oberkeat Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 So, our first two dates have involved lots of making out and hand-holding. She's generally the first one to text after our outings, and it usually takes me about an hour or so to reply (sometimes it takes me that long to come up with something to say. Sometimes I'm busy. Plus I don't want to seem too available). My texts are usually pretty straight-up and simple. But now I'm wondering if I've just dropped the ball with a needy text: Late at night: Her: How has your day been? Me: Pretty good; just been working on some upholstery. And yours? Been thinking about you a lot. Her: pretty good (tells me a little about her day). So, what have you been thinking? Me: that you're easy to talk to, holding your hand, your soft lips. No reply yet (not sure it needed one). My intention with that last message was to show her I'm still interested in her (I hadn't contacted her in a few days), but in retrospect, maybe it could be interpreted as clingy/too much at this stage of the relationship, and send her running for the hills. What do you think? I hate unforced errors
PegNosePete Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 I think if that sends her "running for the hills" then she was not interested in you int he first place. Seems fine to me. Only problem is that you're not inviting her on another date.
ThorntonMelon Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 What PNP said - if she digs you, she likes that. If not, she doesn't. That said, it starts to move towards sexting quick (not that particular text but the concept) so theres a chance she doesn't want to encourage further.
Diezel Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Her: How has your day been? Me: Pretty good; just been working on some upholstery. And yours? Been thinking about you a lot. Her: pretty good (tells me a little about her day). So, what have you been thinking? Me: I'll tell you when we go out for drinks on Thursday. Don't use a text to show her you are interested, that's what the dates are for. You're putting way too much pressure on yourself to deliver through tex form. 1
Author oberkeat Posted June 30, 2014 Author Posted June 30, 2014 (edited) I think if that sends her "running for the hills" then she was not interested in you int he first place. Seems fine to me. Only problem is that you're not inviting her on another date. She's actually visiting relatives this week, so on the last date we had mentioned setting something up once her commitments with that are done. So that's why no invite just yet. Edited June 30, 2014 by oberkeat
Diezel Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Then leave it alone... if she doesn't get back to you at all, you have your answer.
fred123 Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 So, our first two dates have involved lots of making out and hand-holding. She's generally the first one to text after our outings, and it usually takes me about an hour or so to reply (sometimes it takes me that long to come up with something to say. Sometimes I'm busy. Plus I don't want to seem too available). My texts are usually pretty straight-up and simple. But now I'm wondering if I've just dropped the ball with a needy text: Late at night: Her: How has your day been? Me: Pretty good; just been working on some upholstery. And yours? Been thinking about you a lot. Her: pretty good (tells me a little about her day). So, what have you been thinking? Me: that you're easy to talk to, holding your hand, your soft lips. No reply yet (not sure it needed one). My intention with that last message was to show her I'm still interested in her (I hadn't contacted her in a few days), but in retrospect, maybe it could be interpreted as clingy/too much at this stage of the relationship, and send her running for the hills. What do you think? I hate unforced errors ladies when a guy says they are thinking of you and you get a response like what this girl has said clearly.shes not interested. if she was she would reply saying she was thinking about him too etcc. not what are you thinking about?
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 No, her response indicated that she wanted to be wooed On some level she was fishing for a compliment. I don't think the text was needy at all. the over analysis, which fortunately she doesn't know about, is problematic. Mid week, call & ask how her visit is going. Make a date for when she comes back.
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