LME Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Met a guy about a month ago, hit it off, been on a few dates. We usually text/call once every few days. He initiated a lot of it, but I would too. He has been out of town for the last 10 days. I heard from him every day teh first 3 days he was gone, then i sent him a text Monday of last week just saying hey and we chatted for a little but I haven't heard from him since that time. probably over? I initiated last time and the week before he told me he would be non stop busy until Sunday (yesterday) when he was done traveling so i feel like if wants to see me he can contact me to set something up. Part of me is like well he just got back from traveling,etc. but the toehr part is like well it literally takes 30 seconds to send a text thoughts? i'm probably moving soon anyway so not a huge loss, but i did enjoy his company
greenbee81 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 He could be really busy though... I've been very busy this month and sometimes I'd forgot to text people back. But I'm kind of in the same situation, met this girl and seemed to hit it off and suddenly I rarely get a text back.
palmbreeze Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Sometimes it isn't about who initiated the conversation. He's been out of town traveling, maybe he is just super busy and you guys just started dating a month ago. I'd text him again and ask him how his trip was, hoped he had a good time and hey would you like to get together when you get unpacked. See what he says. You may lose out on something great just on the principle I texted him first last.
JungleLover Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Personally, I wouldn't really get too invested in at woman who I thought might be moving long distance in the near future. Did you mention that to him?
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Sorry but I as I've already said on another similar thread, I don't care who you are or ho busy you are, if you're interested in someone, like really interested, you will find a way to make contact even if it's just a quick "Thinking about you and hope to catch up soon!" text. It's really not THAT hard. My advice? Stop making excuses for him and don't sit around pining for him either. Go out and carry on with your life! You've made contact and now the ball is in his court. He knows where to find you if or when he has the time. Good luck. 5
Author LME Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 (edited) Personally, I wouldn't really get too invested in at woman who I thought might be moving long distance in the near future. Did you mention that to him? No, only because i literally got a job offer Friday (woohooo) and have not talked to him since last Monday. Moving an hour away really no big deal i wasn;t deeply invested/attached, just like i said enjoyed his company. Probably bad timing situation and his job takes him traveling a lot so its just not a good combo at the moment lol or he is just not into me anymore which is fine, it happens! Edited July 1, 2014 by LME
D-Lish Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 (edited) I'd have to agree that when someone is really into you, they'll make time for you. It takes a few seconds to send a text. It's a hard realization to swallow, but the whole "I'm busy" thing is BS. I could be working two jobs, travelling, playing a couple different sports taking up my free time- but I'd make time to text someone that I was interested in, and I'd do it often... I think almost everyone would. I think that's how you have to look at it, and be realistic with yourself about it. All of us have been there. It's not like the guy isn't interested at all- he's just not demonstrating that he's interested enough. I think that's your cue to keep your options open. Edited July 1, 2014 by D-Lish 4
mortensorchid Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 I agree with D-Lish. When a person is interested they will respond in some way. It only takes so many minutes / seconds to send a text let alone anything else to that person. I went through what you are right now. I was seeing someone for about 5-6 months or so, communication went from very good to not very often to now non existent. In my case, I think it was coming up on the 6 month marker and he had to decide whether or not it was going to go to the next level. His answer was that it's not and we no longer communicate. But that's fine with me. Best it didn't work now rather than later, he was/is a good man towards me but, as I think in your case, it just wasn't meant to be. Move on.
fred123 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 I agree with D-Lish. When a person is interested they will respond in some way. It only takes so many minutes / seconds to send a text let alone anything else to that person. I went through what you are right now. I was seeing someone for about 5-6 months or so, communication went from very good to not very often to now non existent. In my case, I think it was coming up on the 6 month marker and he had to decide whether or not it was going to go to the next level. His answer was that it's not and we no longer communicate. But that's fine with me. Best it didn't work now rather than later, he was/is a good man towards me but, as I think in your case, it just wasn't meant to be. Move on. did he tell you or did it just fade? it looks like he actually spoke to you which is very good of him rather than jusy fading and you have to figure it out
Author LME Posted July 1, 2014 Author Posted July 1, 2014 well i heard from him today. any time i make a post or start to worry i always hear from him 12 hours later so i should just stop haha
EmptyinNV Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 well i heard from him today. any time i make a post or start to worry i always hear from him 12 hours later so i should just stop haha THIS IS MY LIFE STORY haha, it's like as soon as I talk about a guy being a disappearance to my friends, he texts me haha.
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