baffled - why would he chose the other girl?!

[CaitlinArnie]

Ok so I'm not actually speaking from my own experience, but this guys behaviour has baffled me.

 

My good friend, lets call her C, hooked up with this guy, A, after a breakup. They saw each other a couple of times, but nothing came of it, though he seemed to quite like her. I wasn't initially surprised because she had just broken up with someone else and he lived in a different city. She also told me he had a really bad premature ejaculation problem, which she didn't mind per se, but didn't make for a great hook up partner. However, she didn't tell him she wasn't looking for anything more than that, they just didn't speak a great deal afterwards, so its not like she ruled it out with him.

 

I'm biased here, but C is lovely. She is very pretty, intelligent, kind etc. She can be quite shy at first, but she seemed at ease with the guy, A, when I saw them together.

 

In other words, I don't understand why anyone would NOT want to be with her - I assumed he either wasn't looking for a girlfriend, since he's never had a real girlfriend before, or that the distance put him off.

 

So I was surprised when I heard - then saw on facebook - that A was seeing another girl. I don't know her particularly well, but she doesn't have anything in common with him, is quite unattractive - wears a LOT of make-up. She is very loud, he is quite quiet. She is very working class whereas he comes from a well off family. I'm not saying this to be snobby (my family are working class!), but just to highlight that they seem to have zero in common.

 

I know that everyone has their own taste, and maybe in private they are really good together?

 

But it just baffles me that a guy would go for this girl over my friend C. She definitely would not have turned down A if he'd really wanted to pursue things.

 

My initial thought would be, is he going out with this girl so he becomes better in bed? could it be because of the convenience? Because they just don't seem to "click" from what I can see.

 

So I'd like some opinions if anyone can offer them;

 

Would guys go out with someone they weren't fussed on,if it helped them become better in bed? Would a guy ever chose a girl he liked less if it was more convenient?

 

I know i'm bias but I really have been baffled haha

[Elle1975]

Ok so I'm not actually speaking from my own experience, but this guys behaviour has baffled me.

 

My good friend, lets call her C, hooked up with this guy, A, after a breakup. They saw each other a couple of times, but nothing came of it, though he seemed to quite like her. I wasn't initially surprised because she had just broken up with someone else and he lived in a different city. She also told me he had a really bad premature ejaculation problem, which she didn't mind per se, but didn't make for a great hook up partner. However, she didn't tell him she wasn't looking for anything more than that, they just didn't speak a great deal afterwards, so its not like she ruled it out with him.

 

I'm biased here, but C is lovely. She is very pretty, intelligent, kind etc. She can be quite shy at first, but she seemed at ease with the guy, A, when I saw them together.

 

In other words, I don't understand why anyone would NOT want to be with her - I assumed he either wasn't looking for a girlfriend, since he's never had a real girlfriend before, or that the distance put him off.

 

So I was surprised when I heard - then saw on facebook - that A was seeing another girl. I don't know her particularly well, but she doesn't have anything in common with him, is quite unattractive - wears a LOT of make-up. She is very loud, he is quite quiet. She is very working class whereas he comes from a well off family. I'm not saying this to be snobby (my family are working class!), but just to highlight that they seem to have zero in common.

 

I know that everyone has their own taste, and maybe in private they are really good together?

 

But it just baffles me that a guy would go for this girl over my friend C. She definitely would not have turned down A if he'd really wanted to pursue things.

 

My initial thought would be, is he going out with this girl so he becomes better in bed? could it be because of the convenience? Because they just don't seem to "click" from what I can see.

 

So I'd like some opinions if anyone can offer them;

 

Would guys go out with someone they weren't fussed on,if it helped them become better in bed? Would a guy ever chose a girl he liked less if it was more convenient?

 

I know i'm bias but I really have been baffled haha

 

He might have turned her down as relationship material because it started off as a hook up.

 

I am uneasy with comments such as "she's ugly". She might not be a super model, but she might be charming, smart, and caring. These are basic good qualities. It's not always about looks.

 

Are you sure your ego isn't just hurt? Do some digging. You probably aren't interested in that guy to begin with.

[CaitlinArnie]

He might have turned her down as relationship material because it started off as a hook up.

 

I am uneasy with comments such as "she's ugly". She might not be a super model, but she might be charming, smart, and caring. These are basic good qualities. It's not always about looks.

 

Are you sure your ego isn't just hurt? Do some digging. You probably aren't interested in that guy to begin with.

 

I know it comes across as shallow and yes, she might be a lovely person. They just don't seem to match well as a couple, whereas him and my friend were quite cute.

 

It's nothing to do with my ego, i'm merely an outside observer. My friend hasn't really offered her opinion on the whole thing.

[FitChick]

He might feel not good enough for your friend, who only saw him as a hook up. If this lower class woman rejects him it won't hurt him as much since he might not be as invested. She is someone who is probably grateful to 'date up' and would put up with bad sex.