BlueWaterHunter Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 I will preface this with; I am normally very perceptive and confident when meeting\dating women. Everyone usually comes to me for advice, however; I have met my match! * Background: She is a highly educated business woman with two kids..classy We match up financially, age, family stuff….different race though * I met this girl about a month ago and we went on our first date 2 weeks back, it was a simple dinner date that lasted 5 hours until the place closed. We laughed and both of really enjoyed the date, she sent me a text afterwards that said “I am looking forward to seeing you again soon, I really enjoyed the evening”. * Okay, this seems like a no brainier right? Wrong * So I tell her that the feeling is mutual and that she exceeded my expectations, etc. Prior to this date we were talking/texting every day. * After the date she kind of backed off; I didn’t hear much from her for a week (ignores random texts from me here and there) I am figuring she had second thoughts? *until she calls out of the blue on Saturday said she has been busy wants to catch up. She says: “Did I tell you that you’re number 1 on my list of favorite people?” “Can I take you out to dinner this week?” * She also asked me about a situation with her daughter * * Okay now I think here we go green light……….back to ignore for a few days….lol * One thing that has been bugging me is that she has yet to say whether she finds me attractive in any way shape or form. In fact she told me that looks are less important to her at this stage of life. Looks have never been a problem for me, however; not every woman finds me attractive and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However, when you compliment a woman on her looks..if she is into normally reciprocates. The only thing she even mentioned was a pic I had sent her,,,,she said “nice pic”,,,,lol* wtf * Normally at this stage women are acting goofy and its very very yes very obvious that they* want a relationship or want nothing at all. * We have a 2nd date tomorrow * I am totally into her and she’s got me twisted like never before….. * Your Thoughts?
d0nnivain Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Calm down. She has a life & it doesn't revolve around you -- yet. It has lots of potential but it's yours to screw up by being too insecure & clingy. 1
Diezel Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 How about you update the situation after the 2nd date? Also, stop texting so much.
Author BlueWaterHunter Posted July 2, 2014 Author Posted July 2, 2014 How about you update the situation after the 2nd date? Also, stop texting so much. I will for sure provide an update. For clarity I might have texted her once or twice a week. With a simple " this heat is ridiculous" or something to that affect However, I have totally backed off the misc text Thanks for any insight it's greatly appreciated
Poppygoodwill Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Yes, dating single parents is a whole other world. They really are crazy busy usually and they feel guilty giving time to you instead of their kids. So there's that. But that said, she shouldn't let days go by without being in touch; that signals a lack of interest. Or she might be playing it cool because if you're a single parent, you've got kids to thinka bout and jumping in with someone probably isn't a good idea. I would proceed with caution and be careful not to let yourself get caught up in anything until she's clearer and more forthcoming wit her intentions and interest. have fun on the date; report back!
CarrieT Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Normally at this stage women are acting goofy and its very very yes very obvious that they* want a relationship or want nothing at all. * We have a 2nd date tomorrow You are saying that BEFORE a second date a woman is actually goofy about wanting a relationship with you!?!? What others have said: Calm Down. Lots of people get butterflies and good vibes with a first date, but don't know relationship status until four, five, six, or more dates. Get to know each other and lay off on the texting analysis. Analyze your real time experiences with this woman. If it is good, let it build slowly.
Assasda Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Keep your insecurities and need for validation to yourself man. Also dont send her any useless texts when youre feeling needy
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