pappa k Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Like at the bar I see groups of girls but I don't want to be rude and interrupt there conversation , what do you do ? Also what girl do you sit by at the bar the one you like or one of her friends ?
jay1983 Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Approach all of the girls at once and just be friendly. Smile, introduce yourself, and just keep talking. Eventually, you'll find that one girl likes you more than the rest. Her friends will probably either leave or turn away from you and the interested girl. Then take it from there. This requires good voice projection and confidence though. I suggest going to the bar early and warming up first to get into the social mindset. Do not be aggressive in this particular situation (at least until the friends leave), as it will not likely work. This I can agree with you on.
hasaquestion Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 I'd say the big mistake people make when they approach a group of women is to "focus" on any one of them. You have to be equally interested/disinterested in everyone in the group. First of all, the whole process of "choosing" one specific girl you want to get with is really unattractive. Instead of chasing anyone, be appealing and wait and see who comes to you. If they get a sniff of you trying to go for someone specific, it will turn them all off. Second, you don't know which one of them will be into you. But if one of them is, she'll expect her friends' approval first. So appealing to the group lays the groundwork in case one of them is interested.
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Body language is key to approaching a group. Look at how the individuals in the group are standing relative to each other & the outside world. If their shoulders & hips are square to each other, they do not want to be approached. Their circle is closed. If it's more open & they are not facing each other directly, it's OK to approach. Do not play the game of flirting with the friend to get her attention. Be polite & conversational to the whole group but only flirt with one.
clia Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 I'd say the big mistake people make when they approach a group of women is to "focus" on any one of them. You have to be equally interested/disinterested in everyone in the group. So true. I can't believe guys don't realize how rude it is to focus on one girl and ignore her friends. One of my girlfriends is really gorgeous, so she constantly has men approaching her when we are out. I can't tell you how many men will walk up, ask her name, start talking to her, and totally ignore the rest of us sitting there. They don't even say hello or ask our names. It's just basic manners. This makes their game so evident; they are too dumb to realize that how they treat us is going to affect how she views them. I've even had guys walk up and stand with their back to me, while talking to my friend. It's like How to Not Get the Girl 101. Plus, when you first walk up, unless they are wearing wedding or engagement rings, you have no clue who is taken. If you are only nice to one girl and are rude to her friends, you will entirely strike out when you find out she's taken. 3
Author pappa k Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 What if they are sitting at the bar? How do I know whether or not to approach them ?
jay1983 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 What if they are sitting at the bar? How do I know whether or not to approach them ? Have a couple drinks with your buddy, get loosened up in a good mood and just go over there do it. "hey how you ladies doin, yada yada" Just try it.
d0nnivain Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 What if they are sitting at the bar? How do I know whether or not to approach them ? If they are directly facing each other or the bar itself, do not approach. If they are angled outward, say hello & smile.
kolleamm Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Why don't you just go over and tell them you would like to buy all of them drinks? That should surely get their attention and prove your financially stable to some extent.
jay1983 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Why don't you just go over and tell them you would like to buy all of them drinks? That should surely get their attention and prove your financially stable to some extent. Or go over and ask them if they would like to buy you drink. That would show you have balls. lol
kolleamm Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Or go over and ask them if they would like to buy you drink. That would show you have balls. lol Unless they can tell your joking it would be a big fat NO. However that would be a crazy thing to try, so absurd it might just work assuming they have a sense of humor.
Mcnulty Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Go up to them and say, "do any of you ladies have low standards?"...might work!! 1
jay1983 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Go up to them and say, "do any of you ladies have low standards?"...might work!! you: Do you ladies have low standards? them: no you: good then your talking to the right man. My name is so and so.... Offer the one with the big smile a drink. 1
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