gaius Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 The scariest part of all is when you say you're 'gonna put a baby inside her'. Who even talks like that?! An honest guy! Once in a great while you get hot enough for someone that you get a serious urge to impregnate her. Doesn't mean you lose yourself enough to actually do it though. Good for you Kevin.
Thegreatestthing Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 It probably won't last long term,like she's probably wanting children soon Etc etc but why not I fall in love with boys younger than me all the time. 1
Trimmer Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 An honest guy! Once in a great while you get hot enough for someone that you get a serious urge to impregnate her. Doesn't mean you lose yourself enough to actually do it though. Good for you Kevin. So are you implying that if he actually wanted to do it, that you with think he had lost himself? If that's the case, then you are pretty much in agreement with the rest of us here... And if that were the case - and I don't think we have indications other than that he was serious about that comment - then would you still say "good for you?"
gaius Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 So are you implying that if he actually wanted to do it, that you with think he had lost himself? If that's the case, then you are pretty much in agreement with the rest of us here... And if that were the case - and I don't think we have indications other than that he was serious about that comment - then would you still say "good for you?" Didn't he suggest in one post they were using condoms or something? No, I don't think he would have lost himself if he wanted to do it. That's a natural urge. If cooler heads aren't prevailing and they're actually doing it at this point that might be a cause for concern though. I'd probably still give him a little praise for nabbing one of his mom's friends. That's not the easiest thing in the world to do.
RedRobin Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 (edited) An honest guy! Once in a great while you get hot enough for someone that you get a serious urge to impregnate her. Doesn't mean you lose yourself enough to actually do it though. Yep. A lot of guys say that. Some women confuse that for love too... Unless there is a history of commitment, I reckon it is more like a dog pissing on a tree to claim it as 'his'... In fact, I view some men's desire for a biological kid as little more than that. The ones who truly want to raise a child are ok with adoption too. Let's hope reality kicks in for our OP here... and that sex with condoms will suffice... if at all. As for the age gap... My opinion is that no 21 year old should be serious about a 30+ year old. Male or female. The casual sex crowd will chime in and say it's all fun and games... I disagree. I believe the OP will be much better off pursuing women closer to his own age... and leave the 34 year old to the "could have if I wanted to" pool. Which suffices in the ego stroke world... without all the negative consequences. Edited August 6, 2014 by RedRobin 1
LifeGoesOnMan Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 she wants to bang, that's a given. relationship? not so much. bang her, but don't expect anything else. guessing you haven't put the moves on tho. **** I'd be intimidated too.
LifeGoesOnMan Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 and by your name & your posts, you do not sound like a 21 yr old. & I hope you don't embarrass yourself if you do go for it. maybe this is all in your head lol the big & small.
gaius Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Yep. A lot of guys say that. Some women confuse that for love too... Unless there is a history of commitment, I reckon it is more like a dog pissing on a tree to claim it as 'his'... In fact, I view some men's desire for a biological kid as little more than that. The ones who truly want to raise a child are ok with adoption too. Let's hope reality kicks in for our OP here... and that sex with condoms will suffice... if at all. As for the age gap... My opinion is that no 21 year old should be serious about a 30+ year old. Male or female. The casual sex crowd will chime in and say it's all fun and games... I disagree. I believe the OP will be much better off pursuing women closer to his own age... and leave the 34 year old to the "could have if I wanted to" pool. Which suffices in the ego stroke world... without all the negative consequences. Look who's back. :bunny: This place just doesn't have quite as interesting or intense long running arguments without you around. It's not the same by a long shot. That being said, don't listen to her Kevin. She should be dating a 24 year old herself. You and this friend of your moms seem like a good match.
Tayken Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I am surprised that nobody so far managed to pick up that it's all in the OP's head. I mean he is a 21yr old with delusional thoughts, and taking every little gesture to mean a "come on" "We took a shower"...does that mean you both were in a shower? "She had her head on my shoulder"...so what, big deal
Trimmer Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I am surprised that nobody so far managed to pick up that it's all in the OP's head. I mean he is a 21yr old with delusional thoughts, and taking every little gesture to mean a "come on" "We took a shower"...does that mean you both were in a shower? "She had her head on my shoulder"...so what, big deal Perhaps you only read the opening post. Did you read down the rest of the thread? Ok so we hung out. We kissed. Yeah we did more than kiss and feel eachother.... 2 more weeks and she"ll know if shes pregnant. I strapped up everytime we made love. Well not everytime bcuz we were going a few rounds everynight.
Trimmer Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Didn't he suggest in one post they were using condoms or something? Yes, but the "or something" part is the fact that they weren't using them every time, which means you might as well be punching holes in them.
