waited six months for sex

[FitChick]

Six dates in six months does not a relationship make. I think he has a wife or real girlfriend elsewhere so isn't technically cheating on her by spending a little time with you.

[guest569]

Are you exclusive? reasons could be impotence, sexual orientation, depression, grief, lack of libido, virginity or inexperience, unwillingness to commit, dating and having sex with others. I think you should talk to him about it as the possible explanations vary. Ask him what exactly he wants from the relationship and how does he define "fun time". What are the boundaries and limits etc.

[DArtagnan2]

If a woman waits 6 months and hasn't had sex, she's perfectly normal.

 

If a man waits 6 months and hasn't had sex, he's abnormal, a freak, impotent, has HIV/AIDS, is a creep, should be dumped.

 

Gotta love society's view on sexuality.

 

I said the same thing earlier, but my comment was removed.

 

I am guessing it ok to talk about "wangs", std's, sex, and other offensive things, but saying something like this will be removed.

 

Gotta love it.

[guest569]

I said the same thing earlier, but my comment was removed.

 

I am guessing it ok to talk about "wangs", std's, sex, and other offensive things, but saying something like this will be removed.

 

Gotta love it.

 

Exactly, i find that really insulting that the man must have HIV or something wrong with him. There could be soooo many reasons, just a few which I have suggested in my previous comment.

[giblesp]

Leave him, you deserve better. Why are you even asking us? You want more than what he's giving and you deserve that.

[Michelle ma Belle]

You say you want something serious and not sex only, yet you are spending time with a man who has said he doesn't want you that way. Plus you say you are not into sex only but you want to know why this man who doesn't want a relationship with you has not tried to take you to bed. Wouldn't it be better to stop seeing him and date a man who wants a relationship with you and sex?

 

Exactly.

 

Lots of contradictions in your posts so it makes it hard to believe what is really going and how to advise you accordingly.

 

Here's a thought...ASK HIM!

 

I am constantly amazed how many people view communication as a last resort and prefer to twitch in the wind endlessly while over analyzing things and probably creating problems where there aren't any.

 

If he's in 40's I would assume you're close to his age which would make you mature enough to know better.

 

Just confront him already or move on.

[lino]

Love how it's assumed that any man who doesn't rush to stick his d*ck in a hole is gay, has diseases, etc

 

 

If a woman waits 6 months and hasn't had sex, she's perfectly normal.

 

If a man waits 6 months and hasn't had sex, he's abnormal, a freak, impotent, has HIV/AIDS, is a creep, should be dumped.

 

Gotta love society's view on sexuality.

 

 

 

Exactly.

 

 

A woman wants to wait before having sex, she is exercising her boundaries and that must be respected.

If the man doesn't agree, he is a swine who just wants sex and nothing else.

 

 

A man doesn't try to have sex instantly with a woman, he is gay, has aids, is dysfunctional, whatever other moronic reason.

 

 

Believe this is double standard # 548167959

[lonesurvivorever]

Thank you all for the great inputs.

 

Yeah, I will just ask him directly next time. Only open communication is the right thing to do.

[SoleMate]

You've never even been alone together....never even been in each other's homes. And it seems a hotel is out of the question. This is definitely unusual, so I would need a lot more info to know precisely what is going on. (My #1 guess is that he's married/committed elsewhere and wants a little EA but for whatever reason shies away from PA. Some men just don't have the nerve/nerves for it.)