knh3999 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 I recently started seeing a new guy that I met online. We went on two dates and hit it off pretty well. Before we left date two last Saturday, we set date three for this coming Wednesday. Today I realized that Wednesday didn't work for me- I had my schedule for this week all mixed up. We were already having a text conversation so I sent him a quick text saying that I realized I had mixed up my schedule, and asked him if he was free if he would like to go out tomorrow or Thursday after work instead. His response was "hmm maybe." I said "ok, no sweat" and apologized again for the mixup. We've continued talking through the day after that, but he still hasn't said anything about us making plans. Should I say something to him again, or just let it be since the ball is in his court now? I'll admit that I tend to get a little crazy when I'm dating new people, so I'm really trying to play it cool with this one.
smackie9 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Best be sending him some flirty text so he doesn't take your cancellation as rejection. Let him know you are still interested...... Tip: next time when you cancel, pick up the phone and call him. Texting is so lame.
Assasda Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Just send him a text confirming the new time that you set
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 Sadly many people misinterpret a reschedule as lack of interest. If you don't hear from him soon, pick up the phone call him & say, I'm sorry again about Wednesday. Clearly Thursday didn't work for you. I would like to make it up to you. How do you feel about next _______ [insert date]? We can meet at [you pick the place], my treat. Be very specific. Not a vague, let's hang out kind of thing. Show that you put thought into it & you are willing to take charge.
Diezel Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 5 years ago, had someone said that to me, I would see it as a rejection. Now, seeing a cancellation followed by a counter-offer, I would take it up if I was actually available. It depends on the person, to be honest. Listen, you have nothing to lose, if the interest is really there, just call him and be upfront about it and that you would really like to see him again. He probably really does believe it was a soft rejection.
MissBee Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 (edited) One reason I'm an advocate for calls...in calls people tend to be more upfront while they can be vague and avoidant more easily via text. I'd have just called, and when you call you can explain things better as well, saying I realized Wednesday wasn't going to work and how about tomorrow or Thursday, and on the phone he would have most likely have tried to have a more definitive response or at least you'd hear his tone to see how he really feels about it and he'd hear yours too. But no DO NOT ask again. You already asked, he said maybe. It's now up to him to come back and say yes or no. You shouldn't have said "No sweat" though, pretending that answer was okay. When he said maybe, I would have said, "Okay, well when you know for sure let me know" that way the ball is even more obviously in his court and the door would be open for him to get back to you without you feeling like you need to ask him again. Edited July 1, 2014 by MissBee
smackie9 Posted July 1, 2014 Posted July 1, 2014 I totally agree about CALLING as to texting. Texting is a lame way to communicate IMO. It's true that things can be misinterpreted through text.
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