blynnae05 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Has anyone ever followed the No Contact Rule with their ex, unexpectedly with them coming back? I know every relationship is different in their own, unique way. Some work out, some don't, and some just need a breather. My ex hasn't talked to me for almost a week and even though we put out relationship on hold, I still text him things with no replies from him, no matter what I say. He says he still cares, but I just want to see how true that is(it feels like he doesn't care). I'm not going to invest my time worrying about whether he still wants me or not(although he said he did a week ago). I really feel like I will get no where with him if I keep talking to him with no replies from him. Mainly I just want to keep myself busy and try and move on emotionally just so I don't expect anything and get hurt. The temptation of talking to him is dying because it gets old when I feel like I'm talking to myself. We ended on good terms but I don't know how he feels, but I believe doing No Contact will tell me everything in timely manner. So, has No Contact Rule worked for anyone?? 1
killerheels Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 But you're not following NC. You're texting him! Or did I misread that? Stop ALL contact. Text, phone, IM social media. Dead. His life should be irrelevant. If you want to find out if NC works then at least do it properly and see. While you text him breadcrumbs he's got the upper hand.
organizedchaos Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Has anyone ever followed the No Contact Rule with their ex, unexpectedly with them coming back? I know every relationship is different in their own, unique way. Some work out, some don't, and some just need a breather. My ex hasn't talked to me for almost a week and even though we put out relationship on hold, I still text him things with no replies from him, no matter what I say. He says he still cares, but I just want to see how true that is(it feels like he doesn't care). I'm not going to invest my time worrying about whether he still wants me or not(although he said he did a week ago). I really feel like I will get no where with him if I keep talking to him with no replies from him. Mainly I just want to keep myself busy and try and move on emotionally just so I don't expect anything and get hurt. The temptation of talking to him is dying because it gets old when I feel like I'm talking to myself. We ended on good terms but I don't know how he feels, but I believe doing No Contact will tell me everything in timely manner. So, has No Contact Rule worked for anyone?? Do you know how many times this has been asked here? Do a search, you'll be surprised to learn a few things about nc. Mainly, it's not a tool to get them back.
dclan Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Has anyone ever followed the No Contact Rule with their ex, unexpectedly with them coming back? I know every relationship is different in their own, unique way. Some work out, some don't, and some just need a breather. My ex hasn't talked to me for almost a week and even though we put out relationship on hold, I still text him things with no replies from him, no matter what I say. He says he still cares, but I just want to see how true that is(it feels like he doesn't care). I'm not going to invest my time worrying about whether he still wants me or not(although he said he did a week ago). I really feel like I will get no where with him if I keep talking to him with no replies from him. Mainly I just want to keep myself busy and try and move on emotionally just so I don't expect anything and get hurt. The temptation of talking to him is dying because it gets old when I feel like I'm talking to myself. We ended on good terms but I don't know how he feels, but I believe doing No Contact will tell me everything in timely manner. So, has No Contact Rule worked for anyone?? NO CONTACT is not a way of getting them back... Its a way for you to heal and forget your ex. At first its hard, but after a few months you get better. However, the thing about not contacting you ex...is that eventually, your ex might start wondering about you, and about how you are doing (might be because of leftover feelings for you, or just as friendly concern)....and this is because they haven't heard news of you for months. Some exs react this way, because they are posesive: they don't want you, but they do want you to be pinning for them (selfish bastards!). Others do it because they are generally good people: they don't want you, but they are nice people, and want to make sure you are doing ok (unselfish bastards!). here is the thing: the only way for you to be ok, is to MOVE ON If you move on, 1 of 3 possible things will happen: a) You'll be eventually fine, and forgotten your ex, and have fun, either alone, or with someone else -- b) You might eventually meet someone who is much better for you, and that you will love more than you loved your ex -- c) Your ex will realise he/she made a mistake by leaving you, and the trigger for this will be finding out that you are doing ok in life and are much better this way, without him/her-- -------------------------------------------------------- Let me explain how this goes: 1)-- You see...right now, this is the image your ex has about you: "Hello my name is blynnae0, and I am a sad pathethic little creature, crying over my ex, I've gained some weight because the only thing I do every day is stay at homer, eat cookies and text my ex who doesn't love me" Reaction from your ex: :sick::sick::sick::rolleyes: 2)-- This is the image your ex will have after you have moved on, and worked on yourself, and not thinking about him: "Hello my name is blynnae0, and I am a cheerful person, with lots of boyfriends, and dating lots of guys, because I'm very attractive, and any man that would break up with me, is a f****** moron for letting me go. I also go to the gym, and I have an amazing sexy body. Seriously, who wouldn't want me?" Reaction from your ex::love::love::love::bunny: But this will only happen.....if YOU MOVE ON, AND GET YOURSELF BETTER; PRETTIER, AND HAPPY ONCE AGAIN. However, once you get better, and your ex comes crawling back, you will have probably realised he is a douchebag that doesn't deserve you. And when he is on his knees begging for you to take him back, you'll probably laugh at him, and realise you don't want him anymore. SO NO CONTACT!! AND FORGET ABOUT HIM!! MOVING ON IS THE KEY!! **btw, I wasn't trying to be offensive with some of the examples I gave, was just saying that to make a point. In the end, all of us dumpees have a "pathethic" stage when we are crying about our exs, who don't deserve us. The key is moving on with our lives, and getting out of that stage. Eventually everything falls into place 2
love1336x Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Has anyone ever followed the No Contact Rule with their ex, unexpectedly with them coming back? I know every relationship is different in their own, unique way. Some work out, some don't, and some just need a breather. My ex hasn't talked to me for almost a week and even though we put out relationship on hold, I still text him things with no replies from him, no matter what I say. He says he still cares, but I just want to see how true that is(it feels like he doesn't care). I'm not going to invest my time worrying about whether he still wants me or not(although he said he did a week ago). I really feel like I will get no where with him if I keep talking to him with no replies from him. Mainly I just want to keep myself busy and try and move on emotionally just so I don't expect anything and get hurt. The temptation of talking to him is dying because it gets old when I feel like I'm talking to myself. We ended on good terms but I don't know how he feels, but I believe doing No Contact will tell me everything in timely manner. So, has No Contact Rule worked for anyone?? hmmmm, if he not talking to you..... I wouldn't text him.... honestly... Can you called your service provider? You can paid for or sometimes they give it for free for you block a number. and even if you do text, a message will come up and say, "Hey you can't text him!" (not in though exact words!) That's what I did for my recent ex... Its helps!
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