dring23 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Hello, Met a women online in the middle of May. We talked online for a week or so then exchanged numbers. Since then we talk 3-4 times a week. I work out of town for 10 days at a time but have went on dates the last 2 times I was back in town. The dates went very well, and both of us look forward to seeing each other again. She mentioned she enjoys seeing plays, and Wicked happens to be in town the same night we are planning on getting together. Would it be too much to soon take her as a surprise to see it followed by a nice dinner on the river? Dinner and tickets would be $400-500, which is not an issue. Is this too much too soon? Thanks 2
Kitchen Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 There's no right or wrong. Up to you, the connection you feel with her, and whether you can afford it. I would never do it that soon, but that's just me. If you're questioning it, then maybe it's too soon.
todreaminblue Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 as a woman who loves plays and the energy and passion in and of theatres, i think its a wonderful idea or suggestion to make for a third date.....hope it doesnt hurt your pocket too much...maybe suggest dutch......good luck....deb
acrosstheuniverse Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 If you're willing to do it with the expectation of a lovely evening and nothing more, go for it. Don't do it if you're gonna be angry afterwards that it doesn't pan out or she doesn't want to see you again cos she doesn't feel the same. Something so expensive might place expectations on the two of you that a few drinks in a bar might not. But if it's something you want to do and you want to treat her to the evening too, whatever the outcome, go for it. For all I know you earn enough that it's a drop in the ocean, and I doubt you'd be considering it if it was going to impact upon your rent
Gaeta Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Yes it's too much too soon. If I don't feel the guy as much as he feels me a date like this would make me uncomfortable and put pressure on me. If you spend this much on your 3rd date then what will you come up with on your first year dating anniversary? or her birthday? Keep things in perspective 3
Diezel Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 +1 to Gaeta. That is WAY too much, way too soon and if things go south right after.. you'll just have $$$$$ in your head. That's something you can do further down the line for a special event.
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 If that is your usual level of activity / entertainment, no it would not be too much. If you are concerned, do the play only & skip the dinner. If she thinks it was too much you now know you two may be incompatible. But I think acrosstheuniverse makes a good point. Don't go in with any expectation other than an enjoyable play. 1
Author dring23 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Thanks for the advice. I have no expectations other then a fun night out. This does fall into my normal activity level. I work way up north, so when I am in the city I like to do nice things and splurge. Seeing a play is one thing I have never done so it's partially for me aswell. I understand the pressure part and that is what I was concerned about. I think my best choice is to not make it a surprise and ask if she is interested in seeing the play and go from there.
Miss Awesome Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Honestly, I think you have to read the situation. By our second date, my boyfriend was already talking about going on a mini-vacation together. Was it too much too soon? Absolutely not because I was really into him. Now, had I been unsure about him, this likely would have pushed me away. Now, even though you've only gone on two dates with her, you know her better than any of us do, so you may have some sense of whether she likes to be surprised. Me? I would prefer if you brought it up as a possibility. Ask her if she wants to go instead of just surprising her with it. Then you won't have to wonder whether it's too much or not. You'll know.
HappyLove Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 It's not too much too soon. Sounds like a wonderful night out! I've seen Wicked and it's FANTASTIC, don't miss it. Any woman who can't appreciate a date like this is not a match for you anyway as this is your norm. Dates shouldn't be based on what you'll do for your anniversary. Your anniversary could be a week in Dubai or a picnic with wine in the park. Don't start missing events because your planning for something that doesn't exist. Have fun! 1
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 I think for an early date the surprise would be too much but saying, Hey Wicked is coming to town. I was thinking of getting us tickets. You up for that? is perfect. Who knows she might even surprise you & say Great! You get the tickets. I'll spring for dinner. That's what I would do in her place.
Gaeta Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 I hate being the devil's advocate but.... Since May you've been on only 2 dates. You're gone out of town 2 weeks at a time and you're not exclusive so ..... Most contact made online do not make it past the 3rd date. It's crazy to spend that much on a date that might be the last one.
Candice Luna Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 I don't think you should buy her ticket. Propose to go dutch. At the most, pay the drinks and dinner afterwards. How will you know if she keeps contact with you for the freebies she may get, instead of the wonderful company that you are? As they say, it's very hard for rich people to know who their true friends are. The same principle applies to people you date. I'm not saying you're rich, but a $500 expense, that already puts you ahead of many guys, for money wh*res.
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