aussietigerwolf Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 This...this exactly... Yes, it's happened and YES I'd lose interest. Any secure woman with half a brain SHOULD lose interest. When a man starts to go cold 9 times out of 10 is because he thinks the grass is greener somewhere else! He usually only starts to warm back up when his "better option" didn't work out. I REFUSE to be a mans second choice. A man should AT THE VERY LEAST let a woman know he's not interested at the time, that I could respect, but instead they play games and come back acting as if nothing ever happened. I've never been desperate enough to take one back.
HappyLove Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 well sometimes a shy guy might back off a bit if he isn't too sure about himself and is intimidated by the girl. The girl could probably stil tell if the guy is interested if she paid attention though. Well maybe she should use her ninja attention skills to solve world conflict too if she managed to figure that out. People don't have time for BS. You're shy well maybe you need to get help for that before you start dating. I mean if you are shy and managed to be in contact with someone you liked its stupid to blow it. The next guy or girl who puts forth the effort is the one most people are going to go for. Especially these days, just too many games.
Blade96 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I would yes....I don't like games at all...I am honest and sincere.....and direct about what I want. Luckily I met a Russian guy online who was like myself back in january I met him....took a little few months than we admitted we had feelings....and just today we decided to be together as boyfriend and girlfriend.....
guest569 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Definitely. I get the "I've been sooo busy" but if he is interested he will save 1 minute or 10 minutes in his day to say a quick hello. So, my interest level vanishes as quickly as the man.
blueskyday Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 The consensus is: don't go cold and distant on a woman (or man) you like. Don't be afraid to show interest. It's flattering to the right person. If a guy disappears and doesn't communicate, I don't want him. I like good communicators so that's a deal breaker. Doesn't even matter the reason. He didn't communicate. Done. I once dated a guy who disappeared for about a month . I called him once or twice, nothing. When he called weeks later, he said " Sorry we stopped talking." That was it. And WE? Haha! Real women and men don't have time for that crap. So show interest and communicate. You won't scare off the good ones. 4
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 The consensus is: don't go cold and distant on a woman (or man) you like. Don't be afraid to show interest. It's flattering to the right person. If a guy disappears and doesn't communicate, I don't want him. I like good communicators so that's a deal breaker. Doesn't even matter the reason. He didn't communicate. Done. I once dated a guy who disappeared for about a month . I called him once or twice, nothing. When he called weeks later, he said " Sorry we stopped talking." That was it. And WE? Haha! Real women and men don't have time for that crap. So show interest and communicate. You won't scare off the good ones. AMEN!!
Mascara Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Too many people buy into the whole "play hard to get" thing. It only works with insecure people - men and women - who have few options. I've lost count of the times I've lost interest in someone because they went all "hard to get". I'm with someone now who was very clear about his feelings for me from day one. If that scares a woman off, then SHE is not the right one. It has nothing to do with playing games and doing/saying things at certain times.
Diezel Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 How do you show a guy you are interested? Become good at the art of sandwich making. And discover what his favorite kind of beer is. Then make a sandwich and bring him a beer. At work. Wearing the jersey of his favorite football team.
spiderowl Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 You show a guy your interested by interacting with him, communicating with him, following through on plans. This is just how you show a woman you are interested too. Becoming distant is not a good idea unless there is a very good reason that she can see too.
spiderowl Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 AMEN!! Completely agree. I was in touch with a two guys online recently, both of whom showed a lot of interest. One then texted only once in about four days (compare that to guys who will blow your phone up, if you give them your number) and the other guy just hasn't been online. He may have been busy, working, whatever, but I think if you are keen on someone you make an effort to be in touch and don't let work get in the way. If it does, you are not that interested in a relationship. I've stopped communicating with the first guy because I can't bear the one text every few days syndrome and I'm already very wary of the second guy and will step back now. I don't trust him. 1
aussietigerwolf Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Lol I actually have a "better" story than that one. There was this guy seemed to be really into me and just one day he disappeared overnight. Ignored my fb messages even though he was on and my texts. So I just forgot about him 2/3 months later met current bf. Over a year later I get a message from this guy acting like nothing happened... I was not impressed... The consensus is: don't go cold and distant on a woman (or man) you like. Don't be afraid to show interest. It's flattering to the right person. If a guy disappears and doesn't communicate, I don't want him. I like good communicators so that's a deal breaker. Doesn't even matter the reason. He didn't communicate. Done. I once dated a guy who disappeared for about a month . I called him once or twice, nothing. When he called weeks later, he said " Sorry we stopped talking." That was it. And WE? Haha! Real women and men don't have time for that crap. So show interest and communicate. You won't scare off the good ones.
RachR Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 (edited) Yes. I don't go by just a guy's words anymore, I learned to go by actions. If he shows he's interested too, I maintain interest. It's hard, though, when he isn't anymore. I try to make sure I am receptive and have shown interest. But if he's distant... it waivers and goes away. Edited June 28, 2014 by RachR
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