Gdulin17 Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 (edited) I'm 18 years old right now and have been with the same guy since I was 14. We met because he was my big brothers best friend and I always had the biggest crush on him.. For years and years and finally one day he decided to give me a chance. He was 16 and I was 14 at the time we began dating and it was really sweet. He was my first everything. First boyfriend First real kiss first love first... Well everything. And I was his first for everything. We dated for 14 months and then he moved about 30 minutes away from me for his senior year in highschool because he got a scholarship to a private school to play football. Things went south from there, we decided it wasn't going to workout and we began seeing other people. It was heartbreaking because it was only him seeing other people. He dated this girl for about 4 months and she broke up with him and since then we always talked. Last September we decided to give things another shot. We had been seeing each other exclusively ever since him and his private school broke up but in September we made it official again. I moved into an apartment for college and he started living with me. It was amazing. It was all I ever wanted... Until he went to the military. He left in April for Air Force boot camp and everything was perfect. We wrote each other all the time and his letters were so loving. I was handling it really well. He graduated at the beginning of June and went to tech school from there. He has been there for one month and everything was going very smoothly, I never thought this would have happened it was so unexpected but 2 nights ago, he started talking about how much he hated the airforce because it was ruining his life. He was really upset and I was trying to comfort him and telling him he just had a bad day and it would be fine. Then he started talking about how he would never beable to have a healthy relationship this way. The only thing he had time for was Air Force. He apologized so many times and kept saying this sucks so bad and was just really down. I told him to take a few days and think about it. I wasn't mad and I would respect his decision because I just wanted him to be happy. We talked again the next day and I asked "have you made a decision" and he said "this is all just a big mess, but yes, I'm so sorry" my heart was broken but I didn't let it show. I told him it was fine and we didn't have to hate each other. And he said I know and we didn't text for a while and then he messaged me one last time and said "I'll always love you" and I never responded and we haven't talked since then. He left me with no answers. His only reason was he's stressed out and doesn't have time for me. My heart is broken. He comes home in August which is only one more month... Should I wait to see if he has it together? Or move on and try not to look back. I'm so confused and hurt. If he truly believes he will always love me why would he be breaking it off? Advice please Edited June 30, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
ja123 Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 It sounds like he's really stressed and might be depressed, too. Give him space and time.
deathandtaxes Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Learn. Grieve. Heal. Move on. Use the relationship as a learning experience and go live your life. Your adult life is barely, barely beginning. He's taking steps to become independent by joining the Air Force. And I presume you might still be in high school? Most likely he's ending it so you BOTH can have the freedom to pursue other people. 2
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