AngeliqaPickles Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 All right, So here goes: I have had a crush on this guy who I have worked with for 3 years and to me, it's obvious that it's mutual even though we haven't talked about how he feels. He knows how I feel and has for awhile. He is pretty shy, as am I and so we don't know that much about each other and I normally don't ask him a lot of things because I don't want to come off as nosy. He is very supportive and I know he cares about me- when we worked together and I was out, he would be very concerned and one time even called me to see how I was feeling... He also thought he missed my birthday and sent me a belated birthday card, which he has never done. A while ago, he did mention to my boss that he wasn't ready for a relationship. Which is why I don't put myself out there more because I'm not sure I am ready for one either. When we worked together we were nervous around each other almost constantly, I would catch him staring at me and when I looked he would try to look like he hadn't been staring, he made a point of saying goodbye to me and would always make sure I was the last one he looked at before he left, he even says my name differently than other people, if I call or email him or text him, I hear back quite frequently and if I ask him something I normally get a reply very quickly. We just click and I get butterflies when I hear from him and when we worked together, after he changed jobs, my kids(I work in after school care) and I would make him cards and videos and one of his former students who transferred to our aftercare, mentioned that he would show them our videos and talked about us to his class:)... The confusing part in all this is what are we? And I could ask him, but I don't want to push if he's not ready to talk about this... Advice please? Thanks:)
JungleLover Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 All right, So here goes: I have had a crush on this guy who I have worked with for 3 years and to me, it's obvious that it's mutual even though we haven't talked about how he feels. Please read your quote above. What advice would you give someone who says this? Why do you need to talk about feelings when it is "obvious?" Ask him out. Invite him somewhere. Spend some quality time with him. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 It sounds odd & somewhat immature. How often do you see each other now that you no longer work together? If you are the only one reaching out, that speaks volumes.
Zahara Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 Ask him out. Go on a date and see how you both fare together. You can't keep playing cat and mouse games. And don't ask him what you both are! Go on a date first or at least spend some time getting to know each other outside of work and text messages.
Elle1975 Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 I agree. I would ask him out. I don't like the "crush" kind of situations, as it gives way too much slack to our imagination. We assume things that aren't there. So yes, ask him out. Be sure to use the word "date".
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