DazedandConfused8 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 You're this emotionally unstable and uncertain and you might have gotten her pregnant?! Are you $*%(* retarded? 1
todreaminblue Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Ok so we hung out. We kissed. Yeah we did more than kiss and feel eachother. So she said she really×3 liked me i told her i did too. So we took her sister/ MY MOMS FRIEND and her to tje airport. We kissed. We held eachother until she had to board her flight. We promised t k text, talk, skype. We have a common interest in horoscopes and im a scorpio and shes a gemini. We r compatible. So she left and we talked on the phone for hours and skyped alot too. For a weeks. I jumped the gun and i told her i fell in love with her. She replied i know babe me too but i was embarrassed and i didnt talk to her for 2 weeks. She would make statuses saying come back with my initials. She also left voicemails. I shut down. Im mysterious and she loves that. She said she read my life horoscope and knew that i shut down etc. Ok so i love her. She said she has evaluated her past relationships and im very mature. Etc she asked me to put a baby in her. Before she left. So thats why i said i love u and she knew that the whole time i didnt talk to her it was bcuz i felt dumb. It was foolish and childish of me to say it but come on she wants to get married. Wants a kid by me. Keep in mind my mother is fine with us dating. We have her blessing. Her sisters too. So i just need advice on what i should do. She seems very happy, we talk everynight for hours. Time flys when were on the phone or when we skype. I have money. A great job, a streetbike. I go to school. Whats missing is her. She"ll be back in a few months to see me this time alone. And shes staying here 6 months. and when shr leaves i will leave with her for 6 months. Tickets r bought. Moms cool with it. 2 more weeks and she"ll know if shes pregnant. If not. Im definetly going to put a kid inside her for sure. She asked me this bcuz shes 34 and she believes all that bull**** about babys bieng born woth with special needs. Shes beautiful. Im handswe will make one great lookibg kid. Haha. So i need advice. Am i doing the right thing? I want opinions not advice lol. And dont say ur too young or shes just using u bcuz she isnt. We dont care about age. you dont know her really all that well and you have talked about having a child together in fact she is pushing it and you are too...babies are not to cement relationships......that seems a little too soon and a little immature on her behalf.....and yours...your post is a concern and differs from your other posts...... i hav eto ask this and if you could answer honestly......what would you do if you didnt have your mothers blessing or her sisters ro your sisters or you start to cop flak because of the age difference what would you do then.....what would you do if someone asked you is that your mother or your sister...........what would you say to someone in the street who said that to you?..what would you say to your mum if she said i dont agree with this relationship in any way shape or form....its all well and good you have every ones blessing and go aheads.....but what would you do if you didnt six months from now have any ones blessing, what would you say if she said to you .....i think i am really too old for you?.........deb
Omei Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Find someone else... To everyone telling you to go bang your moms bestie well that's really ****ed up imo.
Anela Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Gotta love the hypocrisy.... If a guy does it...the women call him a cradle robber, a creep. a predator, etc.. and call the girl names like "she has daddy issues".or that she is naive and stupid..etc... When they(women) do it...Its all high fives, hats and noisemakers...sheesh.... If I had a dollar for every time a woman said she looks younger than she is, id never work another day in my life..Ive never met a woman in my life that didnt look at least her age or older...Maybe J-Lo or Cindy Crawford...But I never met them.. TFY Usually, there are guys who are quick to point out that they would only want older women for sex, nothing more. 1
Omei Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 OP I know you don't want to hear this but its very likely she's using your youth as a way to entrap you into supporting her she may like you but clearly she doesn't have a head, nor do you, who after just getting together asks a man that just got out of his teens to get her pregnant. Does this not ring anything to you? Do you really believe this woman is of clear thinking? Do you really want to be with 1 woman taking on all the responsiblys of a newborn and whatever ither children she has for the rest of her life? How is it that your mother is okay with this? That also is disturbing, I wonder how much you actually shared with her because no sane parent would be okay with letting their newly adulted son to have a love relationship and child with her friend. I think you're going to do it all anyway, I think that you will by the time you near your 30s be overwhelmed, tired, wondering what its like to he with a young beautiful girl, trapped and unhappy. This whole thing to me says doom. And while you feel like an adult you certainly arnt thinking like one. Good luck
Itspointless Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Moms cool with it. 2 more weeks and she"ll know if shes pregnant. If not. Im definetly going to put a kid inside her for sure. Please stop yourself if not for yourself than for the life you want to bring on this earth. I do not know you and your family, but I wonder if there are other reasons she could be doing this.
