marcjb Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 - My first longterm girlfriend when I was 17-20. - My last relationship. I was engaged to her, and I am doubting that I will ever have a connection with someone else that was as strong. We were together for 3 years. - I'm 31 now. 1
CarrieT Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 I'm 50 Eight that I had relationships with - probably a dozen total. 1
todreaminblue Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 i have loved many and love many will continue to love many....not all intimate partners but family and friends,strangers even... i have been in love and had that love reciprocated three times.....i am 45......deb 2
thefooloftheyear Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Ive never known true and unconditional love ....that is until my baby girl was born... TFY 8
Weezy1973 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I'm 41. I've been madly in love 2x. But I've genuinely loved every one of my girlfriends (6 in total). 2
Author Doubtsforever Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Ive never known true and unconditional love ....that is until my baby girl was born... TFY I expect to be able to live that experience some day. Lucky you! 1
Author Doubtsforever Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I'm 41. I've been madly in love 2x. But I've genuinely loved every one of my girlfriends (6 in total). That is great. I know a lot of people who have been in relationships without giving any love. Your answer gives me hope BTW! I have loved twice.
dichotomy Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Define "really loved". Had a number say they loved me - but we did not share the same definition Kudos for the perfect example of a love for a child from thefooloftheyear. 3
gaius Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Really loved, as in cherished to the point where I'd probably sacrifice myself for them even if nobody else was watching, three so far. One per decade on average seems about right. 5
SammySammy Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Three times. First girlfriend, my wife and latest fiancee. 46. 1
tuxedo cat Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 30 years old. Many boyfriends and only one whom I loved, although our relationship was built on a rotten foundation. Have I ever truly loved somebody in a mature, fully reciprocated way? No. 1
Eggplant Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 3 times. The first when I was 11 years old. Never told him how I felt. The second time when I was 18 years old. Also never told him how I felt + he had a girlfriend + he turned out gay. The third time when I was 24. Now 27. Haven't gotten over any of them, really. 1
carhill Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 How many times have you really loved someone? Using my definition, two-fold, where one, a particular person rises from the page of the billions to become special and, two, they occupy my thoughts at random times when not actually engaged with them, I'd have to put the number at under ten and closer to five. I recently added one more, mainly due to the clarity which came from her death. And what's your current age? <<-------- see over there for demographic information 1
TigerLilly78 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 This is an interesting question Op and makes one think and when you do that makes you reflect and realize that love is a strange thing. And the ones who you would automatically think to add to that list are really not at the top surprisingly. To be honest ive had my share of romantic relationships ive been told I love you many times and I said it back of course. How ever now looking back with a bit better idea of what it truly means to me anyways to "love" some one I will say I only ever felt it twice once it was one sided I was head over heels for this guy and he was head over heels for anything in well heels..lol The second is a work in progress and we will see how it plays out im hopeing a little better then the 1st..im in my late 30s btw 2
Charlie Harper Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I love tons of people, I adore my sons..heck I even love my ex wife, but I would never get back with her... Hate is like poison...you should avoid it and learn to let go. Now I am 50 and I have been blindly and stupidly, crazy in love 5 times, it was so worth it. 1
Allumere Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 3 times, all very different of course because each entered with different experiences etc. The last was "of a lifetime" (so far) variety as I found an unexplainable quality that I had always thought was missing in the others but found in this one. I am 45. 1
Author Doubtsforever Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 3 times. The first when I was 11 years old. Never told him how I felt. The second time when I was 18 years old. Also never told him how I felt + he had a girlfriend + he turned out gay. The third time when I was 24. Now 27. Haven't gotten over any of them, really. How is that you don't feel that you're over them yet? ...Not over any of em?
Author Doubtsforever Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 3 times, all very different of course because each entered with different experiences etc. The last was "of a lifetime" (so far) variety as I found an unexplainable quality that I had always thought was missing in the others but found in this one. I am 45. Had this "of a lifetime" thing how to do with how good this person was for you?
