bananakid Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 It's been 3 months (100 days to be precise) since I broke with my ex, yes it was me who broke up with her. We had been in a kinda long distance relationship ( lived 3 hours away from eachother, but due to being in uni and college. We'd see eachother like once a month) for almost a year and half. As I was a Christian and my family was against dating anyone non christian so I hid my relationship from them from the start. When I finally told them 3 months ago, they said I had to end the relationship. It was a hard thing to do and we ended the relationship in a nice way. Deep down I always knew she was never the one for me but I stayed with her because I always dreamt of only dating one girl and she would be the love of my life and then eventually marry her. Thing is I know breaking up with her was the absolute right thing to do and I dealt with it pretty well as I feel much happier now, no more lying to my family, nothing to do hide from them. A month ago my mate was talking to my ex and she said 'when I think about him only bad thoughts/things come to mind' when my mate told me this and the actual email, I was seriously Hurt by what she said as I'd only think of the happy and good times I had with her. As a boyfriend I did my best to make her happy and feel special. We definitely had much more good times than bad so that really annoyed me and I said to myself 'shes dead to me' Despite all this, I'm constantly thinking about her and checking her instagram account (even though I broke up with her) but I decided no more stalking and it's been 3 days since I stopped stalking. How do I stop thinking about someone who wasn't meant for me and without her I'm doing a whole better in life, so why do I still think about her email ? P.s. She was my first ever girlfriend and I was her first ever boyfriend. I'm never gonna bump into her on the streets so that's a good thing 2
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 For now, enjoy summer. Hang out with friends. Go to parties. Keep yourself busy. When the school year starts up again have a plan about how you will meet new people -- join organizations, go to parties, find a new study buddy, eat on the other side of campus.
love1336x Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 It's been 3 months (100 days to be precise) since I broke with my ex, yes it was me who broke up with her. We had been in a kinda long distance relationship ( lived 3 hours away from eachother, but due to being in uni and college. We'd see eachother like once a month) for almost a year and half. As I was a Christian and my family was against dating anyone non christian so I hid my relationship from them from the start. When I finally told them 3 months ago, they said I had to end the relationship. It was a hard thing to do and we ended the relationship in a nice way. Deep down I always knew she was never the one for me but I stayed with her because I always dreamt of only dating one girl and she would be the love of my life and then eventually marry her. Thing is I know breaking up with her was the absolute right thing to do and I dealt with it pretty well as I feel much happier now, no more lying to my family, nothing to do hide from them. A month ago my mate was talking to my ex and she said 'when I think about him only bad thoughts/things come to mind' when my mate told me this and the actual email, I was seriously Hurt by what she said as I'd only think of the happy and good times I had with her. As a boyfriend I did my best to make her happy and feel special. We definitely had much more good times than bad so that really annoyed me and I said to myself 'shes dead to me' Despite all this, I'm constantly thinking about her and checking her instagram account (even though I broke up with her) but I decided no more stalking and it's been 3 days since I stopped stalking. How do I stop thinking about someone who wasn't meant for me and without her I'm doing a whole better in life, so why do I still think about her email ? P.s. She was my first ever girlfriend and I was her first ever boyfriend. I'm never gonna bump into her on the streets so that's a good thing I worked with my first boyfriend, and dated for 2 years. It was tough. Eventually time heals all. Now of days I can see him with his new girlfriend and feel nothing. I stalked his facebook every single day. I would threw myself at least for a good 2 months. I did every single bad thing you are not suppose to do, but eventually I got TIRED feeling like crap. I got TIRED of wanting somebody who didn't want me at all. I simply got tired. Let time do it thing, but be active, get off her account! Start to date other girls. Do what makes you happy! :]
LovemySons Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 I'm not sure there's much you can do other than give yourself time. Things will get better. Good luck!
maturityassets Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 When you give up a relationship due to the super ego of your family and religion, really hard to get over it
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