Griesfootball Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 (edited) My ex broke it off after 13 months with me on April 7, so we are almost at the 3 month post breakup point. We had contact linger on for a few weeks after breakup. No contact for 3 weeks followed, then she texted me we had a little talk she said she was talking to a guy and that he's great, I lied saying I'm happy for you. The next day she said I need to tell you something that may change how you feel, she said they had sex. Conversation turned into a fight with 3 more weeks of contact until spending time with my ex in an unavoidable environment. We talked when we saw each other and She said she told me she had sex with that guy because she thought it would push me away as I was the begging man during this part of the breakup. I can't confirm if she actually had sex with this guy or if she was just telling me to make her jealous so there's that part,It's been back to no contact for 10 days. What I'm wondering is what's going on, she hasn't dated anybody that I know of she had told me she had just hung out with a few people (people that she didn't normally hang out with before). The guy she was talking to went back to his ex which made her mad, I tried to stay away and make her feel that guilt for looking at a false love she thought she had. We both are limited to who we meet. She works at the front desk for her father at a car shop, neither of us are drinkers, and her step mom who she lives with is a cop( only sees real mom 3-4 times a year) so her parents are very protective of her. When I work it is usually solo, also I play hockey and go to school in the winter so it's off season for that stuff. When we actually get to 3 months after the breakup do I ask to hang out if she's single still or do I continue no contact and avoid any upset? Edited June 29, 2014 by Griesfootball
elseaacych Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 When you break up, you both become single. It doesn't mean anything at all other than she doesn't want to be with you. Move on to someone who actually wants to be with you and won't leave you. 1
Author Griesfootball Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 I try not to read into things but we had a discussion 2 weeks ago during the unavoidable time about belongings and she still has stuff from me and when I asked for my house key back she seemed shocked saying I didn't think you would ask for it back almost like she doesn't care about it but she doesn't like the thought of another girl having it, seems possessive
sugarlove Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 "Seems possessive." You are reading too much into how she feels, what she say. Don't use that as an ego boost. This girl has been giving you crumbs for months and talking about sex with other guys. Ugh, not classy. She has little respect for how you feel, please do yourself a favor and NOT hang out with her.
Author Griesfootball Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 Move on. Fellow women...please...never ever use this tactic to get your guy's attention. It will destroy the most important element of a relationship. Trust. Anything, even showing up at his door naked, is better than claiming to have had sex with another man. That is poison. When I confronted her about it which I tried not to be jealous but that's something I don't think any guy wants to hear, she said "it was just sex" shows where her head is/was at
Simon Phoenix Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 No dude, it means nothing at all. You really need to stop checking in with her. 2
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