Heartbroken1994 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Back in February I met my ex boyfriend in a club he approached me and asked me if I worked in a certain place. He was right he said he went into there every weekend just to be served by me... We got chatting and he gave me his number we went on plenty of dates and he made me his girlfriend. We had a healthy fun outgoing relationship he booked to come away with me in July and everything was GREAT. I stayed at his for 3 days and everything was normal we were still loved up he left me in his bed on Monday morning and kissed me goodbye while he went to work. Later that day I got a text saying that he needed to speak to me he has been thinking about me. He then text me to say he didn't wanna be with me no more and then he rang me a few hours later explaining more. He said we had nothing in common our age difference was a concern even though from the start he always said our age difference didn't bother him. He also said he wants to settle down and have kids?? I was so upset and I didn't go to work the next day I decided to text him the day after letting him know how much he has hurt me and I needed to come and collect my things in good time. He said he could post it to me if I wanted ?!?! I am so heartbroken I haven't heard from him since, I can't help but cry everyday he is the first thing I think of in the morning and all I can think of at night. It's killing me so much I just wanna speak to him and see him but I don't want to seem like I am begging for him to come back to me... I really need some reassurance because I'm finding this SOOO hard to get over I really can't explain what I am feeling. Do you think he will want me back eventually?
Yamaha Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 No. How long did you guys date? Did he introduce you to his friends/family? How large is the age difference? I think he just had a change of heart and let you go. I wouldn't hold out hope. If he wants to contact you he will, otherwise I would do your best to continue on with your life with out him.
Tressugar Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 After he said all those things to you, you don't want to go back to him. Let him go! When someone wants to leave show them the door. It hurts now, but it will get better with time.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) Unfortunately, I think this ship has sailed. Edited June 24, 2014 by Simon Phoenix
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 No. How long did you guys date? Did he introduce you to his friends/family? How large is the age difference? I think he just had a change of heart and let you go. I wouldn't hold out hope. If he wants to contact you he will, otherwise I would do your best to continue on with your life with out him. We dated for 4 months but I was really happy Yes I met his brother and his friends, his brother lives with him There's a 8 year age difference I know I feel so upset though everyday it hurts I just wanna speak to him
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 After he said all those things to you, you don't want to go back to him. Let him go! When someone wants to leave show them the door. It hurts now, but it will get better with time. It's so hard though easier said than done, I need to go collect my things from him Aswell it's gonna be so hard.
David87 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It's so hard though easier said than done, I need to go collect my things from him Aswell it's gonna be so hard. Why don't you send a friend to do it?
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 Why don't you send a friend to do it? I want to see him so badly though I can't help myself I don't understand what happend he used to text me all the time saying how beautiful I was and how much he misses me and then a week later this happens?!
David87 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I want to see him so badly though I can't help myself I don't understand what happend he used to text me all the time saying how beautiful I was and how much he misses me and then a week later this happens?! He dumped you, period. He doesnt want nothing to do with you, he doesnt consider you good enough to be part of his life ok ? I know it hurts like hell....but why do you want to see him, you hope that he will take you back ?????? Don't, send a friend to pick up your things and start NC, it's the only way. 1
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 He dumped you, period. He doesnt want nothing to do with you, he doesnt consider you good enough to be part of his life ok ? I know it hurts like hell....but why do you want to see him, you hope that he will take you back ?????? Don't, send a friend to pick up your things and start NC, it's the only way. I text him about an hour ago explaining I needed my things and he said he can meet me after work and give me them ? :/
David87 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I text him about an hour ago explaining I needed my things and he said he can meet me after work and give me them ? :/ Well go get your things, but after that start NC.
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 Me and my boyfriend have been broken up for 2 weeks now he broke up with me i am finding it so difficult. i have not heard from him since last wednesday only because i text him so i can collect my things from him. I just really wanna hear from him its making me so upset.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Darn it, I keep getting you confused with another poster. My apologies. That being said, you have to stop calling him your boyfriend. He's your ex. You aren't going to get better until you accept the reality of your situation. Doesn't seem like you are quite there yet.
Harradin Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 The longer you go without contact with him, the better it gets. It doesn't feel like it but days turn into weeks, which turn into months and one day you wake up and realize that you're completely indifferent and couldn't care less anymore! In the meantime you have to keep yourself busy, its hard but possible . And do refer to him as your ex, not as your boyfriend now you're broken up.
umirano Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 I'm really sorry this happened to you. I remember when I got dumped the first time. I couldn't eat and think for a few days. You need to put it aside actively in your mind. Anything goes, as long as it gets your thoughts of him. If you try to talk to him or look him up on social networks you will prolong your pain. It will not help you getting him back. You need to move on. Be selfish, do anything that makes you feel good. If you must, go party a lot with friends, or play a sport excessively. Just stop dwelling on your break up. All the best to you!
sugarlove Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Love, let go let go let go... remember that a guy who really loves you will not choose to break up with you, knowing that doing so might risk losing you forever. If he is willing to take the risk, then let him suffer the consequences of his decision. Move on, move better! You are beautiful and strong! He will return one day, they mostly all do, but don't hold on to that hope. INstead, hold on to the hope that you'll move on by the time he returns, so take steps now. Don't even bother talking to him, you just want him to call you to say it's a mistake... and then what? THe trust is broken.. as hard as it is, there will always be a doubt in your heart from now on that he might leave again. So it's doomed... don't wait for him, grab your stuff and get out of there! You can do it!!! 1
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 I'm really sorry this happened to you. I remember when I got dumped the first time. I couldn't eat and think for a few days. You need to put it aside actively in your mind. Anything goes, as long as it gets your thoughts of him. If you try to talk to him or look him up on social networks you will prolong your pain. It will not help you getting him back. You need to move on. Be selfish, do anything that makes you feel good. If you must, go party a lot with friends, or play a sport excessively. Just stop dwelling on your break up. All the best to you! Thankyou this post really cheered me up
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 Love, let go let go let go... remember that a guy who really loves you will not choose to break up with you, knowing that doing so might risk losing you forever. If he is willing to take the risk, then let him suffer the consequences of his decision. Move on, move better! You are beautiful and strong! He will return one day, they mostly all do, but don't hold on to that hope. INstead, hold on to the hope that you'll move on by the time he returns, so take steps now. Don't even bother talking to him, you just want him to call you to say it's a mistake... and then what? THe trust is broken.. as hard as it is, there will always be a doubt in your heart from now on that he might leave again. So it's doomed... don't wait for him, grab your stuff and get out of there! You can do it!!! Thankyou Aswell this Post made me happier 1
Author Heartbroken1994 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 So it's been almost 3 weeks since our breakup now and I have gone no contact other than I text him to collect my stuff from I quickly got my stuff he asked how I was blah blah blah and I left. But I saw him at event yesterday I didn't even realise it was him so I probably went to walk straight past him. I felt a tap on my arm I turned around and to my surprise it was him! He asked me how I was he brought up that I still have things at his. I asked him if there were more things when I picked up the first lot of stuff he said he would text me if there was so why didn't he just text me? He left it this long untill he saw me to tell me? I left the event and went to sleep I woke up the next day and I had a text from him saying he can post my things to me whenver I want. I really don't understand him why take all this time to tell me I still have things at his and why text me after he saw me a few hours earlier it's giving me a bit of false hope????
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 There's no rhyme or reason but you recognize it correctly as false hope. Don't get sucked in.
Griesfootball Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Assuming he broke up with you. Maybe he isn't totally done or he is assessing the situation. Him having more of your stuff still gives him control and a reason for you guys to talk. If he honestly didn't care at all wouldn't he just give you everything at once? 1
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