn't use her straightener and said she looked like goldilocks but he never insulted her to me the way he just did to this girl. So then he told me I should stop going to the pound for girls and date models like he does. The problem is all his girlfriends have been latina or dark complexion girls which I don't like, and way too tall, one was taller than him. I could have mentioned this to him but I was worried I would say something I would regret. He is a vendor for my brother's company so I don't want relationship to sour. What I want to know though is do I actually not have good taste in women? I thought I did but how does one actually know? By I have posted a thread about this friend before. He told me I should lie to my ex and claim to have slept with women before and not to reveal I was a virgin.
leavesonautumn Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Why would it matter if someone doesn't appreciate your taste in women? We all come in different types and personalities and looks. Maybe he is insecure and feels like talking **** about women makes him feel better? It's all based on what you want. Don't try to date women who are generally seen as the "best looking" in the room. Date who is interesting to you and who makes you happy! I've been told I have bad taste in men but don't really understand how that would impact me since I'm attracted to who I'm attracted to. My ex was extremely tall, lanky and geeky looking but I thought he was so sexy. So, who cares what your friend says. He sounds like a jerk anyway, no offence. 3
gaius Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Generally if other guys are criticizing your taste in women unprovoked, especially if they're calling them too thin, then they're jealous. Other guys want you to date women who aren't attractive, makes them feel superior. They aren't going to try and convince you out of that for no reason. Doesn't sound like he even knows what he's talking about if he doesn't like skinny women but thinks he's dating models. 4
carhill Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Personally, I'd be mortified that I was investing my valuable care into a person who would describe another human as a: skinny anemic blonde rat IMO, one's 'taste' in women is two-fold: One, it's what one feels about the choices one makes and, two, it's reflecting on the results of those choices. Up to you to figure out if your taste in women is healthy for you. No one else can live your life. 2
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Great post. To be fair the girl I met recently is very very small built, and his last girlfriend was actually a model. The current one I'm not sure about, don't find her name on Google, but I think she's trying to break in. Totally valid point about the unprovoked attack though. Generally if other guys are criticizing your taste in women unprovoked, especially if they're calling them too thin, then they're jealous. Other guys want you to date women who aren't attractive, makes them feel superior. They aren't going to try and convince you out of that for no reason. Doesn't sound like he even knows what he's talking about if he doesn't like skinny women but thinks he's dating models.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 For guys it is somewhat important what your bros think though. I just wish he hadn't said all that be a use it makes me doubt if what I think is hot is really that hot. Why would it matter if someone doesn't appreciate your taste in women? We all come in different types and personalities and looks. Maybe he is insecure and feels like talking **** about women makes him feel better? It's all based on what you want. Don't try to date women who are generally seen as the "best looking" in the room. Date who is interesting to you and who makes you happy! I've been told I have bad taste in men but don't really understand how that would impact me since I'm attracted to who I'm attracted to. My ex was extremely tall, lanky and geeky looking but I thought he was so sexy. So, who cares what your friend says. He sounds like a jerk anyway, no offence.
leavesonautumn Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 If you care what other guys think in regards to who you date then just date hot girls who you have no connection with and eventually become miserable. Or stop caring what other people think. 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I guess what I also want to know is this: He said that I should stop getting girls from the pound. Do you think this means he thinks my ex wasn't hot either, or is he just referring to the new girl?
gaius Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Great post. To be fair the girl I met recently is very very small built, and his last girlfriend was actually a model. The current one I'm not sure about, don't find her name on Google, but I think she's trying to break in. In one of those catalogs for fat women underwear? 1
xxmusical Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Seriously, I don't think he's really a "friend" so I don't think his comments should matter to you. AND if you really love a girl, you wouldn't care what your friends think of her. Just because the guy thinks his gf's a hot sexy model doesn't mean you need to get one too. And stop choosing girls who are just "hot"; personality should mean something to you...
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 In one of those catalogs for fat women underwear? His girlfriends aren't fat... In fact he even has a specific lb limit they have to be under. But the girl I met... well she's 24 but is built very small and is also 5'1ish... so yeah she's small... I didn't think it was a problem but I could be wrong. She looks very young from a build perspective. I think that's probably what he was referring to. But I liked your post because the fat underwear thing is hilarious. Wish I could have used it as a comeback at the time. 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I really do love this girl... she is really special. But I also thought she was hot. But now I'm doubting my hotness judging abilities. I'm almost afraid to ask my other bro's what they really think... Seriously, I don't think he's really a "friend" so I don't think his comments should matter to you. AND if you really love a girl, you wouldn't care what your friends think of her. Just because the guy thinks his gf's a hot sexy model doesn't mean you need to get one too. And stop choosing girls who are just "hot"; personality should mean something to you...
