Wisecrack Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 This is always a grey area for me. The funny part is with some girls, the ones ive messaged 24/7 I've ended up in a relationship with; others, it has killed the attraction. Then there have been those whom I've messaged rarely and that has built up the attraction too. But I would like a general know how from you guys here. Anyone can give me a general guide line to this? I'm not sure if I'm suppose to message a girl all the time or to give her space? Or should I purely use texting as a means of only organising dates and save interactions to face to face...
Potz4prez Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Let her set the pace of communication. I only reach out to a girl to set up a date, but if she wants to talk inbetween, I'll go along with it. 2
Gaeta Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Each person is different. If the girl is into you she will appreciate you touch base every day or every odd day. If she's not into you then you'll just anyone her even if you text once a week. Because you cannot guess what people like I suggest you act as per what YOU like. If that's compatible with the lady then good, if not she will eliminate herself automatically. No text is not to organize dates, you use the phone for that. Text is to touch base or advice the person you may be late. I made contact with a gentleman last night. He text me good morning and wished me a good day, I did the same and went back to work. That was perfect. I was flattered he was thinking about me and he did not overwhelm me with chitchat. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I exchange about 10-20 texts a day with the woman I'm seeing. It's great fun and we both enjoy it. We've done that since about our 3rd date. Everyone is different. There are no "rules" or "method" that will work every time. 3
preraph Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 There is no formula because each and every person is different. The only way to find someone you are truly compatible with is to move at your natural pace and text or don't text as you feel the need and pick up the phone once in awhile since texting is a crap way to communicate. There's no need to only do it when she wants to or as much as she wants to because do you really want to be stuck with someone who wants updates every five minutes while you're at work? Just be up front if she starts overtexting or undertexting to your needs and just say, Well, I'm in the habit of doing it more or less, no big deal and if you're worlds apart, you're probabaly world's apart in other ways as well, frankly. As in someone who wants to keep tabs on you every day or vice versa and someone who is secure and doesn't need that. So be yourself. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 The correct amount is whatever feels right for both of you. There is no universal standard answer. I would gradually build up contact / communications. Ask Qs along the way.
Assasda Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Its all a matter of what you text too. If youre texting a bunch of "How are you?" and stuff like that, Its really stupid. So, The quality of the communication is important. This question seems really childish - like women are robots and only respond to a certain number of text messages 1
GoreSP Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 This is always a grey area for me. The funny part is with some girls, the ones ive messaged 24/7 I've ended up in a relationship with; others, it has killed the attraction. Then there have been those whom I've messaged rarely and that has built up the attraction too. But I would like a general know how from you guys here. Anyone can give me a general guide line to this? I'm not sure if I'm suppose to message a girl all the time or to give her space? Or should I purely use texting as a means of only organising dates and save interactions to face to face... You answered your own question. Just go with the flow and contact her more or less the same she does.
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I don't appreciate it all the time. And that's me personally. But the I'm not a text fan. If you wanna arrange or talk, I'd appreciate a good old fashion phone call.
irc333 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Actually, if someone else is into you, they won't mind the frequency in which you contact them. If it "killed the attraction" as you put it, chances are they weren't into you in the first place. This is always a grey area for me. The funny part is with some girls, the ones ive messaged 24/7 I've ended up in a relationship with; others, it has killed the attraction. Then there have been those whom I've messaged rarely and that has built up the attraction too. But I would like a general know how from you guys here. Anyone can give me a general guide line to this? I'm not sure if I'm suppose to message a girl all the time or to give her space? Or should I purely use texting as a means of only organising dates and save interactions to face to face...
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