Author kevinlovesbecky Posted August 22, 2014 Author Posted August 22, 2014 So shes not pregnant. I read everyones reply everydy everyday. I dont know what the hell i was thinking all those times. Its been a month and a half since she left and it kills me. I cut her off again so i can think things thru. I honestly dont know what to do. One reply where the person is listing ages like you will be 30 and her 44 etc got to me. I guess i fell for her hard bcuz shes a great person. Shes posting statuses about how she knows this relationship is ****ing with my head. If only she lived close to me, but she doesnt. Ive even thought about calli.g her and ending things but it would break my heart. She says im like a drug, im addicting, etc but i know if im addicted to her and shes addicted to me than come on now, this cant be good for either of us right? I spoke to her earlier and i opologized for cutting her off again. Is it bad to think that me and her can make this work? I think about her 24/7 i really do. Many friends have said to cut her off, delete texts, pictures, videos. They say to forget about her altogother But i cant. I am actually worried about myself, my sanity. I know her running thru my mind all day everyday, morning, afternoon and night cant be good for me. Ladies dont judge me but i called my bootycall. Friend told me to bang anoter chick and it would make me forget about her. I hung out with my bootycall. Were really good friends. Ive smashed her no problems etc and i coudnt bang her. All i thought about was my cougar. Yeah i said cougar. Bootycall said ur in love and trying to bang me isnt going to help u forget about her. She left. I felt like ****. The last girl i was with was becky(cougar). That was a month and a half ago. I dont look at girls the same. Oh my god plz help me. Im my own worst enemy. What the **** man. Im done ranting to u guys im just gonna smoke this blunt and try to clear my mind. Doesnt really help much. I jyst get fried and think about her more haha.
Gloria25 Posted August 22, 2014 Posted August 22, 2014 Ok, when the OP called out the ILY, I was convinced that a screw was loose... I also was agreeing with the 'hit it and keep it moving' replies, but after this "cougar" replied with a ILY and is also expressing desires for kids, and marriage, and bla, bla...I'm saying RUN FOREST RUN!!! This woman is not only mentally unstable, she is delusional, manipulative, and wants someone she can control. I don't care if she has her own car, home, etc. When she ends up barefoot and preggo, you'll be amazed how much she'll be leaning on you to care for her and the 'new addition' (a baby) to your so-called family. I am not a fan of age gaps. I've dated men older, and while my latest crush is younger than me, I am in no way some goofy 30'something trying to get the fountain of youth through dressing up in teeny-boppers clothing and chasing little boys. My opinion on age gaps - regardless of whether or not the male is older or younger - is that the older person is looking for someone naive that they can manipulate, control, and "impress". Yes, some older people just wanna have fun...and, in my case with my crush I'm not looking for the fountain of youth and quite frankly I dissed his existence in first noticing him around cuz duh, he's younger than me and I'm not into the whole cougar desperation/manipulation games. I guess I just started chatting him up on giving into my hornies... Anywho, this "cougar" is peligro...Danger!!! Stay away, she is mentally unstable and will ruin you. ALSO, if you just want to 'hit it and keep on moving' - which I don't think you can handle - it's so not worth it. She is a friend of the family and when this fizzles, it will get feo...
StanMusial Posted August 22, 2014 Posted August 22, 2014 It would be fun dating a girl who owned her very own aircraft carrier. You could cruise around the world and fly planes off the deck and launch sorties against the communists.
Author kevinlovesbecky Posted February 6, 2015 Author Posted February 6, 2015 Hi so i pisted a few times on here. A few months ago. I had this thing with a lady der than me. Im 21, sane, handsome, hung. Tatts. Shes 34 and beautiful, smart, etc. Im a scorpio and shes a gemini. So i banged her. Many times . shes from central america. Im from philly. Shes my mothers best friends little sister. Yeah shes 34, her sis and my mother are 45 etc. Me and her had this instant connection. When she left i was devastated but i knew it would happen. Ithere came a point in my life where i questioned my sanity. I became secretly obsessed with her. We had chemistry. Sex was great. We both have a high sex drive and could go round after round. We made promises etc. But stopped taljing after a few months. She wished me happy bday, merry christmas and happy new year. Thats about it. She left in july. It kills me that i feel so in live wit her. Ive tried to move on. Dated, made ove to a few females. My mother just told me that she will be back in a few months. I really dont think that its gonna be good. I still have strong feeli.gs for her. If she comes here i know we will **** for a few weeks and i know she loves me but i wouldnt call what i feel for her love, its a ****ing obsession. The past few days shes been emailing me and msging me on a few apps. Ive ignored them all. She did call me while i was out and had some drinks and blunts in me i picked up and talked to her for a few mins. My boy knows how i feel about her. Hes my right hand. He said stop and hamg the **** up, she knew i was at the bar drinking. Knows i party etc. So i told her i had to go and hung up. It broke my heart. She was telling me that i miss u bull**** etc telling me where she wanted to go this time. And that her sister will be staying a few weeks but she will be staying 6 months. Plz help, give me advise. I cant go tthru thisb**** again. Im not over her and if i see her. It will not end well for me. U know why because she doesnt give a **** about me. Shes 34 im 21, i **** her right, i make live to her. Thats whate she wants from me. I cant do this anymore. I dont relly express how i feel but thi **** has me feeling so ****ed up inside..... Maryjane will be my bestfriend right now.
Itspointless Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 Hi Kevin, good to see you back posting here. You have to be firm when she returns. Tell her that you think she is a great lady but that you are not in that way into her anymore. You both are adults and she has to respect your boundaries. If she does not you perhaps can stay with a friend for a while.
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