you_can_not_see_me Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I ll admit I am not very outgoing when it comes to women. I don't go to a lot of parties, bars or clubs, so I guess I don't put my self out there much. But, I have asked out a few classmates over the years. I don't know if I just have bad luck or if I really am not attractive to women, But I keep getting rejected when I ask girls out in these contexts, mostly on the grounds that they say they are taken. I understand that rejection is a part of life when it comes to dating, but It has happened enough times where I am starting to question whether girls find me attractive at all. I think I look fine, but that doesn't really matter when the people I am attracted to do seem to agree. I want to push forward and keep trying but the idea that I may not be attractive to women I find attractive eats away at me.
d0nnivain Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 You may simply need to do a better job of prescreening them so you can ask out women who are available. It sounds like you simply ask put women who are already in relationships. 1
haribogumsnickers Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Be more confident in yourself. Keep asking away and don't ever feel you're not attractive enough. You'll find someone in time. Stay money.
mirage12 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Confidence is key. And dating is also a numbers game - don't get discouraged about being rejected a few times. It'll happen a lot more throughout your lifetime, but the more chances you take on asking, the better chance you have of getting a yes.
haribogumsnickers Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Confidence is key. And dating is also a numbers game - don't get discouraged about being rejected a few times. It'll happen a lot more throughout your lifetime, but the more chances you take on asking, the better chance you have of getting a yes. Exactly what you said. With that being said, would you like to go out for some Subway?
mirage12 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Exactly what you said. With that being said, would you like to go out for some Subway? If you're a woman, I'd love to
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted June 27, 2014 Author Posted June 27, 2014 You may simply need to do a better job of prescreening them so you can ask out women who are available. It sounds like you simply ask put women who are already in relationships. But even in cases where the girl was not in a relationship, in spite of getting the girls number things didn't go anywhere. So I don't think its simply that all these girls have been in relationships, I just seems like I am not very appealing to the girls I have asked out so far.
Potz4prez Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 If you think you're unattractive, then you are unattractive. 3
mirage12 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 But even in cases where the girl was not in a relationship, in spite of getting the girls number things didn't go anywhere. So I don't think its simply that all these girls have been in relationships, I just seems like I am not very appealing to the girls I have asked out so far. Give us some more details on situations where this has happened to you and how you handled it.
hasaquestion Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Exactly what you said. With that being said, would you like to go out for some Subway? Hot date. Are you splitting the bill? Its the 21st century so she better be willing to chip in on that $5.75.
spiderowl Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 It probably has little to do with attractiveness, as other posters have said, and more to do with confidence, with selecting the right women, and perhaps style. I know that if a guy sounds really serious when asking a woman so that she feels it's going to matter a lot to him or get scarily serious too soon, she may back out quickly. Try to make asking women out a fun thing to do, in a fun way, in a bit of banter or teasing. Keep the whole thing a little lighthearted. I don't know if that helps. 1
Assasda Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I ll admit I am not very outgoing when it comes to women. I don't go to a lot of parties, bars or clubs, so I guess I don't put my self out there much. But, I have asked out a few classmates over the years. I don't know if I just have bad luck or if I really am not attractive to women, But I keep getting rejected when I ask girls out in these contexts, mostly on the grounds that they say they are taken. I understand that rejection is a part of life when it comes to dating, but It has happened enough times where I am starting to question whether girls find me attractive at all. I think I look fine, but that doesn't really matter when the people I am attracted to do seem to agree. I want to push forward and keep trying but the idea that I may not be attractive to women I find attractive eats away at me. First of all. Good job asking girls out. You are so further along than a lot of guys. The thing is Stop thinking that these girls are rejecting you, because they dont even know you If a girl doesnt go with you, its her loss because you know that youre a fun guy, thats how I look at it. value yourself - Or its just mutual incompatibility Also, that shouldnt make you unhappy man. I mean in the grand scheme of things, you have health, you have food. Go out and support a non-profit, if you ever feel unhappy about your romantic life, and you'll see people who are truly unhappy, Just value yourself, dont be eager to please, dont take anything personally, and you should be great
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 If you think you're unattractive, then you are unattractive. that's the thing, I don't think I am unattractive, I think I m a decent looking guy, but its seems like the girls I ask out don't agree.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 Be more confident in yourself. Keep asking away and don't ever feel you're not attractive enough. You'll find someone in time. Stay money. Its hard to just continue asking when There is a felling that your efforts might be futile. I d love to think that I might meet a girl just around the corner, but my recent experiences have made it hard for me to entertain such an idea.
Potz4prez Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 that's the thing, I don't think I am unattractive, I think I m a decent looking guy, but its seems like the girls I ask out don't agree. The fact that you think you're getting rejected because there's something wrong with you begs to differ. There's just something about them that wasn't compatible... like having a boyfriend. You're probably only asking out taken girls because they're safe to talk to, and you're mistaking friendliness for intent.
haribogumsnickers Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 If you're a woman, I'd love to Negative. Fail for the both of us.
haribogumsnickers Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Hot date. Are you splitting the bill? Its the 21st century so she better be willing to chip in on that $5.75. Subway is a frugal place to grab a bite which lessens the pressure of the first date. That 5.75 can buy a dozen of cookies. Nom nom.
haribogumsnickers Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Its hard to just continue asking when There is a felling that your efforts might be futile. I d love to think that I might meet a girl just around the corner, but my recent experiences have made it hard for me to entertain such an idea. Learn from these experiences to improve your next one. These improvements will make for better experiences and you'll find it easier. Practice and don't expect anything. Have fun and get some.
Potz4prez Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Negative. Fail for the both of us. *guy love, that's all it is Guy love, he's mine I'm his There's nothing gay about it, in our eyes~~~*
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