messedupp Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Hi, I am new to this forum and was wondering if uz can help me. There is this guy I work with and I am head over heels about him, had similar signals from him at the beginning but when I told him I like him and I'd like to be more than friends, he did a back flip. He said he can't do this at work and then totally started ignoring me at work. I agree its not a good idea to mix work and relationships so I tried to fix things by talking to him normally and apologising, but the thing is he went and discussed this with a couple of people at work and now a lot of people at work know I like him and the rumours have done the rounds too. Even so, I am not over him. Some of my mates at work told me to get over him bcoz apparently its evident I like him and it obviously makes me look stupid. Anyways, he acted weird, gave me the silent treatment etc for a while. Then a couple of months ago a mutual friend intervened and told him to stop being an ******* to me and atleast acknowledge my presence. Must admit, since then things have become a lot better. We have even spoken on the phone a couple of times and he talks to me sometimes. When I say he talks, he actually flirts and I react to it even though I should be ignoring it. But the thing is he only talks when we are alone and infront of people at work he completely ignores me. I know that the only option I have is to get over him, coz he is clearly not interested but, I am not able to Please help me get out of this situation.
WhiskeyJack Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Hi there, Welcome to the forum! I'm sorry your in this type of situation, but you are right you need to get over him. I would personally keep all conversations with him about work and not talk to him otherwise. Reacting to his flirting in private isn't helping you much, I would suggest not getting into those situations.
True Gent Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 He sounds like an arsehole... I'm sorry to be blunt, but his behaviour is not acceptable in my opinion. If he's not interested he shouldn't be leading you on, then go spreading the details around your working environment. It's cruel and not something any decent person would want to do. You need to stop giving him the satisfaction of reacting to his private flirting, that's just stroking his ego. You deserve better.
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