Strangely_Evil Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Hey all, Let me just tell you my story. Also I am seeking for a little advice as I'm a little bit lost as what to do. here's the story: I work in a hotel with a lot of attractive ladies. I've had a crush on one from the beginning, but as I just came out of a relationship myself, I wasn't looking for anything with her. Quickly we built up a nice stable (friendly/flirty) relationship. Again I did not seek for anything else. In two years she has had 2 different boyfriends that did not work out. I was not too happy when I heard that she had gotten a boyfriend. Yet, I didn't show her or anything of the sort, because I told myself I wasn't looking for a relationship with her. After the breakup of her last relationship we got very close, cause she broke up, kinda the same way I did with my last relationship, so i was able to help and advise her a lot. We became even closer after this and we started talking daily for about a month, late nights, first thing in the morning and all that. So then I started thinking about a relationship with her, and started probing her with questions/test that she was into me. She seemed to pass all my test being flirty and all that, maybe looking back she just felt too comfortable with me. So there it was, I confessed my feelings for her. She was surprised, and didn't notice (so she said). So now two days have passed after this event and we are not talking to much anymore. Just a few sentences throughout the day. She does work full-time and did message me during work. I'm confused at what to do next. Should I ignore her, in the hope she will develop or realise that she has interests in me. Should I carry on as we were and become super friend zoned (if such a thing exists)? What would you do in this situation. We are both around 26 and have a hell of a lot in common. Thanks for reading
Elle1975 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Accept the rejection and carry on. I wouldn't give her a "silence treatment", as she apparently did nothing wrong but feeling awkward; and beside, it's work. 2
DArtagnan2 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I would try to carry on as usual. But if she is acting weird, it may be a good idea to say something and make her feel its Ok for you both to just be friends if she isn't in to you.
chphan Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 So there it was, I confessed my feelings for her. She was surprised, and didn't notice (so she said). So now two days have passed after this event and we are not talking to much anymore. Just a few sentences throughout the day. She does work full-time and did message me during work. I'm confused at what to do next. Should I ignore her, in the hope she will develop or realise that she has interests in me. Move on. She was comfortable with you because she had you in friend zone. Even good friends flirt with each other now and and then. You took her friendship as a sign of interest. Common mistake. She is slowly distancing herself is a sign that she doesn't want to send anymore wrong signal so get a clue. Move on. Don't be a pathetic loser sitting around and hoping she will fall in love with you.
FitChick Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Be polite but always too busy to talk to her. Give her time to miss you because that way she will know for sure if she only likes you as a friend or wants something more. Of course, this will only work if there is physical attraction. If she never found you attractive (did her exes look similar to you?) she will just miss your friendship.
Author Strangely_Evil Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 Move on. She was comfortable with you because she had you in friend zone. Even good friends flirt with each other now and and then. You took her friendship as a sign of interest. Common mistake. She is slowly distancing herself is a sign that she doesn't want to send anymore wrong signal so get a clue. Move on. Don't be a pathetic loser sitting around and hoping she will fall in love with you. Be polite but always too busy to talk to her. Give her time to miss you because that way she will know for sure if she only likes you as a friend or wants something more. Of course, this will only work if there is physical attraction. If she never found you attractive (did her exes look similar to you?) she will just miss your friendship. Thanks you two, that's all the advice I needed. With this I will go on my way. This topic can be closed/deleted
Assasda Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 YOu've seen way to many movies about "confessing your feelings" You were in the friendzone before you confessed. I think youre in no-zone now
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