kansara Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Hi everybody! I really need some advice! I am madly in love with this guy,I know him since childhood and I've always had a huge crush for him , but nothing really happened.We are still living in the same neighbourhood, not so close like before, but still... and from the last 5 years we are crossing our roads quite too often, but unfortunately, I am in my car and I'm just passing by him. Since the last june, when I "broked the ice" and I found a reason to talk to him, we start getting a little bit closer and at least we now say "hello!" Even before we used to look into eachother eyes very specialy each time we passing by. In the beggining I was just enjoying seeing him so often, but slowly slowly I realise I want more.I've heard he is alone, but I don't know for sure. Myself I am getting soon the divorce by my actual husband. The big problem is he knows I am still married ( he don't know how "happy"... I am ) and with two children! My instinct tells me he likes me too, but isn’t doing anything about it and I don't know if he would like to get involve with me! I think I make it clear that I like him back… I don't know what to do! I am getting mad! On the one hand I want first to be free, at least my husband to move away, but still I don't know if is good to make myself the first step. I mean what he will thing I am married with two kids and I am doing this thing to him, plus in the worse case he can be still a married man! On the other hand I want something to happen soon, very soon! What can I do? If is a whole week I can't see him at all I'am getting crazy and other times is enough to see him for few seconds and he makes my day! I've even tryied to walk instead of driving, but we don't have some exact time when we meet! Even so what can I tell him first? How can I start talking to him without being too direct, but in the same time to make him understand my feelings for him. What should I do to make him actually make a move? Please tell me ... I welcome as many advices!!! Thank you!
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Hi there! Welcome from... another part of Europe Est-ce que tu es francophone? J'entends une voix latine O eres espanol? Me pareces latina OK, back to English and the advice. The trick is to not attack directly. Ask him for lunch or a coffee or some other light activity (a shared interest for example) which is not a date. Something ambiguous. If he is interested, he will say yes to anything you offer. Or offer an alternative of his own. It's as simple as that. You should not declare your interest at this stage - just be implicit. Enjoy the time together, chat, see if there is a connection, be alert for signals that he wants to meet up again. Tell us what happens!
Author kansara Posted February 17, 2005 Author Posted February 17, 2005 Thank you for your feedback!I will try .... BTW I am latin ... from Romania!
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by kansara Thank you for your feedback!I will try .... BTW I am latin ... from Romania! Go for it... Intreaba si ti se va raspunde
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 gran consejo dado como siempre Romeo.... et vos competences de langue sont tout a fait impressionnantes aussi!!
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ gran consejo dado como siempre Romeo.... Gracias! Era un plaisir! et vos competences de langue sont tout a fait impressionnantes aussi!! *Tes* competences, s'il te plaît. On se connaît suffisament pour se tutoyer comme même! And hey, did you see me do a Romanian proverb too? I'm on a latin binge today
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Gracias! Era un plaisir! usted esta bienvenido. pero usted tiene mas aprender a gales !! *Tes* competences, s'il te plaît. On se connaît suffisament pour se tutoyer comme même Me pardonner. mon francais a tombe un petit pendant que j'ai appris espagnol, l'italien et le gallois. l'erreur bete.
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ Me pardonner. mon francais a tombe un petit pendant que j'ai appris espagnol, l'italien et le gallois. l'erreur bete. T'es pardonnée
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo T'es pardonnée ddiolch 'ch cariad , cei na ddrychfeddwl fel lawer 'ch faddeuant moddion ata
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ ddiolch 'ch cariad , cei na ddrychfeddwl fel lawer 'ch faddeuant moddion ata ???? lol, now I'm confused and need a translation
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo ???? lol, now I'm confused and need a translation hehehehehe
Author kansara Posted February 17, 2005 Author Posted February 17, 2005 I was glad to see lots of answers, but instead ... you talking outside my subject!
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 kansara, romeo gave you the best advice already. talk to him, invite him to grab a coffee. then you will find out if he likes you. if you are still living with your husband then wait until he moves out, if you are separated then there is nothing stopping you now.
karlym3 Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 If he is interested, he will say yes to anything you offer Not always... they could agree but with friendship in mind
_Saffy_ Posted February 17, 2005 Posted February 17, 2005 thats why i said invite him for a coffee, if he agrees, then this is a starting point. if he accepts and it goes well, it will give him the opportunity to take things further.
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