Purepony Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Thank you for your message - though no this ship has definitely sailed, he definitely does not want to get back together. He knows how much I love him still and has not taken any opportunity to do anything about it. It is ok, I knew from pretty early on that there was never any going back. Doesn't always make it easier though unfortunately Am I missing something? He said he hopes you can talk when your ready? Mayne that's his way of working things out?
Author Tally123 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Good quote. Only I can let him bring me down, but its just a reminder that I do still really love him. urgh. I was doing so well. The thing I realised is when he said get in touch/see him when I am ready. I couldn't think of anything worse - but the good thing for me is that when I would be "ready" to see him, well then that will mean I will be over him and therefore wont want to see or speak to him. Hopefully only I can be the winner in that situation!
Author Tally123 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Am I missing something? He said he hopes you can talk when your ready? Mayne that's his way of working things out? He meant "talk" as in converse, chat, see how each other is doing. Not talk about anything in particular. He said to me earlier that he just likes knowing how I am and that I am ok.
Chi townD Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Girl, you are on a mini vacation! Enjoy yourself! Enjoy your surroundings, keep busy! Fill your day up with fun stuff to do!
me85 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Just enjoy your vacay. Try not to think of your ex or post on LS until you get back from vacation. For now, take a break from your BU whoas. I do not mean to come across as rude, just trying to say have fun while you have time off! Then update us when you get back.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Yea go and get off LS and enjoy your vacation, ignore him totally and lets see what happens.. now go get yourself a cocktail girl :-) x
Author Tally123 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Thanks guys. Unfortunately I am nowhere sunny. I am at another house in England and having a few days off from work. I go to Europe on sat and wish I was looking forward to it. Have been upset this evening, quite a few tears. I have always known it was totally over but this seems so final. Never speak or see him again unless I totally crack. I am pretty sure if I said let's meet he would but I know it would kill me. Aggggh broken NC. What an absolute b***ch!
Author Tally123 Posted July 2, 2014 Author Posted July 2, 2014 No one might not be reading this thread anymore, just writing here for my own sanity really. Last night was tough, I cried myself to sleep for about only the third time since we split (3 months ago). Felt pretty new, like I was saying goodbye to him all over again. It is hard to know that I will never speak or see him again, for definite and that he seems ok with that. Yes I could text him if I wanted to speak to him, probably see him if I wanted to, but I like to think I am somewhat strong enough not to contact him and definitely would not want to see him. I felt I was starting to move on, sort of trying to be happy again, then booooom, there he is like a bomb in my face. I know my family and friends think I should be over it by now, but maybe they didn't appreciate how much I loved him!
bluelady Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Don't try to jump the gun on getting over it quickly! Let your feelings process. Just try to remember the reasons you are doing NC and keep focusing. You can't get over him overnight.
sooshi Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 NC is hard and painful, but it's worth it in the end. Breaking NC is even harder and more painful, and not worth it in the end. It seems like you've learned that now. Don't rush the healing process. Go at your own pace. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about how you "should" be over it by now. You'll get through it when you get through it... and you WILL get through it.
Chi townD Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 No one might not be reading this thread anymore, just writing here for my own sanity really. Last night was tough, I cried myself to sleep for about only the third time since we split (3 months ago). Felt pretty new, like I was saying goodbye to him all over again. It is hard to know that I will never speak or see him again, for definite and that he seems ok with that. Yes I could text him if I wanted to speak to him, probably see him if I wanted to, but I like to think I am somewhat strong enough not to contact him and definitely would not want to see him. I felt I was starting to move on, sort of trying to be happy again, then booooom, there he is like a bomb in my face. I know my family and friends think I should be over it by now, but maybe they didn't appreciate how much I loved him! Well, that's it with some Ex's. They like to keep us in their back pocket for whatever reason, backup plan....whatever. Thing with your Ex, he pulled on the leash to make sure the dog was still there. He found out the dog was loose and he went looking for the dog (Not actually calling you a dog, just a metaphor so don't shoot me). Girl you're away from normal surroundings and you are about to embark on an adventure into Europe and you're going to let him destroy what should be an amazing time? Does he have THAT much power over you? It's time to stand on your own two feet and walk. Problem is, you gave him your heart, but when things ended you forgot to get it back from him. Time to rectify that situation. Take it back and regain your life and sanity.
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