fldoglover Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 There is a guy at my Crossfit gym and I think he is absolutely adorable. We've known each other for about 8 months, and he used to always flirt with me until he found out that I had a boyfriend. Unfortunately (or fortunately?), my boyfriend broke up with a few weeks back. He knows it and has been a bit more flirty. He always asks how my weekends went and how work is going. I don't notice him really interact with other members as much as me. I found out that he is 31 though and I am 23. I am very mature for my age, have a very high level position in a major company, responsible and have always dated older men (usually 5-6 years). I am also not one to go out all of the time, getting plastered like some people my age. He is a very nice guy and most of his friends are married. I want to ask him out for causal drinks/dinner, but I don't think he knows the age difference. Do you think it would be a deal breaker?
ain5053 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I was also worried about the same thing when I had a crush on my coworker who was 12 year older than me (34 and I am 22)... But we are now dating. So definitely go for it.
iPhone Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I was also worried about the same thing when I had a crush on my coworker who was 12 year older than me (34 and I am 22)... But we are now dating. So definitely go for it. lol that just isn't gonna work. You'll see... But to the topic creator, I think the odds are heavily against you. The only question is, are you a gambler like ain is?
Andy_K Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I'll be 31 in a couple weeks, and I wouldn't hesitate at all to date a 23 year old. I doubt he will either. If you were 19 then maybe, but you should be a good bit more mature than that now.
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Is this really a serious question? Haven't you heard? Most men LOVE younger women! I have yet to meet a 30-something male pass up an opportunity to date a 20-something woman. Give your head a shake sweetie
Author fldoglover Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 Thanks guys, I'm going to ask him!
deathandtaxes Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Twenty-three years old is quite young compared with a 31-year old, in a lot of ways. A lot of living and maturing occurs in those years. That age difference wouldn't be much to consider at 33 and 41. I'm 36 and even looking at a 28 year old lady is just a big age gap. All that being said, casual drinks or whatnot are very harmless. And if you do go out, don't even mention the age thing at all.
mattny Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 I could go both ways with this. Im in the identical situation as you...like creepily similar lol. Im 31, do Crossfit and theres a girl Ive been chattin with who goes to another gym..but shes 22-23. On one hand, shes amazing and cute. On the other, i was 27 and my ex was 22 when we started dating. Things were great for almost 4 years but we grew apart in many ways...almost gaurenteed you will do the same. I want to keep it as friends with her for now, im tempted to draw the line if we end up making out or things lead to the bedroom. Part of me doesnt want to risk it at my age to invest that much work into a relationship all over again for history to repeat itself when she matures more or realizes she wants to date other people. At that point i could be 35-36....my career would be going full speed ahead and if I end upz single again at that age im putting dating on hold indefinitely and concentrating on my career. I feel like now is my shot to find a woman who wants to come along for the ride...because if I dont soon I wont have the time to...
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