Tressugar Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 She can't love you enormously! She doesn't even love herself.
Author Nujabez Posted July 5, 2014 Author Posted July 5, 2014 You are young, so is she. She most likely suffered some sort of trauma at an early age and the cutting/bulimia/anorexia/promiscuity is the surface of much deeper pain. I have been with and fell in love with a woman like this. It took her years to get better because she knew she had to. You are much too young to deal with this, find someone who is healthy for you. Well, I am not the type to give up on people and it breaks my heart thinking about it... She can't love you enormously! She doesn't even love herself. Well I don't love myself either but two broken people can help each other get on the right path right?
FitnessRN Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Dear Members, Last week tuesday I noticed a bit of a lovey-dovey message to a guy on the internet at one of his photos and confronted her with it. This spiked up complete drama from both sides. When things cooled down a little I decided to let it slip. The day after however she was planned to be hospitalized for having intestines-issues. She didn't want me to come over as often as I'd like and we ended up seeing each other on thursday and didn't on the days to come until yesterday. My issues in short: - I've apparently said mean things (Don't we all?) - Paranoid (Does she cheat or not etc) - Depression maybe - Temper issues when something frustrates me Her issues in short: - Anorexia - Bulimia - Depression Her parents didn't knew about the fact that she cut herself for years and has the scars on her arms. That tuesday it felt for me as if I was going to pass the torch over to her parents so I felt they needed to know HOW BAD it's going. I also told her parents about her second Twitter account on which she posted a lot of information about her well being. Days later this caused a riot at home and there were even mentions of her being placed in professional care. I went over to her house yesterday to talk and she told me she took her time in the hospital to think over our relationship and the issues standing for herself and my own and decided we need a 'break'. Obviously I don't want to have a 'break' because I know this usually means it's just over and I just can't believe it we've been together for almost 8 months and I've helped her with almost everything. Since she started dating me she stopped cutting herself which she did for 3 years or so. She tells me stuff like: I really really love you enormously and want to be together with you, I want to build a future with you but at this moment I can't handle all these things. She states that she doesn't want to break me with her issues and especially not at this phase in which she might become placed under professional care. She claims we're soulmates and that I'm the only one for her. She always told me she wouldn't keep me on the leash as she has known about my previous relationships in which girls cheated on me repeatedly and dumped me after month(s) of doing so. I really want to keep her or come back together but what are the chances? What do you guys think? I am going to seek help for myself immediately and hope to receive care in the form of therapy/medication whatever helps for me. #1) RUN!!!! #2) She is showing destructive behavior and manipulation...I sense someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. I have ran into those all to well where I have done clinicals in psych rotations and those always chase me for no reason at all. #3) Self destructive behavior and anorexia/bulimia is a dead giveaway that she could be a Borderline #4) Why are you attracted to these type of people? You can't change anyone with issues in their head #5) When someone wants a break...it's over!
Author Nujabez Posted July 5, 2014 Author Posted July 5, 2014 #1) RUN!!!! #2) She is showing destructive behavior and manipulation...I sense someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. I have ran into those all to well where I have done clinicals in psych rotations and those always chase me for no reason at all. #3) Self destructive behavior and anorexia/bulimia is a dead giveaway that she could be a Borderline #4) Why are you attracted to these type of people? You can't change anyone with issues in their head #5) When someone wants a break...it's over! #1: I can't it sucks. #2/3: She is seeing a therapist and up till no mention of borderline. Her behavior has been like this since a week or so. #4: I am attracted to her. Not her issues although I've known about some of them from the start. #5: Well yeah I'd guess that as well but she sounds convincing about the coming back together part. Which in turn makes it more difficult to just skip.
FitnessRN Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 #1: I can't it sucks. #2/3: She is seeing a therapist and up till no mention of borderline. Her behavior has been like this since a week or so. #4: I am attracted to her. Not her issues although I've known about some of them from the start. #5: Well yeah I'd guess that as well but she sounds convincing about the coming back together part. Which in turn makes it more difficult to just skip. A Break means its OVER
Strength in Healing Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 #1) RUN!!!! #2) She is showing destructive behavior and manipulation...I sense someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. Nailed it. Topic over. It is B.PD. There is no correcting this. When times are good, they're GREAT!! When they're bad, they're BAD BAD BAD. Sound familiar? Listen to FitnessRN. Run
FitnessRN Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Nailed it. Topic over. It is B.PD. There is no correcting this. When times are good, they're GREAT!! When they're bad, they're BAD BAD BAD. Sound familiar? Listen to FitnessRN. Run I'm not a MD or CNP to diagnose it, but it looks like it. Look, Ladies and Gentlemen: (1) Find somebody that makes you come alive, not trying to put energy into their problems (2) Guys, grow a pair...if they are a trainwreck, they are a trainwreck (3) If somebody has substance abuse problems..drinking, telling you the did heavy drugs in the past (coke, heroin)..RUN!!! (4) RUN!!!! Trust me, once you use logic in breakups and think about why things didn't work out (more negatives than positives) you can get over things fast.
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