xxmusical Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 But now I'm doubting my hotness judging abilities. I'm almost afraid to ask my other bro's what they really think... Why oh why is "hotness" such a big deal?!?!?! If you alone think she's the most beautiful girl in the world, isn't that enough? Have some confidence in your own taste. And seriously, everyone has different preferences on what's "hot" and what's not. If you want to find a girl whom all your other "bros" think are hot too, then that'd be pretty much impossible. If your friend has a really hot model gf but crappy personality, while your gf's a nice girl inside-out, are you going to think your friend's gf is "better" just because she's "hotter" and all the other bros think she's hot too? You seem like a nice guy, but try not to be so shallow sometimes... "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." 3
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Trash talk is common in 20 somethings. I don't usually engage in it but I'm used to hearing it. I just didn't expect it to be directed at a girl I like! Personally, I'd be mortified that I was investing my valuable care into a person who would describe another human as a: skinny anemic blonde rat IMO, one's 'taste' in women is two-fold: One, it's what one feels about the choices one makes and, two, it's reflecting on the results of those choices. Up to you to figure out if your taste in women is healthy for you. No one else can live your life.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Thanks. I appreciate it I know looks aren't everything but having a girl your Bro says you picked up at the pound isn't cool Why oh why is "hotness" such a big deal?!?!?! If you alone think she's the most beautiful girl in the world, isn't that enough? Have some confidence in your own taste. And seriously, everyone has different preferences on what's "hot" and what's not. If you want to find a girl whom all your other "bros" think are hot too, then that'd be pretty much impossible. If your friend has a really hot model gf but crappy personality, while your gf's a nice girl inside-out, are you going to think your friend's gf is "better" just because she's "hotter" and all the other bros think she's hot too? You seem like a nice guy, but try not to be so shallow sometimes... "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
violet1 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Different strokes for different folks. Instead of asking if you have good taste in women, you should ask yourself why this other guy's opinion matters. Why do you seek his approval? Do you have self-esteem issues? Seriously though, are you going to date women based on what this guy or your brother thinks? When it comes to dating your opinion of your future partner should be the only one that matters. You should be offended that a so called friend would describe the woman you claim to love that way. I at least hope you defended her and asked him not to speak about her like that. Just remember looks fade. If you're doubting how attractive she is based on what this other dude says than you should let her go. I wish you the best! 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 So if your friends said you got your man at the pound it wouldn't affect you at all? Different strokes for different folks. Instead of asking if you have good taste in women, you should ask yourself why this other guy's opinion matters. Why do you seek his approval? Do you have self-esteem issues? Seriously though, are you going to date women based on what this guy or your brother thinks? When it comes to dating your opinion of your future partner should be the only one that matters. You should be offended that a so called friend would describe the woman you claim to love that way. I at least hope you defended her and asked him not to speak about her like that. Just remember looks fade. If you're doubting how attractive she is based on what this other dude says than you should let her go. I wish you the best!
haribogumsnickers Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 When you say good taste in women, do you mean do you taste good to women? Or which women taste good? The only thing that matters is what's between you and her. 1
violet1 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 So if your friends said you got your man at the pound it wouldn't affect you at all? No, why would it? We all have different tastes. I think that's a good thing. If my husband abused me or treated me badly then my friend's opinions would matter. If their opinion was solely based on his looks then hell no it wouldn't affect me. Friends aren't always long lasting. A good, meaningful romantic relationship can last a life time. If you love her, think she's hot and enjoy her company than that's what should matter. Honestly, if this guy was your true friend he would have withheld making comments like that about someone he knows you care about IMHO.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I totally agree. I actually said what the f### but he just laughed. Totally wrong to say that about a girl your Bro likes. No, why would it? We all have different tastes. I think that's a good thing. If my husband abused me or treated me badly then my friend's opinions would matter. If their opinion was solely based on his looks then hell no it wouldn't affect me. Friends aren't always long lasting. A good, meaningful romantic relationship can last a life time. If you love her, think she's hot and enjoy her company than that's what should matter. Honestly, if this guy was your true friend he would have withheld making comments like that about someone he knows you care about IMHO.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 When you say good taste in women, do you mean do you taste good to women? Or which women taste good? The only thing that matters is what's between you and her. I know there are many aspects to a woman but in this case I mean hotness.
Emilia Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I hear men teasing each other about their tastes all the time. I think as you get older it becomes easier because you become more confident and own your choices.
Targetlock Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 ' Beauty is in the eye of the beholder' indeed this is very true, it means you can see something great about someone that not everyone else can. you date who you want to date, not who others think you should date. 1
man_in_the_box Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 At least we have established you have a bad taste in friends. Who the hell rips on their friends girlfriend appearance? 7
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 At least we have established you have a bad taste in friends. Who the hell rips on their friends girlfriend appearance? She isn't my girlfriend unfortunately. Just a girl I really like. Unless you mean when he laughed at my ex and called her goldilocks.
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