Omei Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 PS no your not doing the right thing and your life is about to be messed up forever if she's pregnant. And sorry but shame on your mother? Really? Has she no boundies at all? I gather that your family and those around you dont have much moral sense, and that's why in your head this is all okay, the people around you even your mother is okay with her 21 year old son getting her friend pregnant that's is NOT normal for a family to accept so easy I hope you know that. 1
RonaldS Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 No 34 year old looks 25, I think the blood being sent to your eyes is being rerouted elsewhere — I think that applies to your brain as well brah. It sounds like she's just trying to befriend her friend's son and your immature ass is misunderstanding that completely. Add her on Facebook and see what happens. You need her to call all the shots until it's blatantly obvious that she's actually into a guy that can't even spell career. It's because of the all the rom-coms and lack of self-control. I like posts like this that compeltely ignore fact and reality to generate a story that makes the OP look bad. You must be a Fox News fan. 34 women DO NOT rest their head on the shoulder and hands in the lap of their friend's 21 year old son unless they are trying to get the D. Pretty much the end if the discussion, really. Also, there are plenty of women who are 34 who look 25. They're called 'women who take care of themselves'. Some of them just look young anyway. And even if they don't look EXACTLY like a 25 year old, they're close enough so that you don't look at them and think that she's not in her 20s. You come off as a little jealous. 1
RonaldS Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I see the plot has thickened somewhat. OP....dude, do yourself a favor and don't impregnate the cougar. Seriously. You're setting yourself up, and a child up, for what will probably be an effed up life. Think about your future. Yeah, you probably think you love her, but I doubt you do. And eventually you'll get bored of each other (happens). Now, do you want to be tied to this girl forever. What about when you're 45 and priming and she's....wait for it....almost 60? Come on man.....think. 2
Author kevinlovesbecky Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 you dont know her really all that well and you have talked about having a child together in fact she is pushing it and you are too...babies are not to cement relationships......that seems a little too soon and a little immature on her behalf.....and yours...your post is a concern and differs from your other posts...... i hav eto ask this and if you could answer honestly......what would you do if you didnt have your mothers blessing or her sisters ro your sisters or you start to cop flak because of the age difference what would you do then.....what would you do if someone asked you is that your mother or your sister...........what would you say to someone in the street who said that to you?..what would you say to your mum if she said i dont agree with this relationship in any way shape or form....its all well and good you have every ones blessing and go aheads.....but what would you do if you didnt six months from now have any ones blessing, what would you say if she said to you .....i think i am really too old for you?.........deb I think this is what i really needed to hear. I mean shes not preggo. My mom is cool with it bcuz she knows weve had a thing for each other ever since i met her. I know her well. Ive known her a few years. She has her own everyt g ing. She works in human resources. Nice car, house. She has no kids. I strapped up everytime we made love. Well not everytime bcuz we were going a few rounds everynight. And to the dickhead that says i cant get any chicks other than her your a lame. I caug h t feelings for her and thats that. And dont bash my mom. I guess i have mother issues at its finest lol. I have to get my thoughts straight damn. We know everything about eachother, we accept eachothers flaws. Ive had beautiful girlfriends but i need a mature moman. Girls my age arent cutting it for me. And shes not trying to tske my youth. And no she doesnt have a secret agenda. Sometimes i wosh i could go back to that night when she came at me. We were alone at my house and daaamn!! Im having all these thoughts........ 1
RonaldS Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Dude, if you let this cougar talk you into getting her pregnant, I will personally fly to Philly and buttersock you in the sack. 2
bubbaganoosh Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 She's 34 and your 21. She's 44 and your 31. She's 54 and your 41. She's 64 and your 51 and looking for a younger woman like 49 or 50. Friend your what we called Pu$$y whipped with her. Sorry if i hurt your feelings but if it's a fling you want, well you got it along with some great stories to tell your friends but if you want something permanent, then lets start over. 34 21. 44 31. 54 41. 64 51.
