Jay19 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Hi This is my first post ever on this forum so be nice! We dated for 1 year and 3 months. It was a great relationship, very little fights, arguments, disagreements. She stayed with me every weekend, it was nice, pretty much everything I wanted. I gave her whatever she wanted in life, stability, a safe home, gifts, compliments, confidence. (She was in a bad way when we first got together) The weekend we broke up.. I had absolute no thought in my mind that we were going to end. We went to a small 'get together' with some of her friends on the Friday, got drunk, all that stuff. She met a guy that night, I thought nothing of it. But they were texting the entire weekend, she was completely different when we got home.. Well, she finished with me on Sunday. I was absolutely heart-broken.. Struggling to take on the news. Remember, I had absolutely no doubt in my mind about this relationship, we were even planning the future that weekend. It was all so sudden. She went out on Sunday and didn't come home till late at night. At this point, she was a completely different person. I tried to ask her a few things but the response I got was "I couldn't give a f*** how you feel". Considering she was telling me she loved me the morning before, that's pretty hard hitting. The guy she met is using her for sex and she's going along with it for some stupid reason. She is a completely changed person. I still put her life before mine, but I get absolutely no credit for it. I tried to stop her from staying with me a few times but she still manages to get back into my head. The first time I told her I didn't want her staying with me anymore.. she came to my house when I was out and did some damage to it I have done absolutely nothing wrong to this girl. But she is treating me like I'm the worst person in the world. She's fine with everyone else, but the nastiest person I've ever met to me. (Sometimes she's okay) When she does stay with me, she leaves early in the morning to see this other guy and doesn't come back most of the time. Or she'll leave in the middle of the night. So.. that's my break-up story! I haven't spoken to anyone about this, not even my friends because I feel like none of them actually care how I feel. Even to this day, I'm still shocked about the things she has said. I'm in a pretty bad way, a deep hole so to speak. What does this look like from an outside perspective? Thanks for your reply!
lovebug_5858 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Leave this girl alone, she is not your responsibility anymore (and should have never been) Go no contact, and move on.
Author Jay19 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Leave this girl alone, she is not your responsibility anymore (and should have never been) Go no contact, and move on. It's hard going no contact when she was my first proper love. The longest we've been NC is 1 week, I was getting happier and slowly moving forward but she always, always texts, facebooks or whatever first. Pretty hard when I don't really have anyone else either.. I'm trying!
umirano Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 She is a completely changed person. I still put her life before mine, but I get absolutely no credit for it. I tried to stop her from staying with me a few times but she still manages to get back into my head. The first time I told her I didn't want her staying with me anymore.. she came to my house when I was out and did some damage to it How is this funny? Have some self respect and shed her skank a55 for good. Ever heard of a profession called locksmith? They may have some interesting service for you.
Author Jay19 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 How is this funny? Have some self respect and shed her skank a55 for good. Ever heard of a profession called locksmith? They may have some interesting service for you. It's complicated. I let her stay at mine one night while I was out of town. We had an argument and I came home to that. She apologized for everything she had done over the past few weeks.. which pretty much was emotional abuse.
Ben Dover Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Oh brother this is not good. Come on man, she is seeing somebody else and stays at your place and YOU let her talk to you like that? I understand the whole first love thing but come on man she has the best of both worlds. Takes advantage of you whenever she's bored or in need of some drama AND she gets to sleep with this new dude whenever she wants. NOW THATS A SWEET DEAL FOR HER. LISTEN TO PEOPLE ON HERE BECAUSE THEY KNOW WHAT TO DO. THEY KNOW MORE THAN YOU. CUT THIS GIRL OUT OF YOUR LIFE, UNLESS YOU'RE A PAIN FREAK AND ARE INTO BEING ABUSED AND USED. 1
Author Jay19 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Oh brother this is not good. Come on man, she is seeing somebody else and stays at your place and YOU let her talk to you like that? I understand the whole first love thing but come on man she has the best of both worlds. Takes advantage of you whenever she's bored or in need of some drama AND she gets to sleep with this new dude whenever she wants. NOW THATS A SWEET DEAL FOR HER. LISTEN TO PEOPLE ON HERE BECAUSE THEY KNOW WHAT TO DO. THEY KNOW MORE THAN YOU. CUT THIS GIRL OUT OF YOUR LIFE, UNLESS YOU'RE A PAIN FREAK AND ARE INTO BEING ABUSED AND USED. I am listening, man! I appreciate every single comment I get here, makes things so much more clear!
lovebug_5858 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 It's hard going no contact when she was my first proper love. The longest we've been NC is 1 week, I was getting happier and slowly moving forward but she always, always texts, facebooks or whatever first. Pretty hard when I don't really have anyone else either.. I'm trying! This was me, I promise. From him being my first love, to not being able to stay in no contact to not moving on. But once you truly make the commitment to move on, everything will change. And although you will WANT to contact her as well, you WON'T. Once you hit a certain day, time, or hour I'm not sure how long it really took me, but it just goes away. Obviously not your love for that person, but the sheer need is gone and that will help you move forward greatly. I'm only on Day 21, and I am feeling a million times better than I was at Day 1. I know it's a terrible feeling, but there's no where to go but up.
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 If you dislike being a door mat, get up off the floor.
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