Peacefulness phase after breakup?

[BearMox]

But I know the peacefulness is just a phase, and it will go away. (Just like the heartbreak.) <snip>

 

I've never heard of this "peacefulness after breakup" before. In reflecting after my divorce I'm wondering if I was in such a phase.

 

Does anyone have any experiences or insights on this?

[StrongLass]

I know I experienced something that sounds similar after my relationship of over three plus years came crashing down for good; but at that point his lies, deception, & betrayal had been taxing me emotionally/mentally/physically so heavily for 2-5 months beforehand that all of it being over provided an immediate sense of relief.

 

I can imagine that others in such toxic situations experience similar relief at the poison simply being GONE.

[elseaacych]

My ex had been particularly unkind to me in the weeks before he broke up with me, to the point where I was starting contemplating breaking up with him over it. So, for about a month after the break up I was pretty okay, all things considered.

[sugarlove]

I think the peacefulness might be numbness to toxicity and then the acceptance that things will get better because they are. My ex husband was really abusive and it was a toxic relationship.

 

When I finally left, I had the same ups and downs, then a moment of intense peace.. it's hard to describe, I think I evaluate my part in the divorce, felt I did try my best, felt I did stayed as long as I can and have no regrets. That might be the peace that he was talking about.

[Oregon_Dude]

Hi OP, I think for me it was a sense of acceptance and relief at the relationship finally being over, combined with optimism for the future and finding a mature, adult woman: the kind of person I realize I have never dated.