Ice.cream Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 (edited) I met a guy back in may online, and we've been talking everyday ever since last Monday (June 23). He runs a company even though he is only 20. He is really polite. He was the first one to open up about his past and how he got to be where he is today. He told me that he cherishes what we have between us even if it's just friendship, wants to be genuine with me, and trusts me. He lives about 5 hours away from me. We can talk about a lot of things from more light hearted topics to politics. He has offered to buy my plane ticket 3 times to spend some time with him or even just meet up with him whenever I'm in town. He has told me that he likes me (despite our very different political views). We never dated but clearly I was interested in him. We have talked about cute little date ideas when I'm in his town. And just the day before our fallout, he told me that he was afraid of me never talking to him out of the blue. Something that I don't like is when he tells me that he's hanging out with some girl. The day of the fallout, he told me that he was watching the game with some 'hot Dutch girl' (his words). At first I ignored that but I got annoyed and told he not to tell me these things as i am not interested in knowing. He ignored my commented and changed the topic, so I I got mad and told him to stop talking in a rather harsh way (no foul words were involved). And ever since he has stopped talking to me despite my attempted at the end of the week to contact him. So my question is why do guys say all these kinds of things and then go no to ignore you? I can't seem to understand this kind of mentality. Edited July 1, 2014 by Ice.cream
lesdeuxsoleils Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 In my opinion guys say sweet things because they THINK they feel a certain way. They don't really feel it in it's essence. Sometimes they even say things they don't feel just to get attention or if it's convenient for them. They'll ignore you if the don't feel like talking to you unless they are busy in which case you would hear something. Simply put if a person is ignoring you without good reason, he/she doesn't care about you.
David87 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 It seems he was interested in you, but I guess he fund another ..cupcake.. to date and to spend time.
Author Ice.cream Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Thank you both of you Yeah it did bother me that he would say these things and then ignore me just for something like that since I took these things to heart. Anyway at least I know now, and clear up my perspective of this so I can move on. I did my part to contact him, and the rest is not in my control
h0000 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Yes I have met many men like this.So many that I don't feel weird/surprised at all. For example one of them would text me everyday making real conversations with me and of course, ask me out.But whenever they day came he had some excuse he couldn't make it. And after I confronted him of course he disappeared. I would not even attempt to contact such guys afterwards. I don't know why they act like this. Probably cuz they were bored, or gf out of town. And I am telling you you will continue meeting a lot more guys like this.
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 For whatever reason he became insecure & lashed out. Despite his pretty words you don't really know the guy & if he can do such an abrupt about face you may have dodged a bullet. Remember, talk is cheap. Look at the actions. His are of a petulent little boy. 1
Author Ice.cream Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 Thank you guys. It's comforting to know that I've caught on early before going any where deeper with this guy.
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