alexwood Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 me and my friend went out last night out of town to dinner and the mall. i told her it was date and she said ok but i figured it wasnt a serious date (we dated before and it didnt go good) at the mall we were at a store and i looked across and saw my friend working at american eagle, while my friend was cashing out i told her i was going to walk over to american eagle. i went over and talked to my friend. then i went back with my "date" and we walked past american eagle and my friend said "bye " to me.. my "date" got all upset saying it was ****ty of me to go say hi to another girl when i dropped her off at her car a few hours later she said "im not stupid" i said why and she said i saw you snapchattwo girls while we were on a date. why would you do that? i really dropped the ball..lol i feel bad and yes i snapchatted two girls but i have been friends with them for a few years how can i make this up to my friend
Potz4prez Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I can see why dating her didn't go well the first time...
Author alexwood Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 I can see why dating her didn't go well the first time... i know i messed up i apologized
GemmaUK Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I agree with Potz... You didn't do anything wrong. She is hard work! My guess is that you did something 'wrong in her eyes' last time too. 2
haribogumsnickers Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 You should've grouped snap chat with her with the other two girls. You left her out. But on the real, she wants you all to herself. While you say you two are just hanging out as friends, she sees it as a date. Clarify your intentions with her to avoid future unnecessary apologies for greeting other female friends. Have a frosty waffle cone while you're at it. It's so good and cheap at Wendy's. Disregard that last one. 2
Potz4prez Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 i know i messed up i apologized No no no... it's not you, it's her! Sorry I didn't elaborate She's pretty insecure if she can't handle you having female friends. She was obviously taking your "date" more seriously than you were.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Don't ask her on dates if it's not serious to you. I mean, if you say it's a date, treat it like one. The mall is not a date. Your and her interpretation of this mall trip were clearly different. What are your intentions with this girl?
bubbaganoosh Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 You have any idea what a date is? it means you and the person you asked to accompany you go out and do something. When you on a date, at least have the common sense to put you phone in your pocket and spend the time with her. I understand if you need to answer the phone if it's an emergency but to just make small talk with other people isn't a priority and it shows a basic lack of maturity and respect. Wise up soon because you traveling the path that will always lead to dead ends if you don't stop with the text messaging things that aren't important. 2
DArtagnan2 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 while it was innocent you talking to your friends, you were on a date. I guess the only way to have maybe get through it smoothly would have been to wait for your date to cash out and take her over to meet your friend. Also, doing any texting, snap chatting and the like is pretty rude while on a date. She was a little over the top in her reaction, but given your two's history, she felt more comfortable going off on you. You can apologize and let her know it isn't what it appears, but when someone has it in their mind that its what they think, no truth from you will matter.
Elle1975 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 me and my friend went out last night out of town to dinner and the mall. i told her it was date and she said ok but i figured it wasnt a serious date (we dated before and it didnt go good) at the mall we were at a store and i looked across and saw my friend working at american eagle, while my friend was cashing out i told her i was going to walk over to american eagle. i went over and talked to my friend. then i went back with my "date" and we walked past american eagle and my friend said "bye " to me.. my "date" got all upset saying it was ****ty of me to go say hi to another girl when i dropped her off at her car a few hours later she said "im not stupid" i said why and she said i saw you snapchattwo girls while we were on a date. why would you do that? i really dropped the ball..lol i feel bad and yes i snapchatted two girls but i have been friends with them for a few years how can i make this up to my friend You're not invested, she can feel it. Do her a favor, and call it. Side note.. Don't use your phone on a date. It's rude.
Assasda Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 The only thing you did wrong was apologize. I'd get sarcastic with her and say "Hey guess what I'm dating the whole mall, I got 23 more dates set up today, youre just the first" - Ask her out again. Thats why I dont like the word "Date", when you mention it, women can put their date-pants on, people become different people, and it becomes not as fun
RonaldS Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 i feel really bad. i do like her Don't feel bad because she's insecure. That's her problem. You're not a psychiatrist.
bubbaganoosh Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 The only thing you did wrong was apologize. I'd get sarcastic with her and say "Hey guess what I'm dating the whole mall, I got 23 more dates set up today, youre just the first" - Ask her out again. Thats why I dont like the word "Date", when you mention it, women can put their date-pants on, people become different people, and it becomes not as fun Re read his post. He asked her out. He said it was a date. He acted like an ass. If it's a date it's a date. If not he should have specifically said "this is not a date so don't consider anything but hanging out". 1
firmness Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 My ex used to be like this. Very high standards of behavior for me. 20 years later I find out it is SHE who is up all night doing all sorts of online activities with other men. I would be skeptical. Several women have told me that when a woman does stuff like this, she is feeling guilty and wanting to get the upper hand/moral high ground. Interesting theory, no?
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