prpqmnj Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 (edited) So this girl I was dating, dated someone before me for a 1.5 years, and he eventually wanted to be by himself. They had broken up one before, got back together, then finally called it quits. So a month or so after they broke up, we started hanging out after I told her I liked her for so long. We eventually hung out, kissed, and jumped into bed. All of it was amazing, and surreal. The first few weeks were great, she wanted to be exclusive, we did a bunch of fun things together. I told her things about my life, that I wouldn't tell other people. I felt that I could tell her anything, but I became oversharing with my thoughts. It began to overwhelm her, I started taking work life worries and snowballing personal life together. Now I should say that she found herself to be "overly critical and wanted to work on that." Needless to say, I had moments where I was afraid and panicked, that she said we need to take a step back. So we did. I tried to explain myself and how I felt, but it wasn't received well. So I decided to just not communicate with her. Until she wrote me the other day saying "We should talk about us." She told me she had a perception from friends, and felt that she was always acting like a "bitch" around me, and saying that when she wasn't around me, she never acts that way. Even her friends would notice how jokingly mean she'd be around me, that she would tell me that she didn't like that her friends thought of her like that. So having this unsettling feeling in my stomach, she told me that she hadn't been single in a while, after a 2 year relationship, that she needed to do the things that she did, and that this just didn't feel right. When I asked if she cared about me, she hesitated to answer, but rather, just pushed it aside. I asked if we'd ever get back together, and she reaffirmed me with a no, and that nothing was going to change her mind or make her feel any different. It all happened fast, we were together for two months. Though we never really talked about long term plans, we did meet each other's parents. I was willing to make things work Edited June 29, 2014 by prpqmnj
lesdeuxsoleils Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 I know you like her but honestly do you want to be with a girl who treats you like that, does sound like a bitch! Apologies but she doesn't care about you as she's stated. 2 mo is short, you deserve better! You don't need to put up with that kind of attitude. Self-respect is the most important thing that you should value. She'll never be happy if she treats people like that. Leave her alone, you'll find someone else. This is a red flag!!!
sugarlove Posted June 30, 2014 Posted June 30, 2014 2 months.. still within the honeymoon stage when both are on their best behaviors to increase attraction. Is this her best? Hmm, if so, I think it's a good thing this didn't work out. She is unsure so she is not the one. The one for you would not second guess herself, true love is meant to be easy.
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