Author NYC-BigKat Posted July 2, 2014 Author Posted July 2, 2014 most guys say this to me .....i dont find it creepy maybe because i notice they smell good too........lol...if you add mmmm and lick your lips it takes it to a different sort of level though.....that would be a bit of a move seats moment i did get creeped out a little when a guy said to me after he asked me to cuddle with him.... ohhh it feels good to have your arms around me...that there....creeped me out...... Yea my friend says women are getting weirder everyday so um...I'm gonna start to think he's right if this keeps going like this u know .
todreaminblue Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Yea my friend says women are getting weirder everyday so um...I'm gonna start to think he's right if this keeps going like this u know . do you think i am weird? ......i am not offended if you do...don't really understand why i am weird though.....deb
jay1983 Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 do you think i am weird? ......i am not offended if you do...don't really understand why i am weird though.....deb I know you didn't ask me, but I can't help but to answer. Only thing that seems weird about you is that you always have dots in between your sentences and deb at the end. I understand your Deb, but why don't you just make that your signature rather than type it every time?
GH3 Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 May have jumped the gun there, boy. It rubs the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again. That is exactly what I thought. Instantly.
Allumere Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 I think she is ridiculous. How about "thanks" and letting it go. If she really isn't interested then she shouldn't have given out her number. Good grief in a world in which we barely see each other and compliments are few give bonus to guy for noticing. I don't know...to me nice skin would be no more creepy then nice hair. 2
todreaminblue Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 I know you didn't ask me, but I can't help but to answer. Only thing that seems weird about you is that you always have dots in between your sentences and deb at the end. I understand your Deb, but why don't you just make that your signature rather than type it every time? .....it doesnt bother me actually that i have to type three letters on the end of every post i actually have to delete deb quite a few times in my posts.....its like signing off......the ellipses well...some times they are there sometimes they are not.....my daughter actually said you know mum its twice as much work for you doing it that way......how do you do it you make things so difficult.....i dont even know......it is what automatically happens......it makes it easier for me to correct dyslexic typing ....i can delete whole sections or sentences i dotn feel tangent in...........often my posts are conflicting...in between ellipses...now that is weird.......so be it......just for you i wont post deb..........nah have to, doesnt feel right, i never really thought about that before that i write deb and that it could be considered weird ..if you see how many times i delete deb from my posts then that would be even stranger...deb flits in and otu quite frequently.......pass me the lotion my skin needs it precioussssss..... puts it in the basssket........cheers....deb 1
GravityMan Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Telling a woman she has "nice skin" is, well.....odd. Especially early on. Unless you're a natural charmer that's easily likable, it's best to save that kind of compliment for someone (i.e. a GF) who you know well and have been seeing for awhile. Telling a woman (or anyone, really) that she has a "nice personality" is also pretty weird. Not in a creepy sense. It's just one of those phrases that's difficult to pull off without sounding awkward/unnatural. Nearly everyone likes to be complimented. However, most compliments have nuance associated with them. Who's giving the compliment, when he/she gives it, the type of relationship between the two people, and how he delivers it (wording, tone of voice, body language, situational context, etc.) can all make a big difference in the appropriateness of the comment and how the compliment is received by the other person. The other person may be flattered, indifferent or creeped out. Compliments are similar to humor and wit in the sense that they tend to be received better when they feel natural, genuine and in-the-moment or with-the-flow. Guys who are charming, confident and socially adept are usually better able to pull them off early on. They smoothly and effortlessly integrate an appropriate compliment or two into the flow of the conversation, and it just feels "right". OP, I think you have a long way to go when it comes to social stuff. Many people figure out the above stuff in their teens or early 20s. I suggest you leave the compliments (especially ones about her body or personality) at home for awhile...focus on just being a regular guy and work on your people skills. Keep your interactions with people casual and light. Maybe compliment her on a school/career accomplishment or a unique talent...but even then it shouldn't seem contrived or overdone. As for that particular woman, I think she just wasn't into you. My guess is that the overall vibe you projected turned her off and she wanted to be rid of you. 1
Smilecharmer Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 Nice skin...oh, thanks Ed Gein, please don't make a lamp shade out of me.
todreaminblue Posted July 2, 2014 Posted July 2, 2014 op any woman who has maturity about her and is used to being complimented will just say aw thank you sweet of you to say,then move on with her day and think nothing of it, because she is used to them and its not a shock.It registers that a compliment was made and that's it,but,if she truly likes you she will replay it often,so, if you see her smiling later for no reason at all,yeah,she probably likes you now i am going to try really hard not to write deb ok so i failed i took out the ellipses so i can be like everyone else.....except for these they are needed......deb 2
Author NYC-BigKat Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I think she is ridiculous. How about "thanks" and letting it go. If she really isn't interested then she shouldn't have given out her number. Good grief in a world in which we barely see each other and compliments are few give bonus to guy for noticing. I don't know...to me nice skin would be no more creepy then nice hair. I finally told my uncle about it today after work & he laughed then told me that during the time she didn't reply to my texts she was probably deciding if she wanted to be bothered with me & then chose to push me away. He says she was thinking about it too much so u know she just felt that I wasn't what she was looking for . I also had this guy at my job say the same thing to one of the girls working there & she just laughed & told him to hush it but they joked around later in the day. So um...I'm convinced that what I said wasn't really really creepy or anything. The girl just decided she didn't like me that much or want things to go on between us so she made it out to be so much bigger than it is u know.
Assasda Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 That chick is just filled with insecurities. Sure you dont want anyone like her. Dont let it even faze you bro. IF you feel like a girl has nice skin, and you want to tell her, the next time you feel it. Do so. Some chicks struggle with insecurity, its not your job to be their therapist about it, or let it bother you. 2
smuggy95 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I remember when a guy friend complimented me. We were just walking and suddenly he looked like he was struggling with some though, and started talking slow. and then he said slowly, I forget, some compliment. But it came across as creepy. 1) I wasn't interested in him 2) it wasn't in the moment. He was trying to think of something to say to me that was romantic I guess, and it was random. so it came out very awkward and ...creepy. not natural. so yeah, it's fine to say 'you have nice skin'...but it works more if you're there with her, in person, where you actually are looking at her. when you're at home, it just shows you're thinking about something waaaay too much. it's not spontaneous. AT the same time, if a girl likes you, she's gonna take ANY compliment, and would love it that you were still imaging her. next time just text 'I think you're pretty.' if she just says thanks, she's not interested. if she flirts, she would say 'whyyyyyy do you say that teehee' and you can move on to specifics. in person, it'll be more flowing and you'll just know what to say. it's easier then because body language and intonations help.
Badsingularity Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Oh no Deb please keep the ellipses and your "deb" signature! They're part of your charm!! I agree. I have always found her posting style unique and interesting in a way.
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