LeTalk Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I met this girl who I really started to like after talking to her for over an hour back in late April. I got her number and messaged her the same night, letting her know that I was glad we met and should hang sometime. She replied and the feelings were mutual. A week later I message her saying, "Hey". She never replied and its been a close to 2 months. After that I haven't sent any other messages since. Should I message her something different? like "so, how have you been?" or should I just forget about it?
d0nnivain Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 If all I got was a one word text from some guy I didn't really know I doubt I'd reply either. Since you have now waited 2 months, your window of opportunity may have closed. By now she may have forgotten about you, assumed you weren't into her, gotten an actual BF who texts more than 1 word or she may have written you off concluding that you don't care about her but you are back now because your 1st choice wasn't available & she's the back up. Reach out -- actually call & ask her to get together. Make it clear this is date. 1
preraph Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 She's done. If a woman is interested, they will not drop the ball like that. She is done. Don't pester her.
Assasda Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 After a week you texted her needy unatractive text messages, that girls never respond to, unless youre already in a relationship with them Youre done, Move on 1
Dallers Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 First step after the first meeting is to nail that first message. I met a girl earlier in the street who I kept bumping into in the coffee shop. I left with a hug and her phone number. Not to mention a coffee. I even screwed up my approach and nearly ended up offering her my number, it didn't matter because the tell was there. I call that a damn good lunch. My first message was my recovery and only needed to be simple and close the deal, straight to the point. I pin point something about her that stands out to me! Not to her, not something she knows she does or has heard it all before but something she displays that I want. "My number. You have so much energy it is overpowering, I'm looking forward to that drink already. x" It really is not hard. The first message just needs to grab the attention of the girl and let her know, I want you and I am better than anyone else drooling over you. By sending a strong first message you know 100% that if she does not engage it is a done deal. With a message like hey there is no confirmation and that is why you want to chase 2 months later. If this girl did not reply to me I would know that it is never going to be, in your case you may well have lost her with that message. Learn from mistakes I would do something like that only a year ago. Learning is the key to success. 1
Elle1975 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I personally think you should have asked her on a proper date. The "hey" was weak. "hey", my mom used to tell me, is what we give to a horse. Next girl, go with "hello, would you like to.." Something straight forward. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I likely wouldn't have responded to "hey" either. No substance there whatsoever. It doesn't hurt to get in touch again, but be warmer and friendlier! "Hey" leaves nothing to go with.
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