kitty13 Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Had a wonderful Valentine's Day over the weekend with my boyfriend. Called him on Monday to see if he wanted to meet with some friends for drinks. He returned call, but was unable to get together due to work. Everything seemed fine. Have not heard from him since then and since I made the call, I am concerned there is something wrong. It may or may not have anything to do with me, but when I feel there have been little things that are less than perfect, I worry. Do men let the little things get to them? Or are they just little things that are gone and forgotten? I love this man and do not want to feel so sad when I don't hear from him. He's not a big one for calling and has not signed on to his IM in the last couple of days. Last night I sent a brief email asking how his week is going and that I was thinking of him. He read it, but did not respond. I am older and feel like I should know these answers, but don't want to assume anything or doubt him for unnecessary reasons.
alphamale Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by kitty13 Do men let the little things get to them? No
whichwayisup Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 What we think are and could be small issues - really aren't to men. The thought process of a guy is simple and basically it's like this...Short sweet and to the point. Anything more, it's lost on them. Don't over analyze anything and just know that if something bothering him has nothing to do with you. I'm sure if it was he'd tell you. Just see how it goes and when he does call, be friendly and make plans for the weekend with him. Don't mention the fact he's not called you. He could have had a really crappy few days and just wasn't up for conversation. Men handle stuff completely different than we do! We talk it out and they keep it in and hide. Good luck though!
Sckott Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 WWIU has a few good points, but to undersell the emotional condition of the average man is completely short sighted. The fact is, none of us know what's wrong or if there IS something wrong. Is it possible he's caught a nasty cold? Maybe he's got things on his mind that could go from hassles at work to maybe another woman. It's normal for you to feel weird. When will you see him again? Do you both have a open-door policy to see each other? You might wanna pop in and make sure he's ok. If you both have a real relationship, it's perfectly understandable that you're curious.
sinkerswim Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 well kitty.. you sound just like me... My post is kind of similar as well... I think guys just "think" differently. We as women get all paranoid over little things.. (well I know I do) I would try to write or call him again... to see whats up. But thats just me. GOOD LUCK!
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted February 18, 2005 Posted February 18, 2005 I agree that it's probably nothing, but if you really think it's something, why are you asking us? Call HIM and ask HIM how he's doing and how he is feeling and dont complain that he hasn't called, just make it sound like you care, which you likely do.
Author kitty13 Posted February 18, 2005 Author Posted February 18, 2005 Thank you for the responses that were relevant and sincere. The song lyrics did not fit! Sometimes it's hard to call when you feel unsure of yourself. As I said originally, I am older, over 50 and have not dated in years. So these feelings are new and I don't want my man to feel like I am unsure of him. Thankfully, I have called and talked with him. We were both having a bad week full of frustrations. The difference is, I would have talked openly about mine, he needed sometime to want to talk. Love is having patience, understanding, compassion, but it can be frustrating. The question we all have to answer is, Is it worth it? At this point and time I would say YES. The interesting thing to me is, Love feels the same today as it did at 16, 18, 23, 40 etc.
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