chphan Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Ok so we hung out. We kissed. Yeah we did more than kiss and feel eachother. So she said she really×3 liked me i told her i did too. So we took her sister/ MY MOMS FRIEND and her to tje airport. We kissed. We held eachother until she had to board her flight. We promised t k text, talk, skype. We have a common interest in horoscopes and im a scorpio and shes a gemini. We r compatible. So she left and we talked on the phone for hours and skyped alot too. For a weeks. I jumped the gun and i told her i fell in love with her. She replied i know babe me too but i was embarrassed and i didnt talk to her for 2 weeks. She would make statuses saying come back with my initials. She also left voicemails. I shut down. Im mysterious and she loves that. She said she read my life horoscope and knew that i shut down etc. Ok so i love her. She said she has evaluated her past relationships and im very mature. Etc she asked me to put a baby in her. Before she left. So thats why i said i love u and she knew that the whole time i didnt talk to her it was bcuz i felt dumb. It was foolish and childish of me to say it but come on she wants to get married. Wants a kid by me. Keep in mind my mother is fine with us dating. We have her blessing. Her sisters too. So i just need advice on what i should do. She seems very happy, we talk everynight for hours. Time flys when were on the phone or when we skype. I have money. A great job, a streetbike. I go to school. Whats missing is her. She"ll be back in a few months to see me this time alone. And shes staying here 6 months. and when shr leaves i will leave with her for 6 months. Tickets r bought. Moms cool with it. 2 more weeks and she"ll know if shes pregnant. If not. Im definetly going to put a kid inside her for sure. She asked me this bcuz shes 34 and she believes all that bull**** about babys bieng born woth with special needs. Shes beautiful. Im handswe will make one great lookibg kid. Haha. So i need advice. Am i doing the right thing? I want opinions not advice lol. And dont say ur too young or shes just using u bcuz she isnt. We dont care about age. Oh wow. Just wow. A part of me just died reading that. This is the kind of stuff I see on the trashy daytime talk shows back in the 80s to mid 90s when I use to watch tv. Why do I get the feeling you are going to be invited to a Jerry Springer show sometime in the future? You, your mom, and everyone involve is mess up. There's no doubt about it.
Clockwork Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I lost my virginity to a woman that was 32. I was 20. I was infatuated with her. I thought there was no other woman in the world. I used to literally stand her up naked in front of a mirror and think she looked like a supermodel. She wasn't a supermodel. It isn't as if she didn't have things in the right place, because she did, but this was just my eyes playing tricks on me. She was a single mother. I was 20, think about that, 20. Was I thinking about my future? Was I thinking about having children of my own? Was I thinking about a woman I could actually introduce my parents to? Not really. I just thoroughly enjoyed the sex. She was wild, she was dominating. She was also kinky. She'd have sex in my van with me - in the front seat - in a parking lot. A couple of times in broad daylight. I'm not kidding. You think the kinkiness like that wouldn't keep a horny 20 year old crawling back? It sure did. That being said, I wish the 35 year old version of myself could slap this kid. Because I wasn't thinking about my life 10 years down the road, I was wasting it with a woman I had no future with. Now I get it, an older woman is hot, it's a fantasy come true. But I'd be wary of thinking it's a long term thing. She'll be 50 when you're 37. That's a big gap there. Just saying. If she starts talking about how much she loved the show "Friends" just play along........................ Seriously man, think things over for your own benefit. Put the shoe on her foot. Why would a 34 year old woman want a 21 year old guy if it is anything but short term?
Omei Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Unfortunately since the biggest role models and people close to him in his life are onboard for this our voices I feel will not leave a resonating effect over his parental figures giving this a gaint okay and that's a shame. OP I feel that you are going to do this anyway because of the fact there's no grounding of "this is not right" from someone close to you and you're gonna stick with this and learn a very hard lesson the hard way.
