Author zippman Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) Figured i wanted to explain the situation, and i suck at writing text messages, so i think i will send her a message on facebook instead. something like (translated into english): "hey you! as im starting to understand that texting is not my thing i put that aside for the moment. i just wanted to tell you that it was real fun hanging out with you, and i would love to get to know you better as i find you very interesting. i know i'm not always coming off like a serious guy, and sometimes i tend to rush things, but to be honest i had no idea of what i wanted when i met you. i still don't know, we have only met twice, but i would like to find out. as i said, i would love to get to know you better, but not at someones place, but something more relaxed like robbing the post train (she love letters) or walk my neighbours dog (she loved that dog). .or just grab a coffe and take a walk. if you are not interested at all, i understand and it's really cool, but at the moment i feel kind of confused." Edited June 26, 2014 by zippman
ExpatInItaly Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Figured i wanted to explain the situation, and i suck at writing text messages, so i think i will send her a message on facebook instead. something like (translated into english): "hey you! as im starting to understand that texting is not my thing i put that aside for the moment. i just wanted to tell you that it was real fun hanging out with you, and i would love to get to know you better as i find you very interesting. i know i'm not always coming off like a serious guy, and sometimes i tend to rush things, but to be honest i had no idea of what i wanted when i met you. i still don't know, we have only met twice, but i would like to find out. as i said, i would love to get to know you better, but not at someones place, but something more relaxed like robbing the post train (she love letters) or walk my neighbours dog (she loved that dog). .or just grab a coffe and take a walk. if you are not interested at all, i understand and it's really cool, but at the moment i feel kind of confused." Way. Too. Long. Keep it short and sweet. I know you're well-intentioned but the above is just too much.
Author zippman Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) Way. Too. Long. Keep it short and sweet. I know you're well-intentioned but the above is just too much. This is why i hate texting. I always write to much. Could you give some more thoughts on this? Edited June 26, 2014 by zippman
starrynightz45 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 About the only thing you did RIGHT in this whole scenario was the text asking her to get ice cream. That's not needy, that's normal. What happened here is that you were only trying to get into her pants, as is clear by you inviting her over both the 1st and 2nd time. She was interested enough to give you the benefit of the doubt and come over the 2nd time even though she was probably put on her guard by your invite on the 1st date. She came over, it got physical, confirmed that your primary objective is sex and nothing beyond that, and so now she's done because that's not what she wants. Good for her. She's a smart girl, it didn't work. That's about all that happened here.
starrynightz45 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 This is why i hate texting. I always write to much. Could you give some more thoughts on this? I think your next text was OK. But she's still either going to reject you or be on her guard if she agrees to see you again.
ain5053 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 You sound like a "bro"... Most girls don't like that. Write with more intelligence and come off as a gentleman instead of a frat boy on spring break. I wouldn't have replied to you either... 2
SugarLips72 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Your posts is kinda douchey. You sound like "The Ladies Man" from SNL. You tube it if you don't know what I mean. Who talks like "seduction" "vibe" whatever clearly not ever woman thinks you have game. You total sound like a POA. I have NEVER been invited back to an apartment on the first meeting without a guy expecting sex. I don't do it. You come off as too strong. If you are interested in a girl, Instead of asking a girl back to your apt ask for her number and ask her if she would like to have dinner, or a drink with you. 1
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 (edited) You sound like a "bro"... Most girls don't like that. Write with more intelligence and come off as a gentleman instead of a frat boy on spring break. I wouldn't have replied to you either... Yep, I got the same vibe. "Turnoff" is an understatement. Also, I love that the only reasons you were able to conjure up as to why she didn't want to make out with you were her having a boyfriend, being a lesbian, or having HIV. That's some funny sh*t. But seriously, if you come off as even half this douchey and juvenile in real life, I'd start to consider the possibility that maybe she's just not interested (or, you know, she has HIV). Edited June 27, 2014 by kiss_andmakeup 3
Rockafeller Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I'd start to consider the possibility that maybe she's just not interested Impossible. PUA tactics solve this issue. OP, don't try as hard. Remain outcome independent. Remember that she's just a number so writing a post about her confirms that you were more into her than she was into you, thus you lost outcome independence. As an alternative that you may wish to consider, you could just try to be yourself? It won't make the PUA authors any money but it's amazing how being genuine can be attractive to the right partner.
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