True Gent Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Today was the day I let the ring go that I bought her back in 2007. It's 8 months since she left and I've had her engagement ring hanging around in a cupboard ever since the split. I even moved house with it, because for some strange reason I somehow felt like I was betraying my promise to her if I sold it on. I know she broke us up and even if she changed her mind I don't want to taker her back. There is just something very sad and final about parting with that ring, I know she loved it and it did mean a lot to her at one time in our lives. I remember how I felt about her when I popped the question... It is a shame, but she chose to leave and I'm doing my best to make my life better. Today I just decided that's it! Time to get rid of meaningless sentimental clutter. Surely it's just negative energy now anyway, if you believe in that sort of thing... Well it's gone and I used the money to buy myself some designer sunglasses. That's something I sacrificed for her, I bought her nice things instead of me. So for the first time I went and blew good money on something trendy for me. Hopefully as more time passes, things will not enter my head anymore. That's the hard part for me now, I always think of her/what was (us) at some point everyday. I'm not depressed or tearful, I don't like who she is now. I'm just a little bit empty and jaded. Pointless post really, just wanted to share it here. She's a habit I'm still trying to break. 7
FortunateSon Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 TG, I actually just sold my ex's engagement ring two weeks ago and it was HUGE relief for me. The only thing that frustrated me is that it was a really amazing ring, I wish I could have given it to someone who deserved it! I take a bit of comfort knowing she will NEVER have a ring like that again. I am glad to hear you were able to put the proceeds towards something YOU wanted, enjoy them!! 1
BC1980 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 That's great. I do believe that getting rid of the ring takes away some negative energy. Sometimes, you have to make a concert step like that to truly move on emotionally. 1
No Limit Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Whatever you buy with the money from the ring, it's going to be better than your ex. 1
Author True Gent Posted June 27, 2014 Author Posted June 27, 2014 Thanks guys, I think it was one hurdle I've been subconsciously putting off. She doesn't count anymore, that's really hitting home now and that's a good thing. I guess it's a bit of a scary thought, I'm really moving on. This in itself feels a little weird. Although I know it's good, it's still a bit strange. 1
BC1980 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Thanks guys, I think it was one hurdle I've been subconsciously putting off. She doesn't count anymore, that's really hitting home now and that's a good thing. I guess it's a bit of a scary thought, I'm really moving on. This in itself feels a little weird. Although I know it's good, it's still a bit strange. It's sort of like when people come on LS asking if they should block FB or not. We have all of these ties to our exes, but the truth is the relationship is over. I still have some clothes of my ex's and pictures that belonged to him, but they don't mean anything. I could just as easily not have the belongings, and it would make no difference as to the status of the relationship. It took me many months to remove my ex's phone number from my phone. The ring is the same. It's a link to a past that no longer exists, and I do think it's important to remove all of those links. I mean, obviously there are some things it would be impossible to remove, but I'm all for letting go of any physical reminders that you can possibly get rid of. I know the ring is a pretty big step (bigger than blocking on FB or deleting a phone number), so I applaud you on that. 2
Author True Gent Posted June 27, 2014 Author Posted June 27, 2014 It's sort of like when people come on LS asking if they should block FB or not. We have all of these ties to our exes, but the truth is the relationship is over. I still have some clothes of my ex's and pictures that belonged to him, but they don't mean anything. I could just as easily not have the belongings, and it would make no difference as to the status of the relationship. It took me many months to remove my ex's phone number from my phone. The ring is the same. It's a link to a past that no longer exists, and I do think it's important to remove all of those links. I mean, obviously there are some things it would be impossible to remove, but I'm all for letting go of any physical reminders that you can possibly get rid of. I know the ring is a pretty big step (bigger than blocking on FB or deleting a phone number), so I applaud you on that. Thanks it is a big step with the ring, I actually deactivated my FB acount months ago as it's basically just a documentation of our life together. Maybe when I'm making new memories with someone new I'll go back on there... Not sure yet, anyway that doesn't matter. The ring was the last physical thing I could remove from my life, like you said holding onto such things don't make a jot of difference to how things are. It's best to let it go. I've realised lately that it doesn't matter what is happening or what is coming in the future, we still had what we had at that moment. Nothing can take the experience away from you and nothing can change what's been and gone. There is only one direction to look and that's forward, hopefully to better things!
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