ja123 Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Don't impregnate her, OP. Age aside, it's not healthy that someone would ask you to get her pregnant before a proper relationship with a solid future is established. Don't get involved. Let her go to a sperm bank or local bar. Run! 1
Noproblem Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 No 34 year old looks 25, I think the blood being sent to your eyes is being rerouted elsewhere — I think that applies to your brain as well It's because of the all the rom-coms and lack of self-control. Oh please stop assuming that My cousin is 35 and people think she is actually 18! If you take care of your body, No junk food, no drinking every night, no sun bath, exercise, relaxed! You will look young even when you hit your 50s
Noproblem Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 (edited) Guys who are 40s marry girls who are 20s all the time, you have no problem with that. But, the other way around is a disaster! Why this double standards, i don't know! Op, you are still young, this is not love because you don't really know her. You just like how she looks. Maybe there's a chance if you were like 25 and more stable and experienced! but right now this is just a physical attraction. I am not saying it's wrong to be with her, but I am saying you are not thinking clearly right now. Do what makes you happy, not what makes you later sad. You are too young to be a father or anything serious. Edited August 5, 2014 by Noproblem 1
ASG Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 OP I know you don't want to hear this but its very likely she's using your youth as a way to entrap you into supporting her she may like you but clearly she doesn't have a head, nor do you, who after just getting together asks a man that just got out of his teens to get her pregnant. Does this not ring anything to you? Do you really believe this woman is of clear thinking? Do you really want to be with 1 woman taking on all the responsiblys of a newborn and whatever ither children she has for the rest of her life? How is it that your mother is okay with this? That also is disturbing, I wonder how much you actually shared with her because no sane parent would be okay with letting their newly adulted son to have a love relationship and child with her friend. I think you're going to do it all anyway, I think that you will by the time you near your 30s be overwhelmed, tired, wondering what its like to he with a young beautiful girl, trapped and unhappy. This whole thing to me says doom. And while you feel like an adult you certainly arnt thinking like one. Good luck Well, maybe ok is a stretch, but I know my mom woukd have said nothing about any relariobship I might have in my mid 20s. She might be picking her battles and keeping her mouth shut in this situation. That would probably be my stance. My mom had no say in my life at that age. Most parents don't. They might give advice, but not if they feel it's a lost battle. Then they'll be there to pick up the pieces. Maybe this is what's happening with OPs mom. Because this talk of putting babies inside is very very creepy...
WrinkledForehead Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I'm in a relationship with a large age gap and I try not to judge these things... I'm a woman kissing 30. I, for the life of me, cannot see what she would want with a 21 year old unless she's just in it for the sex. Perhaps it's because I'm marriage and LTR minded. There is nothing that a guy under 30 could offer me. Different strokes for different folks! Just go into it with the thought in mind that is could be purely physical on her part, some sort of affirmation that she's still got "it." I dunno. I just have a hard time with perspective on this one and usually I'm extremely open minded. Best of luck, OP.
Omei Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Well, maybe ok is a stretch, but I know my mom woukd have said nothing about any relariobship I might have in my mid 20s. She might be picking her battles and keeping her mouth shut in this situation. That would probably be my stance. My mom had no say in my life at that age. Most parents don't. They might give advice, but not if they feel it's a lost battle. Then they'll be there to pick up the pieces. Maybe this is what's happening with OPs mom. Because this talk of putting babies inside is very very creepy... Yeah I know at his age everything is his choice and all that being an adult but the fact that his mother isn't strongly opinionated about this is what is weird.
Itspointless Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Yeah I know at his age everything is his choice and all that being an adult but the fact that his mother isn't strongly opinionated about this is what is weird.Well he wrote, I quote: 'Keep in mind my mother is fine with us dating. We have her blessing. Her sisters too.' This sentence speaks only about dating her friends little sister, but nothing about his mother knowing about making this little sister pregnant. 1
preraph Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 You know what? I think all she wanted all along was to get pregnant because she felt her clock was ticking and that she picked you because she figures you're dumb enough to do it and solvent enough to pay the child support for the next 18 years. If your mom knows she is trying to get pregnant and thinks that's okay, then she is messed up. Once you have a kid, you are stuck in a financial hurricane from now on. It's not for the young and uninitiated. 2
HappyLove Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 The age thing doesn't even matter. What's scary is you've been seeing this woman for a month, you don't even live close by so you aren't dating frequently. The scariest part of all is when you say you're 'gonna put a baby inside her'. Who even talks like that?! She found someone who is dumb enough to throw his life away. How about you prove everyone wrong and date her for a year, if you even last that long. Doesn't your kid deserve better than getting some woman pregnant you've only known for a month? 4
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