Eternal Sunshine Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Sadly zero. But then, I did think I was "in love" a few times, now looking back on it - it wasn't even close to love. I finally have a solid sense of who I am now and I know what I want and need, so in a sense I am pickier than ever.
Imported Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I have always been able to let go and actually move on. The first few times was pretty rough for me though. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I have always been able to let go and actually move on. The first few times was pretty rough for me though. Same here. Moving on was always easy. That's why I assume I never really loved anyone.
Eggplant Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 How is that you don't feel that you're over them yet? ...Not over any of em? At some point the brain has to file the issue after a lot of time and distance has piled up and immediate issues keep demanding attention. Yet it's there, forever, under the surface. 1
mb88 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I think it depends on your conception of 'love' and has it grown or changed throughout your life time? (1) 14 Years old - infatuated with the girl next door. Kissed her. Asked her out. Rejection. It hurt. (2) 17 Years old - infatuated (beyond words, beyond comprehension and beyond explanation) with a girl in school - whom I always continued to be intensely attracted to - became friends and she eventually rejected me. That hurt a lot. (3) 18 Years old - really really liked a girl I met after I started college. Got to know her, became very close friends. We became an item for a short time. Rejection. Hurt a bit. (4) 19 Years old - started to fall for a very close friend (whom I was never attracted to) and became very close. Her feelings were reciprocated. Shortly after - dumped for ex-boyfriend. (5) 19 Years old - Met another girl in college, attractive and intelligent and we got on great. She asked me out. Dated briefly before she dumped me. Hurt a teeny bit. (6) 20 Years old - strangely, just fell into a relationship with a nice girl I met at the gym one day. Wasn't really attracted to her but she was just nice and genuine. Ended up having an extremely serious and intense relationship for about 3 and half years. I broke up with her because I ''fell out of love'' and we grew apart. It took me nine months to recover from the heartbreak and realise it was what's known as GIGS and this caused me to end it. On reflection, 6 years later, I was never attracted to her like I was to other women, and we lacked a connection on some level. (7) 25 Years old - Faith is not without a sense of irony. Girl number (2) [above!!] and I hit it off in a bar one night and after 4 months of dating decided to enter a relationship. The first 6 months were intense and I have never felt such a strong physical and intimate connection with anyone as I did with her. About 4 weeks ago, after a very intense year in work, and a bout of depression, anxiety and over-analysis on my behalf - I broke up with her: why? I actually don't know. And here I am. Which one's have I loved? In a way, all of them. But in very different ways. Girl [6] was a love that was intensely compassionate and caring (perhaps too much for my age and maturity at the time) but it lacked the consistent physical intimacy and attraction. Girl [7] was a love that was a very deep in romantic, physical and intimate involvement but I didn't open up enough in other areas and allow love to flourish. That's what 12 years and 7 girls has taught me. Love is effort. Love is self-sacrifice. Love is the desire to understand your partner. Love is the willingness to be vulnerable in yourself. Love is as love does. Love is a choice.
RonaldS Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I have loved 3 times....my daughter, my first son and my second son. Everything else was a joke.
Candy_Pants Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Romantic, reciprocated love? Twice. I'm generally quick to infatuation, which masquerades itself as love quite easily. And men have often been infatuated with me for their own reasons (which rarely have anything to do with the object of said infatuation). I'm 27.
Robert Z Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 At 55, four times, with the forth being my current sugar baby. I was engaged twice and married once. I fell more in love with my sb than any woman I have ever known.
Allumere Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Had this "of a lifetime" thing how to do with how good this person was for you? Interesting question. I think that depends on how one would define that? Personality wise I would say yes in that he was simply a very gentle easy going type. He didn't sweat the small stuff or get overwhelmed where as I can get stressed out so without really doing anything he was calming. He wasn't remotely aggressive or someone that would yell or get in a fight but not because he was weak or wimpy. He could be direct and confrontational if he saw something wrong but not be classless about it. This carried through in his career and business dealings. We both are affectionate people so our love language was touch..that to me is like air. Is he a perfect person, of course not. Even though IMHO I think he handled the relationship wrong (not because he dumped me but because he dated me at all) I understand how emotions, chemistry etc. cloud judgement and even after years on this earth and relationship experience folks don't always know what they want. Ultimately I respect him and maybe that was the key from the beginning.
2.50 a gallon Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Retired Too many times to count IN LOVE: 4 times First love, high school, it was real to me, had her religious parents not stood in our way, who knows how long it would have lasted. From me she got the courage, to later rebel and become her own person, became a stewardess and later had a long term marriage with a pilot. Ex Fiance: This was the real McCoy, we were both totally in love, but her sister would not except me as a non hispanic. To this day, she still has a little bit of my heart Ex Wife: Nothing there Current live in Girl friend of almost 19 years. This is it, I need to look no further There were several near misses, the love was there, but too many other things, held us back, put up walls we could not bring down, such as baggage from ExW
Giggle Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 34.. Very infatuated at 15 with one guy for years and years Met my ex at 17, married him at 20, divorced at 27.. I still love him Infatuated with soon to be ex at 29, fell in love, but as completely over him as I feel and how short lived it was.. I was in love with who he presented himself to be and not who he was. Deep infatuation at 33 with a MM, we're friends but him I also still feel a lot for despite deep infatuation this year with my bf. Its different.
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 One. We sort of dated. Or something. Probably meant more to me than to her. I'm 26.
quankanne Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 romantically? In love once with a guy in college; found the real thing with the guy I married familially – my mother, my best guy friends who are both like brothers, and a couple of the nieces and nephews. not bad for 48, IMO
FrostBlaze Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Just once and it was rather one sided, never found anyone else before or after it. I was 23.
Leigh 87 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Three times. Once at age 18 with my long term bf. We grew apart. Again with Andrew who wasn't in love with me back but he did love me deeply just not IN love.. so NOT a reciprocated love..... Again with current bf but it is intense and actually reciprocated. Last love is true love in my eyes as he loves me more than he loves himself and vice versa.
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