Georgia2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 (edited) Today I am filled with all kind of stress/anxiety. My ex fiancée and I broke up last Saturday. The last time I saw him was the next day. I am moving my stuff out tomorrow. I will have my dad, step mom and sister helping me. How can I get through this? I don't want him to see me upset. What should I say if he says something to upset/anger me. Also I am sure he will probably have at least one friend with him. What should I say if his friend says anything? I am also worried he will say things to his company so I will hear it just to upset/anger me. I am dreading tomorrow badly. I will be happy when it is over with. Edited June 28, 2014 by Georgia2014
Author Georgia2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 My ex fiancée and I broke up last Saturday. It was a nasty breakup it is to hurtful to explain the details. I did love him but due to how the breakup was it showed he didn't love me as much as he claimed. He swore he was different than my other ex's. It still hurts us breaking up. What's worse is tomorrow when I move my stuff out won't be the last time I see him. He works at a business I have to have some legal stuff taken care of. I want to make him regret us breaking up. I have thought about getting a new hair style and getting a new outfit to make myself feel better. I also know it will shock him to see how I am improving myself since the breakup. He has it far worse than I do with dating due to a physical disability. How can I get past the I want to make him regret us breaking up stage? I don't want him back due to how he behaved during the moments that lead to the break up.
biddybud Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Hi Georgia2014, I'm so sorry that your going through this. I had a similar experience, only in regards to having to move my stuff out of his flat, that we had shared for a year, at the end of May. I couldn't bear to see him, it would have been too much. I therefore arranged through a friend of mine to go round and gather all my belongings while he was at work. This helped no end as I was able to really say goodbye to the place. If he would be willing I think this would really be the best option for you. If not and he insists on being there, or if you want him to be there, then the support of your family is crucial. There will be times when you will want to sob or scream... I did that. But if you can manage it, save that for when you are in your car on the way to your new home. If you wanna style your hair up, do it for after, you don't want the haircut "just because you had to get your stuff", that should be for you, because you want to make yourself look amazing, FOR YOU, not because of him. I get it though, you want to look insanely good for when you see him- but a week after your break, babe, your meant to be mess! I was for 4 weeks after, still am on occasion. I ca imagine he would be civil enough to not say anything to hurt or upset you further, especially as your family will be there. And if he does, you will have support there to sort him out, you wont have to. Take it a step at a time and take solitude that this will be one of the hardest parts, but it will be over and you'll be a step closer to healing.
SoThatHappened Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 (edited) I don't know if it's a good idea for either of you to be there. Arrange for things to be picked up when he's not there. Or arrange for friends/family to pick things up. Emotions, especially at this stage, can make the situation worse than it is. You will probably regret and question anything you do for a long time, especially when there are emotions involved. I recommend getting your stuff without him there, if at all possible. You probably "want" to see him, but don't. Beeeeelieeeeve me... separate the emotions from the situation. You will be glad you did down the road, whether or not things work out with him after this is in the past. I'm sorry for your situation. Good luck though Edited June 28, 2014 by SoThatHappened 1
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