LOLITA85 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Hi guys, I'm new here, I really need advice, been on other forums for help, but they are just mean over there ... So basically my boyfriend of almost 2 years tells me he is not sure he wants to be with me any longer. He said he needs space after some things from my past he learned (not even bad stuff) and that he is hurt because I've been distant lately .. So I'm waiting to know if he is wanting to still be with me or not. The actual question is: would someone who is going to dump you still call you 2 a 3 times a day to tell you what they're up to and call you petnames all the time like sweetheart, my love ... Also he bought stuff for in our place that he said he knew I'd like ... I think he's trying to dominate me a little because I almost dumped him once and it hurt him ... Someone who wants to break up is not acting that way or am I wrong ? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
redbaron005 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 What "things" from your past are we talking about here? How long since you broke up with him?
Author LOLITA85 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 What "things" from your past are we talking about here? How long since you broke up with him? That's the problem, he hasn't broken up yet, he says he doesn't know, and he needs time to think, but he stills calls me up and calls me my petnames .. and tells me what he's up to ... ect. Things he found out are things he knew before starting dating me, about some guys I have been seeing, but I didn't even knew him and I was not obliged to talk about my past with him, I never cheated or anything. He said I've been acting cold also, but I had 2 miscarriages, so that's pretty normal ... If he wants to break up why don't he right away ? It's been 3 days of hell, but he stays in contact, so I don't get it, if he want some time he should not contact me ...
redbaron005 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Well, it seems like this 'break' is a passive warning or way to get you to alter your behavior. Clearly he thinks you need to open up, tell him youre willing to answer honestly any questions about your feelings and your past that he might have. After two years, if you were serious, as a guy I'd expect you to have opened up about it by now. Are those other guys completely out of your life? I'm sorry to hear about the two miscarriages. Perhaps couples therapy might be in order as well.
Author LOLITA85 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Well, it seems like this 'break' is a passive warning or way to get you to alter your behavior. Clearly he thinks you need to open up, tell him youre willing to answer honestly any questions about your feelings and your past that he might have. After two years, if you were serious, as a guy I'd expect you to have opened up about it by now. Are those other guys completely out of your life? I'm sorry to hear about the two miscarriages. Perhaps couples therapy might be in order as well. It just drives me crazy that he leaves me in this limbo of hell, he doesn't want to break, but again he's not sure so he needs some time, but he contacts me everyday calling me those petnames ... It's so hard ... And when I ask him for a second chance he's all like "I don't know" but yet he doesn't break up. What he did say is that I did the same to him and that he also had to suffer, that's why I'm thinking that he rather does this to teach me a lesson then to really break up cause what would be stopping him and why is he still contacting me ... You know ? Couples theraphy ... Yeah, I just don't know if he is going to be there for that ... And yes those other guys are completely out of my life, even if a friend texts me he gets jealous, I never kissed or slept with someone else, so this is so unfair ...
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