SmartDude Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Hello everyone I have something that I have been thinking about lately. Was hoping to draw upon others experiences and viewpoints. I am currently single. To be honest I really like it at this moment in life. I like NOT being in a relationship almost as much as I enjoy being in one sometimes. That being said, I love sex,intimacy and companionship. Sometimes when women say things like "men only want women for sex", I think they misunderstand what a guy like me feels inside. I enjoy the sex but its more that that. I feel a real sense of bonding and intimacy, an adventure, and the excitement of getting to share an experience with someone. And on top of that, I really enjoy activities were there is no sex involved. Just hanging out together and doing fun things. But society has these unspoken rules that say: if you don't commit yourself to some one you are incapable of feeling love for them. A personal example: I own a small business that is next to another business were a certain someone works. I see her there everyday pretty much. I can clearly see that she is young, lonely and bored at times. She has expressed attraction, but I was involved in another situation so I could not give a "response" at the time. The thing is she is most likely way to young for me, probably 12 years at least age difference. She has a lot of great qualities but I just feel that she is not my type. So ok, some of you are thinking good you should not hit on her and others here might say go for it,you never know what might happen right? I feel like I want to show her a good time, ad to her life experience in a positive way, have sex and fun times and then umm leave her...? But then that’s not right either. And everyone in that shopping center would hate my guts after dumping her *my imagination running wild* lol. And then to make it all worse, I start thinking "well,maybe if we get together my perspective will change and I might see her as relationship material."....But ughh, that is not very likely is it? In all of this I notice my own need for affection and a yearning to fill the days with meaning or some kind of purpose. The gal next door, I feel empathy for her, I want to reach out in a way that is like "hey let's just go do something fun after work, but lets not get all weird or serious about it."...yet I don't, out of fear of .....hurting her? *sigh*
travelbug1996 Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 yea leave her be and find someone else that may actually be more of a fit for you. 1
Assasda Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Hahaha, then why not just go out with her. Its always better to just go through with it, instead of asking "what if" It doesnt have to be serious, and you dont have to explain yourself to this young lady, if the end she might even respect you more for it 1
GemmaUK Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Hello everyone I have something that I have been thinking about lately. Was hoping to draw upon others experiences and viewpoints. I am currently single. To be honest I really like it at this moment in life. I like NOT being in a relationship almost as much as I enjoy being in one sometimes. That being said, I love sex,intimacy and companionship. Sometimes when women say things like "men only want women for sex", I think they misunderstand what a guy like me feels inside. I enjoy the sex but its more that that. I feel a real sense of bonding and intimacy, an adventure, and the excitement of getting to share an experience with someone. And on top of that, I really enjoy activities were there is no sex involved. Just hanging out together and doing fun things. But society has these unspoken rules that say: if you don't commit yourself to some one you are incapable of feeling love for them. A personal example: I own a small business that is next to another business were a certain someone works. I see her there everyday pretty much. I can clearly see that she is young, lonely and bored at times. She has expressed attraction, but I was involved in another situation so I could not give a "response" at the time. The thing is she is most likely way to young for me, probably 12 years at least age difference. She has a lot of great qualities but I just feel that she is not my type. So ok, some of you are thinking good you should not hit on her and others here might say go for it,you never know what might happen right? I feel like I want to show her a good time, ad to her life experience in a positive way, have sex and fun times and then umm leave her...? But then that’s not right either. And everyone in that shopping center would hate my guts after dumping her *my imagination running wild* lol. And then to make it all worse, I start thinking "well,maybe if we get together my perspective will change and I might see her as relationship material."....But ughh, that is not very likely is it? In all of this I notice my own need for affection and a yearning to fill the days with meaning or some kind of purpose. The gal next door, I feel empathy for her, I want to reach out in a way that is like "hey let's just go do something fun after work, but lets not get all weird or serious about it."...yet I don't, out of fear of .....hurting her? *sigh* And that's where it's never easy. You say show her a good time and leave her. Women get this too..we want to have fun and walk too..the price for us is too high (reputation) so most of us don't do that. Have you never wondered why vibes are such big sellers? It's been years since I was sexually er..satisfied..*blush* Almost 5 years! Last time I had a just a hug was April 2013! But hey it's OK cos most think I am pretty and slim and therefore most think I have a new man every week....*sigh* 2
Elle1975 Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 Hello everyone I have something that I have been thinking about lately. Was hoping to draw upon others experiences and viewpoints. I am currently single. To be honest I really like it at this moment in life. I like NOT being in a relationship almost as much as I enjoy being in one sometimes. That being said, I love sex,intimacy and companionship. Sometimes when women say things like "men only want women for sex", I think they misunderstand what a guy like me feels inside. I enjoy the sex but its more that that. I feel a real sense of bonding and intimacy, an adventure, and the excitement of getting to share an experience with someone. And on top of that, I really enjoy activities were there is no sex involved. Just hanging out together and doing fun things. But society has these unspoken rules that say: if you don't commit yourself to some one you are incapable of feeling love for them. A personal example: I own a small business that is next to another business were a certain someone works. I see her there everyday pretty much. I can clearly see that she is young, lonely and bored at times. She has expressed attraction, but I was involved in another situation so I could not give a "response" at the time. The thing is she is most likely way to young for me, probably 12 years at least age difference. She has a lot of great qualities but I just feel that she is not my type. So ok, some of you are thinking good you should not hit on her and others here might say go for it,you never know what might happen right? I feel like I want to show her a good time, ad to her life experience in a positive way, have sex and fun times and then umm leave her...? But then that’s not right either. And everyone in that shopping center would hate my guts after dumping her *my imagination running wild* lol. And then to make it all worse, I start thinking "well,maybe if we get together my perspective will change and I might see her as relationship material."....But ughh, that is not very likely is it? In all of this I notice my own need for affection and a yearning to fill the days with meaning or some kind of purpose. The gal next door, I feel empathy for her, I want to reach out in a way that is like "hey let's just go do something fun after work, but lets not get all weird or serious about it."...yet I don't, out of fear of .....hurting her? *sigh* It's perfectly fine to show someone "a good time" as long as you are crystal clear on your intentions.
Author SmartDude Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 It's perfectly fine to show someone "a good time" as long as you are crystal clear on your intentions. I agree completely, although that has the potential to be difficult. Only way to go really though. I wonder how I would go about that hmmm....What is a young woman's ultimate fantasy first get together that is not too boring, not too hot, but just perfect?
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