After 10 years together husband leaves me on our marriage anniversary!

[Elle1975]

Look I'm not trying to ruin anything though giving them a taste of it has crossed my mind. I'm far more worried, petrified of losing my 'perfect' family, my house and my kids their dad. My youngest kid is autistic and is 7 years old only. How am I supposed to explain him 'daddy has left us'??? My world has imploded and my heart broken. I can't see my kids suffer and for that I'm willing to beg him to return. I'm talking to him like it's all my fault I drove him to an affair. I'm 100% at fault. And if he comes back then I will change. Be subservient, be totally under his rules. And before anymore passes any more judgement on me. YES I AM A COWARD! I was educated, intelligent, lively person. Now I'm just broken. I don't care about myself anymore. I just don't want the children growing up in a broken home. Not sure anyone will understand me or after this post will sympathise with me anymore. So I apologise.

 

He left you, not the kids. Don't make it look that way to the kids, unless this is true, and he never wants to see them. So, do not put the kids in the middle of this. Do not talk to them about your own feelings on the subject. I was caught in the middle of my parents, it was awful. I was asked to pick "favorite".

 

Just because I think there are probably two sides to the story, doesn't mean that I think you hold the entire responsibility of this separation on your shoulder, if any at all. Do you think you guys had issues you could have worked on but didn't?

 

I just wish for you to sit down and think rationally. Talk to a counselor, talk to a lawyer, think with your head.

 

If your husband doesn't want to hear it, then you tried. Your conscious will be clean, and eventually you will be okay. You will be the better person, to your family, and your kids.

 

I know your world came crashing down, but it does get better. Hang in there!

Edited June 27, 2014 by Elle1975

[NeverBeTheSame]

He left you, not the kids. Don't make it look that way to the kids, unless this is true, and he never wants to see them. So, do not put the kids in the middle of this. Do not talk to them about your own feelings on the subject. I was caught in the middle of my parents, it was awful. I was asked to pick "favorite".

 

Just because I think there are probably two sides to the story, doesn't mean that I think you hold the entire responsibility of this separation on your shoulder, if any at all. Do you think you guys had issues you could have worked on but didn't?

 

I just wish for you to sit down and think rationally. Talk to a counselor, talk to a lawyer, think with your head.

 

If your husband doesn't want to hear it, then you tried. Your conscious will be clean, and eventually you will be okay. You will be the better person, to your family, and your kids.

 

I know your world came crashing down, but it does get better. Hang in there!

 

Just a 'small' point - he actually DOESNT want to see his kids coz the new lady says so. I'm not hammering my head for nothing. It's true there is 2 sides to a story but my side is honestly clean and I'm guilty of nothing but complacency. I never thought in a million years he would do the dirty on me. I always thought he was devoted to his family. I'm even willing to believe it's his '7 year itch'!!

 

I would never talk badly of their dad infront of my kids. What example would they show when they grow up? My 7 year old is autistic. For him dad not coming back would be an absurd scenario. He won't believe me anyway. I feel unfortunately he will learn the hard way. Meanwhile all his temper tantrums and emotional issues I will have to deal with.

Edited June 27, 2014 by NeverBeTheSame

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