Eternalsadness Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 He broke up with me at the end of Feb and it is now the end of June. I don't feel the emptiness anymore and for the most part i am happy. I can't seem to shake the loneliness feeling sometimes though and i do still think about him. Anyways last night i went on my first date and i had fun and was laughing. Everything went great and he even asked me if i wanted to do something next week. After i got home though for some reason i just starting crying and it wouldn't stop. I started thinking about my ex and wishing it was him that i was with. I haven't cried over my ex in over a month..and now yesterday and today i'm just depressed and i feel like i took a step back in my healing. Is it normal to feel like that after starting to date again? Or i'm starting to wonder that maybe i started dating too soon and i'm just not quite ready for it yet.
learning_slowly Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 My time frame is similar to yours. I do get bad days, but its usually due to a slow day where I have time to think too much. I think I remember reading that he dumped you. So can you not see that being with somebody else that makes you laugh will be better than thinking about somebody that doesn't want to be with you. Yes you may cry after, but I think that will taper off. Maybe explain to your suitor that you had a bad break up and wish to go slow? I would try dating still and go through the crying and have a life on the other side, but it is up to you.
todreaminblue Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 if you can go out on dates and not feel pressured you are ready......but you have to try first going on a date and see how you feel.....i dont mind dating i hate pressure.....gropers and guys that talk to my chest eventually it turns me off if I get two of those inconsiderate and disrespectful dates in a row, i have a break.....i am not a huge fan of dating unknowns.....would prefer to know them and trust them with my personal space and knowing they respect that, or have someone i know who knows of them ......its a safety thing..... trust is paramount.....i date from friends first normally.....so i can relax...and not be en guarde and just have fun and good times with a guy i trust to do the right thing by me......i know when i am ready .....and i know when i am not...if i dont knwo the guy first....its a mistake normally......i do push myself out fo my comfort zone and date outside my friends......but....i am not really myself and doubt the guy would really get to know me at all....which isnt fair.....not on me or them...you wont know you are ready until you try...stay safe have fun...good luck....deb
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