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Aged 33 How many times have I REALLY loved someone? I loved a handful of women, and on some level or to some degree, maybe even nearly all of them. I'm a pretty emotional guy whether I show it or admit it or not, and I always care about the women in my life quite a great deal regardless of the type of relationship I have with them, but of course not always to the point of REALLY loving them on that level. So I assume you're referring to something a bit greater than that, and I'd say there were about 3 whom I really loved, to the point where I felt I changed because of those relationships and how much they affected me as a result. But on the same hand looking back, some of those loves were created out of different situations...some out of dysfunction, some as a growing and unsuspecting feeling, and others by complete surprise, having that kindred spirit type of feeling. In the bigger picture, I know I can experience something greater than that because I'm much more aware of myself than I ever had been in the past, and I believe self-awareness is what leads you to being able to ultimately love to the fullest. And it's not because of what those women lacked or what was necessarily even missing, but because of what I lacked at the time within myself to give...I didn't have the ability to give my heart and soul to anyone, couldn't reciprocate what they were willing to offer me...and even today that's as frightening a concept for me as it is exciting, and although I'm a very rational/pragmatic man I've always held onto that tiny glimmer of hopeless romantic within me, so it's still something I look forward to having, at least someday. And that takes two people working towards the same goal and on the same page IMO, I'm not one of those people who just throw themselves at anyone and create this one-sided, one-dimensional love affair based on how I feel, whom If I like a lot or "love", I will force it because I believe if I do I will therefore create some great out of..for me it's about trust, reciprocation and what develops over time together as a unified romantic couple, but also something very powerful that sustains throughout the relationship..so it's not going to be this overnight thing for me, I'm ultimately not looking for something that is going to just fade once the whirlwind/honeymoon period is over and then move onto the next for that ultimate love experience, "hoping" it leads to something bigger...that's not the "love" that I'm talking about personally. But if you were ask me about love years ago, my answer would have been different, I thought love was something else than what I see it as today. So this is a really difficult question to answer directly and plainly within the context, because there's so many layers to it for myself. But then again, I'm a complicated guy. 4
Author Doubtsforever Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Aged 33 How many times have I REALLY loved someone? I loved a handful of women, and on some level or to some degree, maybe even nearly all of them. I'm a pretty emotional guy whether I show it or admit it or not, and I always care about the women in my life quite a great deal regardless of the type of relationship I have with them, but of course not always to the point of REALLY loving them on that level. So I assume you're referring to something a bit greater than that, and I'd say there were about 3 whom I really loved, to the point where I felt I changed because of those relationships and how much they affected me as a result. But on the same hand looking back, some of those loves were created out of different situations...some out of dysfunction, some as a growing and unsuspecting feeling, and others by complete surprise, having that kindred spirit type of feeling. In the bigger picture, I know I can experience something greater than that because I'm much more aware of myself than I ever had been in the past, and I believe self-awareness is what leads you to being able to ultimately love to the fullest. And it's not because of what those women lacked or what was necessarily even missing, but because of what I lacked at the time within myself to give...I didn't have the ability to give my heart and soul to anyone, couldn't reciprocate what they were willing to offer me...and even today that's as frightening a concept for me as it is exciting, and although I'm a very rational/pragmatic man I've always held onto that tiny glimmer of hopeless romantic within me, so it's still something I look forward to having, at least someday. And that takes two people working towards the same goal and on the same page IMO, I'm not one of those people who just throw themselves at anyone and create this one-sided, one-dimensional love affair based on how I feel, whom If I like a lot or "love", I will force it because I believe if I do I will therefore create some great out of..for me it's about trust, reciprocation and what develops over time together as a unified romantic couple, but also something very powerful that sustains throughout the relationship..so it's not going to be this overnight thing for me, I'm ultimately not looking for something that is going to just fade once the whirlwind/honeymoon period is over and then move onto the next for that ultimate love experience, "hoping" it leads to something bigger...that's not the "love" that I'm talking about personally. But if you were ask me about love years ago, my answer would have been different, I thought love was something else than what I see it as today. So this is a really difficult question to answer directly and plainly within the context, because there's so many layers to it for myself. But then again, I'm a complicated guy. Even when it was indeed, complicated, I liked your answer. And yes, I was trying to refer to a greater kind of love, where, let's say, selfishness desn't exist, or it exists, but on a healthy level and in both people. The kind of love you don't want to lose and where you do anything in your hands to save it and make it grow and stay... I don't know if there is such a thing as everlasting love.... But I know that there is love like the one I described above.
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