ziggue Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 My boyfriend of 3 months has recently been distancing himself from me. I am not sure why. Ended up sending a text telling him how much I enjoyed spending time with him the last few days. That was the longest time we had spent together while hanging out as well. I honestly thought things were great between us. When he did get back to me he wrote 'Hi (my name) thanks for the nice message. I enjoyed our time spent also, how ever I do feel there is something lacking with our connection with conversations and ideals. I am wondering if you've felt this too? This is all very hard and confusing. This totally took me by surprise. I was just thought huh? I replied stating my feelings a little bit and mentioning that I thought things were fine. That we can work through this. We have a good thing going. Also mentioned that our relationship meant a great deal to me and is very special to me. Just wanted to make sure he knew that. XX. He mentions 'I'm just at work. So I'm a bit pressed for time. We'll talk soon. Have a great day tomorrow. X. I reply with 'No worries. That we will. You too.' In the morning he wrote 'Morning (my name) I am free Sunday at this stage to catch up if you'd like. 4 people got the sack yesterday (at his job, he works weekends). So there is potential of them asking me to do extra shifts. I mention 'Sunday is fine and if you pick up any extra shifts that day, can meet you after if you would like. Just let me know what is going on.' He responded with 'will do.' It has been a few years since I have been in a relationship. Getting used to the up and down of emotions that come with that again and a bit rusty as well. It has been a few years since he has been in one as well. I am left wondering what is going on in the mean time. Does it seem like he wants to work things out here? Pretty upset about the whole thing. Hoping things get sorted out.
David87 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Hey OP, who knows what he wants to talk about, I'm afraid he is going to dump you, be prepare for that 2
Author ziggue Posted June 27, 2014 Author Posted June 27, 2014 He never said he was actually going to dump me. Just said what he wanted to talk about… But have that in mind, if we can't work through stuff then. Pretty sure he does not either. But he has been a bit distant with this stuff on his mind. Sigh.
Allumere Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Been there, done that....he is checking out or seriously considering it. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Yes I'm afraid it sounds like he feels the relationship is not working and doesn't want to continue it. He is being respectful to you by wanting to talk in person rather than dumping by text/facebook/whatever.
acrosstheuniverse Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Sorry OP, he's going to end it. There's nothing you can do about it. He's trying to prepare you for it with the stuff he's said so far but wants to do it in person. Sometimes people don't both click and aren't right for one another and there's nothing you can do about that.
April Moon Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I have always said it is never a good thing when people tell you they want to talk. I'm sorry OP but he is going to break up with you.
haribogumsnickers Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Yeah if he's been distant recently then a break up could be possible. Do meet up and talk to see what's up. If you notice he's starting his break up speech, then just let him finish and say you didn't know you two were even in a relationship. Say that it was so cute of him and that you'll still be his friend...on facebook. What I would do but I don't advise it. Do what's right for you.
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